I'm getting really annoyed with my OHs Parents, they keep pressuring him to ask me to have an abortion and then tell him stuff like 'oh well try breaking up with her then she'll have an abortion' and now they've bought a one way ticket for him to another country so that he can chill out for as long as he wants. Then he says he needs to get away from it all and he doesen't know what he's going to do yet because he's a mess. I realise that I haven't made it easy for him but I've never wavered from my decision and he has always known where he stood with me but I just feel like I'm being left to hang, to wait for him to bloody well grow up and not run away from the consequences of his actions. All this stuff is just making my depression worse, argh.
First of all, this is your decision, especially when you want to go through with your pregnancy. You have to decide what is best for you.
Don't let your boyfriend or boyfriend's family persuade you into something you don't want to do, especially one that involves stopping the life of a baby.
It must be scary and hard and I truly hope that everything works out for you!
I'm 20. There was no chance I was ever going to change my mind and all I want people to be are supportive, not questioning or being judgemental. I'm an intelligent woman, I've worked through all my choices incredibly carefully, I know my limitations, gahhh.
I have to say I feel for your boyfriend and he must be going mad with all the pressure he is getting from his family. Perhaps it best he does take time away for awhile to figure it all out.
I've never been in your situation and I truly feel for you. At the same time, irregardless of the outcome, you are having a baby and no matter what anyone thinks they want you to do, you are the only one who can decide and it sounds like you made your choice to have this baby.
And I admire you for that!
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You're not a baby.You sound mature and I have no doubt that you're an intelligent woman...
You are completely right for wanting these things.You made your decision and you want people to understand and support you.
You shouldn't let them run around controling your life,especially people that barely know you.
It seems to me like everybody else thinks that this pregnancy is happening to them and nobody even asks you how you're feeling.You are after all the mother!The most important person in this situation!
And your bf's parents are manipulative!
Don't let all this happen,don't let your boyfriend treat you like this or his parents,take control back...
My parents don't support me,my baby's dad's parents don't support me,but my friends and people close to me support me because I made them clear that this is how I want things to be,and I'm not gonna let anyone make me feel confused or upset.
Good luck
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The following user says 'Thanks' to nikky0907 for this post:
I kind of went through the same problems except we broke up and his family was supportive but i let him go so he can think about wat he did and how he wants to solve it so didnt tlk for a while after he notice how important it is to me he called me and tld me that he wanted the responsibility for her he knos i dnt beleive in abortion or adoption so after he had his own time to clear his mind and think about wat he did he made up his mind and decided to be there for her now he keeps calling and askin how im doin and how his baby is he really wants her here already. Maybe u should let him take his own time and let him think about wat he did and how hes going to solve it let him come to u dnt go to him if his family dsnt like it then let them think watever they want cuz they're not the one thats gonna go through so many things its ur choice if u want to keep the baby then keep it they cant force u to do anything do wat u think is right
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The following user says 'Thanks' to Maria+Cookie for this post:
His parents should really butt out, they obviously think they are doing whats best for their son but all of this pulling and pushing will only drive him nuts.
Good luck with it and i hope it works out for you
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The following user says 'Thanks' to polo_princess for this post:
I think my bf's mom was pushing for the same thing. She threatened to take away his car and an engagement ring she gave him a loan for, and a $20,000 downpayment she had saved up for him when he was ready to buy a house.
Sounds charming, doesn't she? I think she's doing better now though.
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