My FOB and I have been off and on lately because he isn't sure if he wants to be in the baby's life or not. I finally got fed up with it all and just said I would do adoption to make him happy...but I'm not really going to. I would never even consider it. So basically I just lied to my boyfriend. I'm a freakin moron. Anyway, I just needed to get that out

Aww hun, it must be hard with him constantly on your back. He should be more understanding of the way you feel!
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I agree...He pretty much just told me he wouldn't stay with me if I kept the baby :'(

I know it must be hard... but next time you speak I would come clean about your intentions and tell him either you're in or you're out, if you say you're out, do not speak to me etc... but if you're in, you can't be wishy washy about your decision anymore.

I don't think he's being wishy washy anymore, he flat out told me he wasn't staying with me if I had intentions of keeping the baby. But I'm hoping once he feels her kick or sees her he might change his mind...it's a dumb idea, i know but I really want him to be there with me to raise her.

Hun it's not silly I think it's what every mother wants, for her and the father to work things out and to live as a big happy family <3 I hope that whatever happens things go great for you and baby!

Thank you I hope they do too...

How selfish. It's your baby too, he can't just make demands...no man is important enough (although some might think it!) to demand that a woman go against her wishes for her child, simply to get him to stick around As hard as it is, you stick to what YOU want...tell him and be strong...if he sticks around then he's a real man, if he doesn't....he ain't worth it chick!

Hope he realises what a blessing his child is and that he sticks with you!! He'll be missing out on so much by walking now!

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no man is good enough to ever ever come before your child hun, fuck him, your better off without.

Im sorry to hear this. I understand why you did what you did though hun, but you do need to tell him that your not 100% happy with the decision. Let him know how much its hurting you and how much its tearing you apart to have to choose between him and your growing baby.
He couldnt change his mind once he knows baby is a real baby though. Like hearing the heartbeat and seeing the movements and seeing little one on the Ultrasound screen.
But he would have to stick around long enough to experiance that.
Its true what they say hun, Women become mothers when they find out they are pregnant but guys generally dont become dads untill LO is born. And there is so much truth in it. He doesnt feel the emotions and hormones they your feeling hun so to him there isnt really a baby yet. Im not making excuses for him i just know how some guys react. And this is just his way of dealing with it. I would stick to your guns though. If he comes around the great!!! But if not and you do sometin that you dont want to do, i garentee you will regret it for the rest of your life. And you dont want that..
Be strong hun