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dontworry · Feb 6th, 2010, 16:01 PM

It's usually only great guys that go for ladies with kids. :P Those guys usually love kids themselves, and they're sweet and kind and always supportive. You might not find him immediately, but it'll happen!!

Charlotteee · Feb 6th, 2010, 16:04 PM

Well you got a good head on your shoulders hun. If he can dump you by text and not care then he aint worth it. Can your brothers gf not go with you?? After all you'll be going through the journey together xx

katzone · Feb 6th, 2010, 17:43 PM

Hi,

Just wanted to show you some support, I was 17 when I fell pregnant with my first and luckily my boyfriend (now husband!) stuck by me.

I have to say the father sounds as though he is trying to trick you into having an abortion ... like he will get back with you then dump you again afterwards.

I'm sure you'll be ok

fuffyburra · Feb 6th, 2010, 18:02 PM

I agree with katzone, it does sound a bit like a trick :/ If he buggers off again you might regret the decision to have an abortion, a loving relationship with your baby is far more important than a few short weeks with him until he gets bored again. You sound like you'll do really well on your own, and if a guy you like in the future isn't willing to accept you for who you are then they're not worth it! You sound super lucky to have such a wonderful supportive family, and I hope whatever choice you make makes you really happy

Best of luck lovely xx

annawrigley · Feb 7th, 2010, 11:33 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by dontworry

It's usually only great guys that go for ladies with kids. :P Those guys usually love kids themselves, and they're sweet and kind and always supportive. You might not find him immediately, but it'll happen!!

exactly what i was going to say

anyone who isnt interested just because you have a kid/are pregnant is really not worth it in the long run are they?

xx

thedog · Feb 7th, 2010, 12:16 PM

Of course you will find someone hun, no man is worth the hassle if they give you a choice such as that. It will be difficult, but it will also come natural to you.
How far along are you?x

Tezzy · Feb 7th, 2010, 14:14 PM

you can do anything if you put your mind to it x

Pixxie · Feb 7th, 2010, 16:08 PM

If he really loved you he would come back anyway! Stick to your decision, dont let him change your mind

Good luck xx

Green373 · Feb 7th, 2010, 18:07 PM

I'm really sorry to hear this dear. I'm also 16, turning 17 in march. I haven't had any support from the father or my family.
But they both needed to know.
You should tell the father, even though he may deny you and your child. He should still know. It's good that your family supports you, and can openly joke about it.
As for your friends, if all they can do is look down apon you then they don't sound like too great of friends. If they cannot be there for you and support you then they don't need to be a part of your life.
This is a very emotional experience as I am leading myself, and I'm sure it all will take getting used to, if you ever need to talk or just rant to someone, send me a message.
I'm here to talk

hope everything goes well for you

Green373 · Feb 7th, 2010, 18:35 PM

Im sorry about the father wanting you to get an abortion but really, it seems like he just wants it all to disapper, if he really cared about you then he would accept you with child. Sounds like a set up to me, like he just doesn't want to deal with it,
and honestly no one can make this decision for you, yes it's unfair for him to ask this of you. But really hun, the decision is up to you, but do not base that desicion just on the chance that hE may get back with you. Nothing in life is gaurenteed.

Feb 6th, 2010, 16:01 PM	#21
dontworry Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: California Posts: 2,752	It's usually only great guys that go for ladies with kids. :P Those guys usually love kids themselves, and they're sweet and kind and always supportive. You might not find him immediately, but it'll happen!!

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Feb 6th, 2010, 16:04 PM	#22
Charlotteee Other BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 7,653	Well you got a good head on your shoulders hun. If he can dump you by text and not care then he aint worth it. Can your brothers gf not go with you?? After all you'll be going through the journey together xx

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Feb 6th, 2010, 17:43 PM	#23
katzone Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Devon, UK Posts: 1,187	Hi, Just wanted to show you some support, I was 17 when I fell pregnant with my first and luckily my boyfriend (now husband!) stuck by me. I have to say the father sounds as though he is trying to trick you into having an abortion ... like he will get back with you then dump you again afterwards. I'm sure you'll be ok

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Feb 6th, 2010, 18:02 PM	#24
fuffyburra Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: West Sussex, England Posts: 2,138	I agree with katzone, it does sound a bit like a trick :/ If he buggers off again you might regret the decision to have an abortion, a loving relationship with your baby is far more important than a few short weeks with him until he gets bored again. You sound like you'll do really well on your own, and if a guy you like in the future isn't willing to accept you for who you are then they're not worth it! You sound super lucky to have such a wonderful supportive family, and I hope whatever choice you make makes you really happy Best of luck lovely xx

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Feb 7th, 2010, 12:16 PM	#26
thedog Trying to conceive (TTC) Inactive Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Manchester, UK Posts: 1,075	Of course you will find someone hun, no man is worth the hassle if they give you a choice such as that. It will be difficult, but it will also come natural to you. How far along are you?x

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Feb 7th, 2010, 14:14 PM	#27
Tezzy Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: North Wales Posts: 11,131	you can do anything if you put your mind to it x

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Feb 7th, 2010, 16:08 PM	#28
Pixxie Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Salford, UK Posts: 6,685	If he really loved you he would come back anyway! Stick to your decision, dont let him change your mind Good luck xx

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Feb 7th, 2010, 18:07 PM	#29
Green373 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Utah Posts: 272	I'm really sorry to hear this dear. I'm also 16, turning 17 in march. I haven't had any support from the father or my family. But they both needed to know. You should tell the father, even though he may deny you and your child. He should still know. It's good that your family supports you, and can openly joke about it. As for your friends, if all they can do is look down apon you then they don't sound like too great of friends. If they cannot be there for you and support you then they don't need to be a part of your life. This is a very emotional experience as I am leading myself, and I'm sure it all will take getting used to, if you ever need to talk or just rant to someone, send me a message. I'm here to talk hope everything goes well for you

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Feb 7th, 2010, 18:35 PM	#30
Green373 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Utah Posts: 272	Im sorry about the father wanting you to get an abortion but really, it seems like he just wants it all to disapper, if he really cared about you then he would accept you with child. Sounds like a set up to me, like he just doesn't want to deal with it, and honestly no one can make this decision for you, yes it's unfair for him to ask this of you. But really hun, the decision is up to you, but do not base that desicion just on the chance that hE may get back with you. Nothing in life is gaurenteed.

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