Its making it soo much worse ( need to vent) - Page 2

Mellie1988 · Jan 28th, 2010, 15:35 PM

Just wanted to send u some hugs....hope things get better

x x

pudgies · Jan 28th, 2010, 15:38 PM

Sweetie congrats on taken on all this responsibility!
You're a brave girl doing this on your own, especially seeing as your Mum has kicked you out and you've had to give up a lot already!
Let FOB have some more time to think, don't stress out over him, just think about how you and this baby are going to get through the next few months, sort out your own plan, and don't factor him in supporting you or being with you.
That way if it turns out he wants nothing to do with you + baby then you already have your plan and if he does, well then you've got extra help.
Good luck sweetie

pudgies · Jan 28th, 2010, 15:38 PM

Sweetie congrats on taken on all this responsibility!
You're a brave girl doing this on your own, especially seeing as your Mum has kicked you out and you've had to give up a lot already!
Let FOB have some more time to think, don't stress out over him, just think about how you and this baby are going to get through the next few months, sort out your own plan, and don't factor him in supporting you or being with you.
That way if it turns out he wants nothing to do with you + baby then you already have your plan and if he does, well then you've got extra help.
Good luck sweetie

pudgies · Jan 28th, 2010, 15:40 PM

Oops double post :P

Mystique26 · Jan 28th, 2010, 15:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Green373

so im already 16 and pregnant, gave up my position as cheer captain and vice-president to dance company. finally told my mom that im pregnant , ya she kicked me out like i knew she would. so im living with my best friend. The father isnt even talking to me, he says he needs time to adjust, that his first time he got someone pregnant, and hes pretty much telling people that the only reason he had sex with me is because i "forced" him.that its crap, its crap its all crap, ive taken responsibility for my actions and i realize that its not my life that matters at the moment, it is the life of my unborn child that means most. i just cant take it that the person i care so much about, cant even support me, hes blaming it all on me , pretty much saying that it was my doing and that i must deal with it. walking the halls and seeing him, not knowing what hes thinking is killing me. i havent told anyone but my best friend my mom and well the father, i feel like the fewer amount of people who know at this point the better, i just really wish he could help me here. i feel so alone, like there is no one i can go to. we were able to talk about it before, and make a plan, but he just treats me like shit now, everytime i want to talk he litterally said " i have somethign better to do" im waking up puking my guts out everynight, feeling like crap throught the day and still going to school. can he not understand how hard this is for me!?!?! I mean whats it going to be like when my baby is here, i dunno what to think or do at this point. advice anyone?

I totally despise guys who dont take responsibility for their action. He can't blame everything on you! It takes 2 to tango, so he cant just say that u made the baby all by yourself. But I must say, it's very admirable of you to decide to keep the baby and tell your mom about it. Your mum may be mad for now, but just give her time. No matter what happens, you are still her baby and she will always love you. You baby is a gift from heaven. Cherish every moment with him/her. Never mind the b*stard!!! Good luck to you. You can also PM me if you need to talk or just vent out or something.

annawrigley · Jan 28th, 2010, 17:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Green373

Do guys normally handle the news like this? They just freak out and shut down?

unfortunately yes, a LOT of them (especially at our age) do

thankfully though a lot of them also do come round and step up to the mark.
i think its a good sign that he had the conversation with you and said he was willing to try, even though hes being distant atm. i hope he does the right thing by you and your baby!!

xx

lily123 · Jan 28th, 2010, 18:45 PM

Hi hunni.

If i'm honest, FOB sounds like a complete idiot, but i suppose he's just acting his age. If i were you i'd concentrate more on getting your relationship with your mom back on track first, and give FOB time to stew!

Hope everything works out

xxx

bumps_a_daisy · Jan 28th, 2010, 19:01 PM

sorry to hear things are hard at the moment
Wont there be some kind of support that your school, doctor, advice lines could offer??
Im here if you want to talk.
xxxx

Jan 28th, 2010, 15:35 PM	#11
Mellie1988 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Manchester Posts: 3,191	Just wanted to send u some hugs....hope things get better x x

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pudgies AutoSignup (SAAB) Inactive Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Lincolnshire Posts: 368	Sweetie congrats on taken on all this responsibility! You're a brave girl doing this on your own, especially seeing as your Mum has kicked you out and you've had to give up a lot already! Let FOB have some more time to think, don't stress out over him, just think about how you and this baby are going to get through the next few months, sort out your own plan, and don't factor him in supporting you or being with you. That way if it turns out he wants nothing to do with you + baby then you already have your plan and if he does, well then you've got extra help. Good luck sweetie

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pudgies AutoSignup (SAAB) Inactive Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Lincolnshire Posts: 368	Sweetie congrats on taken on all this responsibility! You're a brave girl doing this on your own, especially seeing as your Mum has kicked you out and you've had to give up a lot already! Let FOB have some more time to think, don't stress out over him, just think about how you and this baby are going to get through the next few months, sort out your own plan, and don't factor him in supporting you or being with you. That way if it turns out he wants nothing to do with you + baby then you already have your plan and if he does, well then you've got extra help. Good luck sweetie

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pudgies AutoSignup (SAAB) Inactive Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Lincolnshire Posts: 368	Oops double post :P

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Jan 28th, 2010, 18:45 PM	#17
lily123 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Good old North Yorkshire ;) Posts: 3,372	Hi hunni. If i'm honest, FOB sounds like a complete idiot, but i suppose he's just acting his age. If i were you i'd concentrate more on getting your relationship with your mom back on track first, and give FOB time to stew! Hope everything works out xxx

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Jan 28th, 2010, 19:01 PM	#18
bumps_a_daisy Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Aberdeenshire Posts: 494	sorry to hear things are hard at the moment Wont there be some kind of support that your school, doctor, advice lines could offer?? Im here if you want to talk. xxxx

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