Archies Mummy

this is such a tricky situation if you feel strong enough to cope hun then id say go for it. Im gutted your on your own, but blackpool is a little far for me to come to scans with you, lol. What about your bros gf?

dontworry

That's harsh! And understandable. I still think he should know, just because he should have to send some money or something at least. I don't know how it works there, but they have to pay child support if you live in the states. It's gonna be scary for a bit, but it's good you have a supportive family and all - maybe your brother's girlfriend can go with you to the scans, if you're close at all?

samswims

she works full time atm.

Mellie1988

don't be scared hun!

Sorry to hear babys daddy is abit of a tosser! , pretty sure you can do it on your own though least your family being supportive & it will be nice to go through the whole pregnancy with your brothers g/f and obviously if you got any Qs then post on here, someone is always able to help!

As for scans and mw appts, I had to goto most of mine on my own, my bf works full time and he couldn't get the time off most of the time....its not that scary honestly!

Oh & I agree with PP, you need to tell father of baby really, he will only find out of someone else anyway and might be mad? Also he has to pay child maintenance...i'd just tell him you don't want him to be a part of the babys life as you dont want him to let them down!

Good luck!
x

samswims

thanks girls. thanks 4 the support aswell

allier276

i dunno if it makes you feel any better, but i've had to go to all my scans on my own, because my mum works full time and can't get enough time off and my OH always has work and can't get time off
but in a way it's nice cause you can ask anything you want and not care about anyone thinking your stupid cause the midwives have had these questions millions of times before.. i also was scared as anything at my 12 week scan and ended up crying cause i thought soemthing was wrong with my bub.. but they got a nurse to explain everything to me.. which they wouldn't have probably done if i was with someone..
and also it sounds silly but you get to know before anyone else, and you get too tell everyone else the news.. which is quite fun!!
i'd also agree - tell the father of the baby.. you can tell him you don't want him to have anything to do with it if that's what you want, but if he does, then advise visits with you, that way your bub can't get rejected as much.. but you'll probably really need him to pay child support...
Oh and CONGRATULATIONS.. it's really hard, and sounds soo scary, but honest it's not, and you will meet loadsa people.. and people who turn their noses down at you, aren't lucky enough to be having your bubba!
xxxxxxxxxx

(sorry for the essay - hope i helped - feel free to PM me if you wanna chat or anything)

samswims

iv been in touch with my baby's dad. and he says he still loves me. nd wants 2 get back with me. but only if i get an abortion. i stil care about him. he says we arnt ready 4 this nd we will have them wen we r older. im nt sure if i can trust him

haley09

thats never the answer so i wouldnt listen to him

dontworry

Never trust a man that gives you a ridiculous ultimatum like that. That is not fair to you. Be strong, love! There are other men in the world that will genuinely love you, and will support you and every decision you make for yourself. You can do this!

samswims

but nt many great guys wil go 4 a teenager with a kid