Sorry for again not actually being a teenager but still posting in this section!! Seen a few others that have done the same! tut tut tut...
but i sometimes feel like i'm still a teeenager and very young to be pregnant.
Right, i'm completely confused....hence the name.
I'm 22, boyfriend's 25 this week. I live at home with my mum and brother.
Found out at the weekend gone i was pregnant...complete and utter shock and horror...as i'd recieved a negative test about 5 days before! Think i'm nearly two months now...
Basically i'm totally and utterly confused about what to do...
Do i take the easy route out and have an abortion....? This will remove all stress and panic i'm feeling now? But with a risk of messing myself up mentally?!
Or do i give up my decent job and struggle to try and make this work?
My boyfriend wants to have this baby and even though he says he'll support me in whatever my decision i know he'll be devasted if i have an abortion.
I look a lot younger than 22 when i'm not all dolled up, i like to think i'm very mature for my age though.
My main concern is housing and finance problems....
Do you have your own place with your boyfriend? Is it rented or bought? if rented is it private or council/housing association?
Finance wise you'll find that most people came make room for a baby no matter how tight things are.
If youre on a low income you may be able to get a maternity grant and possibly milk tokens too.
Theres also things like child tax credits that you may be entitled to that you could look into too....
There is alot of help out there for having kids and housing stuff, you just gotta find out what youre entitled too and make sure you get it!
How about applying for a council/housing association place?
It might not be ideal at first but its a start to getting your own place and the rent would be a bit cheaper too.
You may be able to get points for overcrowing for either you or your OH and once theres a pregnancy involved, youll get points for that too.
In the meantime, have a look at private rents, you find a good deal somewhere
I was 19 when i had my fist baby but luckily i was in a good relationship (at the time) and we had bought our own place.
I can understand the confusion you are going through, the fact that you are now worrying about how you will cope is good and shows you are responsible
As for living accomodation i too live near london and understand the increased costs involved in living somewhere that is expensive. as arcanegirl said the Local Council is your best bet.
Have you told your parents are they not there to support you and help you. I'm sure they wouldn't expect you to do this on your own. Maybe you can discuss some arrangements with them about staying there till you can get settled.
Hopefully everything will be easier for you as time goes on. Fingers crossed but i think if you havent told your parents now would be a good time
They were obviously shocked but they gave me wise advice and said they'll support me either way BUT ended it indirectly telling me they thought i should have an abortion...hence my confusion!
My mum was really upset yesterday - which is one thing that kills me to see, i think she's worried about losing me
Well i've got a doctors appointment tomorrow - she'll be coming with me as my fellas got work!
xxx
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