angel666_cade

I NEED HELP FROM ALOT OF PEOPLE BECAUSE I REALLY DUNNO WHAT TO DO!
im a 17 yr old gurl 18 when i would have the baby,with alot of ambitions and alot i want to do in my life and im also a member of my sea cadets and i have alot of responsibilitys
you know something i didnt even find out myself first, my mum found out for me and i really dislike her for this, what do you think mums could you do this to your daughter. the way she done it was bt sayin that after my sedations at the dentist i had to pee in the pot , but really it was to see if i was pregant.
well anyway i went to my local brook clinque and i got my next apoitment for abortion but all my family are very strong christians and are veyr against me, also my bf is telling me that he will stick by me but i really dont know what to do. please help me x

Rachel16+Bump

First of all congratulations!
all i can say is think of both sides abortion or keeping. as you already know if you was going to keep it your mum, family + most of all boy friend would stand by you, so you wouldn't be on your own and you could still have a career and make something of yourself it will just take a few extra years to get there. but if you want to make something of yourself first and know when your ready and then start having kids in a few years time... the choice is yours just make sure you know in your heart + head your making the decision thats right for you.
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angel666_cade

thankyou rachel, i just really do not know what to do. i hope everything is good with your baby. how did your mum and dad act when they found out but congrats hun x

ella170

im 17 too, still at school, catholic n also have lots of ambitions in my life. last month i posted on here something similar to u, because i was so stuck between keeping the baby and having an abortion. i spent weeks thinking about it and at one point was very close to deciding in having an abortion. but, deep down i knew i would regret it when im older- i fort 'what if i cant have kids when im older?' i believe everything happens for a reason nd so i decided to keep the baby, cos some ppl spend years trying for a baby nd i got pregnant while still being really careful! im still shittin it and ive started thinking about adoption, but im happy i can give my baby life. gd luck in ur decision, i hope u choose whats best for u xxx

Rachel16+Bump

I didnt know what to do at first it took me 6 weeks makin my mind up, in fact it took me to be sittin in the abortion clinic room adn watchin every girl cum out holdin ther stomach cryin there eyes out an thats when i realised i cudnt get rid of my baby.
Jaydens (baby) is doin really good, doesnt stop movin long enough for me to keep comfy like haha! only got 12 weeks left til am in pain (LABOUR -- AHHH!) haha.
my auntie told my mum an she went mad bu when me mum saw how scared i was she hugged me an asked if i was ok bu i knew how disappointed she was because im only 16. my dad on the other hand (not goin into detail) i dont really speak to him because of our past together but he knows and he doesnt care but i dont care about him so it evens out haha.

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angel666_cade

oh i see, well my mum and dad know and i knt really speak 2 my mum because she is wel out of order 4 doin what she did to me. wow so you was in the abortion clinque, that must have been scary yeah i just dont know what to do, my bf was like if you dont want it i wil take it off ur hands as soon as its born and all dis lol.

well ella im 10wks aswel lol, so much in common lol, so really you dont know what your stil going to do, i just dont want to regreat having the baby wen i dont think i want it but then again i dont think i want to live with the
WHAT IF!!!

Rachel16+Bump

[quote=angel666_cade;345677]oh i see, well my mum and dad know and i knt really speak 2 my mum because she is wel out of order 4 doin what she did to me. wow so you was in the abortion clinque, that must have been scary yeah i just dont know what to do, my bf was like if you dont want it i wil take it off ur hands as soon as its born and all dis lol.

Lol wish my babys dad would even offer that! nah i dont really i love my baby already, sounds mad tha i used to say id never av kids but now am like awww i love my baby n tha haha.
yeh your mum was out of order because she should av spoke to u about it first and then got you to do a test wen you was redii.
xx

angel666_cade

hun your baby has you and that is the best thing about it

ella170

do u know how far the baby is developed at 10 weeks? have a look on the internet if u dont cos after knowing tht, i wouldnt be able to have an abortion now. sorry, im not tryna put u off having an abortion, it might just be worth looking at now rather than later. im thinking about adoption because that way my life doesnt have to change (apart from no smoking n drinking while pregnant) and my baby can be looked after by a couple who are going to give my baby everything he/she could want and give it things tht i cant. i dont know if ill be able to give it away though, cos i dont know how im gonna feel in 7 months time!
u will automatically love the baby if u have it because its just a natural feeling tht mothers feel. i know wat u mean about the what if... but then if u had the baby u could also think, what if...
its such a hard situation to go through at such a young age and last month, i was changing my mind literally every hour.
10 weeks too yh? did u concieve on valentines day aswell lol?x

angel666_cade

yeah well it was a nice day lol, so wen urs due then because i got told it will be nov. yeah adopting is a good thing to do aswel bcause your helping another family out but what about when the baby was older what would you say and yeah as you say who knows what you feel in 7mnths time its quite long lol.
i just read your little diagram and i just dont know what to do
arghhhhh