I found thud site looking for one who has a good teen mom discussion type thing. I just found out I was pregnant lik 3 days ago but was thinking about it for like a week. I am currently 5 weeks and 4 days pregnant. I'm really scared. I'm thinking about getting an abortion. To save my self from telling my patents,etc. Anybody have any advice on the first couple weeks?

Hi there you will find the girls on here are very helpful. However BnB doesn't allow threads on abortion as it can be very upsetting for some members. Any questions on pregnancy, raising the baby, adoption etc are more BnB style. I certainly wouldnt have an aborton just so you didn't have to tell your parents. I know telling people can be very very hard but you may be surprised at the reactions you get, I know I was! How old are you by the way?

While BabyandBump tries to remain pro-choice on most subjects, out of respect for majority of our members that are either trying to conceive, or pregnant, we ask that you do not discuss topics on abortion and terminations.


Just looked that up for you as it explains it far better than I could

i wont get in depth with this but im very prochoice. People said because i was raped i should have. but i disagree. but i kept her and knows shes my pride and joy. your strong enough to raise this baby. <3

we're all here to support you

Just wanted to say, it may be hard telling your parents but trust me getting an "a" isn't the "easy way out"
Depending how old you are/where you live you might need parents permission to get one anyway.. It's nothing something you can just do and move on never looking back at trust me it's not easy..

I questioned it in the beginning because I thought I could never face my family and friends telling them I was preg at such a young age but you know what, I did it!
Having a close friend or someone with you is a good with telling your parents.. I told my mom first and she was upset but she stood by my side and helped me tell my dad.. and yes it may seem really hard but you feel so much better afterwords and I thought my family would all look at me in shame and such but they're so incredibly supportive (most anyway, the ones that aren't I could care less about them)

Now I'm just over 2 weeks from my due date with a healthy baby boy and my family is behind me 100%

Just keep in mind, you CAN do this it's not completely impossible.

I certainly don't think you should do that to the baby just because your too scared to tell your parents.
I was so worried about telling them, yes they were upset and angry at first - but only for that day! The next day they were making sure i was okay, buying me books, getting me vitamins and everything!
But if you feel you can't raise that child yourself don't abort it out of selfishness (not being rude) but just because your too worried doesn't mean to baby should get the blame.
Technically the best thing to do would be to have this baby and if you feel you can;t love it or look after it enough then put it up for adoption to families which long for a child and will always love it.
x

I had an abortion over two years ago and it was one of the most difficult things I've ever had to go through. If the only reason you want to have an abortion is because you don't want to tell your parents then I personally believe that you'll regret it afterwards. The only thing I can advise you on is tell your parents right away ASAP so you can make a decision about what you want to do. But make sure you make the decision because you want to do it, not because someone else wants you to.

As scary as it is, think through all your options before rushing into something you might regret.

Have you got any family or close friends that you could go to for support?

xx

I would say your making a big mistake if u terminate the baby just because you don't want to tell your parents. If u are not ready to be a mum why the hell are u not using protection?? Abortion is not a use of contraception. It'll affect u for the rest of your life. X