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Old Feb 12th, 2010, 14:02 PM   #1
alysedelovely
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Looks like I might be joining the STMs **UPDATE**


My OH, tim, and I have been together for a little over 6 months.. but lately all he wants to do is fight and I just can't take it being pregnant and all.. Like everyday he finds something else to bitch about. I have 4 guy friends and he is so jealous he can't see past the fact that I'm with him- not them! Whenevr we fight, he brings them up or one of my exs or says something about how I will go out and do drugs.. Needless to say: I'm over drugs and never really did them but he has to shove personal information I told him in my face. He also lacks motivation.. He is living with me and my parents and has gone through 3 jobs in 1.5 months! The new one he works at has practically no business in febraury but he still doesn't think he may need two jobs.. While I bust my butt working for 4 different families as a nanny and work an office job from home.. Then today he checks my facebook and freaks because I was messaging a guy named Russell who is my parents friend but tim thought it was Ross, my guy friend.. Anyhow he storms in there and wakes me up saying how dare you like to me you talked to Ross..

I just don't think it's a healthy environment for me and the baby. What do you all think?


**UPDATE: We both mutually agreed we need to not see each other indefinitely until we figure things out.. so we broke up and we might get back together but he always wants to be in the baby's life and said that no matter what, he wants updates and such.. I just cant stop crying.. gah.**


 
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Old Feb 12th, 2010, 14:46 PM   #2
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He sounds like an insecure person... if he's so worried about you going off with other people, he's definitely not worth your time. My mom's ex boyfriend was like this, and it got to the point where my mom wasn't even allowed to have girl friends over because he thought they were talking about him and whatnot... it's really not fair to your or your LO. I hope you sort through this though, and hopefully whatever action you take will relieve the stress you're feeling.


 
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Old Feb 12th, 2010, 15:05 PM   #3
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It's noT a good environment and I refuse to raise my baby in a hostile and jealous situation


 
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Old Feb 12th, 2010, 15:24 PM   #4
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I agree! Have you thought and decided if you are gonna break it off?
I know how hard it is to have someone unmotivated living with you... lol. My sister is a very unmotivated person, granted she's only turning 17 this July, but she still doesn't do much aside from sitting around. And my OH had lived with me and my family since we began dating, and he was jobless for a good 3 months before I made the effort to find him a damn job. At least he loves it now, and makes good money.

Aside from my little rant: It's not fair for you to be bringing home all the bacon. Even if he does have one job... you could always do better, honey. :P You and your baby deserve better!


 
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Old Feb 12th, 2010, 20:40 PM   #5
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Woah poor you, sounds like you're having a hard time hunni.
Maybe before you make up your mind you should sit him down and have a good talk with him, tell him whats been bothering you and encourage him to express some of his views.
Maybe he's just freaking out and doesn't know how to deal with his own emotions?
What he's doing isn't fair on you and he definitely needs to see that.
Good luck though sweetie, i hope you come to the right decision xxx


 
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Old Feb 12th, 2010, 21:36 PM   #6
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joining the STM isn't such a bad thing


 
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Old Feb 13th, 2010, 11:43 AM   #7
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no, PreggEggo I wasnt saying it was a bad thing ! I've always been jealous of how much fun you all have hahah.


 
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Old Feb 13th, 2010, 11:45 AM   #8
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thank you all for replying to my rant/ whining hhaha.. I am just going to tell him how it is on my side of the relationship and if he doesnt like it, thats his own deal.. but I've felt like I havent had a voice for most of our relationship


 
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Old Feb 13th, 2010, 11:51 AM   #9
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wish you all the best whatever you decide hun he sounds pretty insecure, you'd be better without


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Old Feb 13th, 2010, 11:54 AM   #10
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I all ready know I am. Me and the father were never together. :l


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