so im already 16 and pregnant, gave up my position as cheer captain and vice-president to dance company. finally told my mom that im pregnant , ya she kicked me out like i knew she would. so im living with my best friend. The father isnt even talking to me, he says he needs time to adjust, that his first time he got someone pregnant, and hes pretty much telling people that the only reason he had sex with me is because i "forced" him.that its crap, its crap its all crap, ive taken responsibility for my actions and i realize that its not my life that matters at the moment, it is the life of my unborn child that means most. i just cant take it that the person i care so much about, cant even support me, hes blaming it all on me , pretty much saying that it was my doing and that i must deal with it. walking the halls and seeing him, not knowing what hes thinking is killing me. i havent told anyone but my best friend my mom and well the father, i feel like the fewer amount of people who know at this point the better, i just really wish he could help me here. i feel so alone, like there is no one i can go to. we were able to talk about it before, and make a plan, but he just treats me like shit now, everytime i want to talk he litterally said " i have somethign better to do" im waking up puking my guts out everynight, feeling like crap throught the day and still going to school. can he not understand how hard this is for me!?!?! I mean whats it going to be like when my baby is here, i dunno what to think or do at this point. advice anyone?

i dont have any advice Hun, but im so sorry your mom kicked you out and all this is happening to you , the People on BNB are really helpful though

Jeeze, he's a bit harsh, but like everyone always says - girls mature way faster than boys, and maybe he's just not ready and willing to become a man just yet. If you ever need to talk, you can PM me or email me, anytime. I know the girls (and boys! lol) who are here are always very welcoming and sweet. Best wishes.

sorry about the FOB, i have one a bit like that :P and with regards to ur mum maybe u could try and call her ask if u can go and talk? she is ur mum after all and they usually do after a while its taken almost 4 months for my dad to talk to me again. I think its great how mature ur being about everything and now you have just got to show your mum that you can handle this. Can i ask how far gone you are? the next step will be telling your school, the puils wont have to know but once the teachers kno they will be able to start helping a bit. For what its worth my FOB is now denying my baby is his, and I have cut him out of my life as much as i can for now, as soon as i started planning the future with just me and LO in it everything became a lot easier without him messing things up. Good luck babes xx

Awh hun Didn't want to read and run, but I really can't think of any advice for you I do, however, think that you're doing a fantastic thing by putting your baby first, and that your mum will come around eventually. If the FOB isn't nice enough to take care of you, then he wouldn't have been a good dad to have around for the baby anyway. I know it must be really hard for you, but it sounds like you're being a really great mum already, and nobody could ask you to do anything else. You'll be fantastic, darling xx

aww hunny ....
your being really responsible well done. as someone else said i would try talking to your mum, i was 15 when i was pregnant and my mum kicked me out. in my town we have family workers and housing workers etc and i got so much help. i would try find out about this in your town? go to the jobcentre or your doctor?
deffinately tell your school, they need to know becuase they do a safety assesment, i sat my gsce's in a private room with fans and drinks and i was able to go to the toilet when i wanted, unlike being in a big hot hall in a really small space.
if you cant move back in with your mum your 16 now so you should be able to get your own place by the council, youll be priority cuz your homeless and pregnant and only 16. if they cant house you quickly then u can private rent and claim housing benefit. you can also start claiming income support soon, i think from 26 weeks of your pregnancy and that means you get £500 towards baby stuff. Theres lots of help out there and it really helps to take it. i had someone set up all my bills for me and help me sort out a budget and everything, i was only 16 and didnt know them things.
and the babies father....i dont really know what to say, my sons dad has been an idiot, he was around for ages, not through the pregnancy and not until ash was about 8months did he show up and then disappear, but ive made sure he has always payed, and he has even though he wasnt around.
things will get better, keep positive xxx

Huni, im really sorry about what happened.
He sounds like i right jerk.
I hope he'll eventually start talking!!
xxx

I wouldnt waste your time with him to be honest, I know hes the father but if he isnt showing any respect for you then he isnt worth it. You have more important things to worry about then wasting your time with a boy who isnt mature enough to have a proper conversation with you. Boys can be really immature sometimes, but prove him wrong by doing good by your baby.
As for your mum, Im sure she will come around, ur her child and she loves you.
Can you not talk to your friend about it, if shes the only one who knows Im sure she will be supportive for you, after all isnt that what friends are for?
Im sorry your going through abit of a rough time at the moment, but Im sure things will turn around. Everything happens for a reason. Every child is a blessing no matter what your age.
xx

I do talk to my friend about it when she's willing to listen, but she dances 5 nights a week from about 6-10 so the only time I really see her is during school and that isn't the most pleasant place to talk about it. We have the weekend but I sleep alot now and she usually goes to hangout with her boyfriend. Today a few hours ago the father came to talk to me. Ofcourse it was an awkward conversation, he apologized but he still pretty distant. But if he is willing to try I'm willing to let him. Do guys normally handle the news like this? They just freak out and shut down? He hasn't told his parents yet and I don't want to force him to. I'm just really confused about everything at the moment.