alot of you may say "i had a baby at 14/15/16 and im happy" but did you plan it? and honestly if you could go back and relive your teenage years would you? even just untill you was 18/19 before you had children? Because im sure thier are days no matter how much you love your children where you think "i wish i was a child again" because no matter what anyone says or no matter how much growing up you have to do because of situations your still a child at 16, some at 17 i know i sure as hell wasnt mature enough at 17 to have a child. im still struggling to deal with the prospect of it now and im 19.
I do agree with you on this point, many young women ARE capable of having and raising children at even the crisp young age of 13, but the big reason why they shouldn't is because everybody deserves a childhood. I'm not saying you need to regret your children or you ever wish that you hadn't had them, but I'm just saying that everybody has a right to a childhood, not necessarily just going out and getting drunk.. but being able to not have another life on your hands at all times. Please don't take this the wrong way either. I hear exactly what you are saying. I also admire teenage mothers, because being one myself (especially at 15) I know it's not an easy thing to do. Best of wishes all of you.
I have to reply to the point brought up about wanting time again and wanting to re-live younger days...i dont and like ive said before maybe im lucky. But i think its quite funny how someone who hasnt been in that situation is able to try and put into terms how teen mums feel by a few statistics.
I agree with mBLACK...teen mums deserve a LOT more respect and admiration for the grand job they do.
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I have to reply to the point brought up about wanting time again and wanting to re-live younger days...i dont and like ive said before maybe im lucky. But i think its quite funny how someone who hasnt been in that situation is able to try and put into terms how teen mums feel by a few statistics.
I agree with mBLACK...teen mums deserve a LOT more respect and admiration for the grand job they do.
very well said i totally agree.
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my fiancee is 17 18 on t he 22nd and i tell u what hes a better dad to our son then some of my friends are to there kids and there 23/24 i was 19 when i was pregnant and id do it all over again
I'm 16 + pregnant an ok so it wasn't planned but i don't regret keepin him, maybe different situations but i don't regret my decision one bit. i hate the 'stereotype' teenage mums are made out to be, i don't think its fair! they go on the small amount of people they know rather than on average of what teen mums are really like, in my opinion age doesn't make a good mum, its you!
yeh people have there own opinion but when its about teens becomin pregnant i think everyone starts to get a little touchy, because it is a sore subject because of teen mums/mums to be tryin to prove were not all bad.
i also don't think its right that we have to fight to prove us as teens can + will be good mums, age doesnt matter. you could be in your 20s or 30s an a teen could still make (not a better) but different mum, who can look after there babies with no trouble.
Tee hee i got a paper to write on teen mums at uni (part of crime n law rubbish) but going to be fun to write it from a new perspective this year. Sooooo tempted to write at the bottom p.s im a pregnant teen.
Tee hee i got a paper to write on teen mums at uni (part of crime n law rubbish) but going to be fun to write it from a new perspective this year. Sooooo tempted to write at the bottom p.s im a pregnant teen.
when i had my kids at 16 i was married and i never regret having them i would do it all over again but not with the same bloke
Than they wouldn't be your kids.
Ok,so I really don't like judging but when a teenage girl,especially below 18(not to mention 17) comes here and says that she wants to start ttc,that is completely not comprehensible to me.
I cannot give this girl advice,I cannot aprove or pretend that I don't see the circumstances of this.
I don't judge teenage moms,they can do such an amazing job with their children,they should be given credit(the good ones of course) but girls who want to be mothers at ages like 16 and create those hard circumstances on their own,I belive that they shouldn't recive approval...
I agree with Alexandra,they're teenagers and we all know that the emotions that we experience at that age are strong and often misleading...
When those girls come on here,do you think their parents know about it?Do you think that their parents know that they have the intention to bring a child into their home,that they will have to help in raising this child?
Not to mention,using the tax payers money as a way to cope.I wouldn't want my money to be used on a girl who decided that she wants this,who created this herself intentionally.
A woman has to be physically,emotionally and financially ready when she decides that she wants this commitment.
And everyone deserves a childhood,I personally belive that a person has a lot of things to see and experience,to find out about a world before deciding that she want to guide another person through theirs.
You haven't lived your life and had your freedom long enough before you gave it up.
Because whatever you say,a child takes your freedom,nothing you do from that point envolves just you.It's not just your life,it's the life of your family now.
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Best of wishes all of you.
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