I'm not gonna judge you or anything, I'm 19 and pregnant with my first. It wasn't planned and I wouldn't change anything, but I think TTC at 16 may be a little young perhaps? I don't know what your situation is, but a baby cost A LOT of money, and it also brings a big change into your life. You may wanna think about it a bit more and make sure this is what you really want! You gotta ask yourself a lot of questions too such as : Are you able to support a child financially? What are your career goals and how are you planning on achieving them with having to take care of a little one at the same time?
Hopefully you make a decision that is good for you and your future. Good luck!
Summer_sun I think you should atleast wait until you're both stable with money and living together. And you have to realise that when you have a baby you can't just go out and see friends like you can now, you can't spend all the money on clothes etc for your self, you have to be totally unselfish and put the child first. There's no looking back, a baby will grow up into a child, they don't stay cute and small forever. What will you do about money, childcare etc?
As long as you have thought these things through fully and know you can support the baby without relying on other people, then go for it.
I agree with the other's that have said you should wait until you're finacially ready. Babies can aslo put alot of stress on a relationship. The only reason I had my son young is because it was an accident, so I planned number two after that when I realised we coped as a couple and we were sorted out finacially and I also now own my own home.
But good luck with it, remember babies may only need love, but they need warmth and saftey aswell.
I agree with the people on here, 16 is a very young age to be having a baby. i was 17 when i fell pregnant it was unplanned but i wanted him so much. We went through so much stress and trouble to try and get everything we needed to support mason. it costs a hell of a lot of money, and you cant keep living at your parents house forever with the baby. My oh is working full time and i work part time but come towards end of the month we struggle like hell as we are private renting (the council dont help). You need to really think about what you are doing. You and your boyfriend have plenty of years to live your life together make sure hes definately the one you want your baby with. have fun while you can.. I sit back sometimes and although i wouldnt change it for the world i do miss seeing my friends whenever i wanted,getting my hair done all the time etc.
its a life changing thing having a baby and you need to grow up very quickly.
I am sorry if I sound like a bitch, but I honestly cannot support actively TTC at 16.
It might seem like a good idea to you at this time, but down the road you will realize that there is much more to it.
I live in a 3 bed privately rented house with my Fiance. We have been together for 4 years and i can't imagine being with anyone else.
We both work full time, and i am still attending college part time 2 evenings a week working towards a degree in accounting.
I know that money isn't everything but at 16 i had nothing in the way of money and was only just leaving home and finishing school and establishing my way in the working world. Although this baby wasn't planned i can say that it hasn't been too hard for us so far as we both have good wages coming in and a stable home ready for the baby.
I would advise you to wait a little until your able to stand on your own two feet, save up a bit of money, then try for a baby. At least then, you will be able to afford a baby :-)
I am sorry if I sound like a bitch, but I honestly cannot support actively TTC at 16.
It might seem like a good idea to you at this time, but down the road you will realize that there is much more to it.
I have to agree with your post.
I just can't fathom my own daughter when she hits 16 to start trying for a baby. I'd have to think that perhaps I didn't give her the love she needed, the attention she needed, etc. And I would be shocked!
Babies change your life completely and they are a lot of hard work, even when you are in your thirties like I am. I could not imagine having a baby at 16 let alone trying for one. I had a lot of growing up to do at that stage!
Do you know anyone who has a baby? Seriously, perhaps you should take care of a baby for a few days and you will perhaps see what having a baby entails.
Everyone's posts/replies make sense to me, 16 is a very young age to try for a baby and i dont know how you are financially stable.
I remember feeling very broody at 16/17, and at the time it crossed my mind....im so glad now that i didnt. Im now pregnant with my first, at the age of 23...im ready in the sense that im in a stable relationship, we have our own place, he's got a good job to support us etc and eerything feels right. going back to when i was 16-i def wasnt ready.
Pregnancy=changes, big ones....a baby is a huge responsibility. Forget the cute thoughts, they cry/poo/need lots of attention etc and you cant just dump them with someone else when it gets tough.
Good luck with everything, have a good long think about everyones replies-because it does make sense.
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