but i have to

situations at my parents house arent the best for Willow.
OH's making me move with him an hour away from my family
he told me last night he's moving with them and taking Willow.
he's giving me millions of trys to make things better here .. but no one cares to change them.
my sister (whos 16) smokes weed ALL the time with her friends in the front yard.
cops have been here several times because of it and hes afraid that the cops are gonna come and arrest everyone in the house and take Willow to government care.
which is his worst fear because as a child he was put in government care.
i dont want this to happen but i dont understand why he cant get a REAL job and we can get our own place.
he goes out with SIL all the time and does stupid shit for money!
they purposely got into a car accident to make some money of the insurance company.
its STUPID! hes gone ALL day when they do these things and im pretty much alone when hes gone.
if its like that at the new house with his

huge
cant your mum kick your sister out or something?! or give her an ultimatum, or do SOMETHING to stop her smoking weed right outside your house??
it seems so unfair you have to uproot your whole life and move an hour away to somewhere which frankly doesnt sound fit for you,let alone your LO, because of her rebellion or whatever it is shes trying to prove...
i mean i know you wont be able to stop her doing it but if she could at least not keep doing it in full view of everyone, especially when it keeps getting the police called!
im sorry i dont have much help to offer, i just hope things get sorted and you dont have to move there
Xx

I wish I could give you advice but i dont have anything but biiiiig hugs

i honestly think nothings going to change here. ive talked to my dad and hes like oh if anyones getting arrested it me blah blah blah .. bascially beating around the bush.
i think in there heads... they'd rather her do it around here so they know shes safe instead of running around the street doing it.
she changed SO MUCH after Willow was born but that lasted like 3 weeks and she went back to her old self. shes even selling weed now but my parents NEVER believe me.
my 11 year old sister sleeps in the same room with her and she said theres people coming to her window in the middle of the night getting weed. she was playing with one of her stuffed animals and found a baggy of weed. its unbelievable!

my moms tried. but no one listens to her. she told my sister and her boyfriend if me OH and LO move because of them shes going crazy on them .. but wtf is that gonna do?

looks like im gonna be stuck in a place i dont wanna be.
OHs mom calls LO a little bitch! i know its playing around but i dont want my daughters first word to be bitch! his nephew walks around screaming cuss words like its cool and hes only 4! i DONT want my LO to be ANYTHING like that.

thankss

aw thats shocking :/ i guess if shes in that rebellious phase nothings gonna change her unless she just chose to snap out of it?
and your 11 year old sister shouldnt have to be exposed to that either!
god your OHs mum sounds awful
Xx

double post

shes not horrible .. she means well and shes always been nothing but a SWEETHEART to me .. but i dont want that for my daughter. to grow up thinking its ok to be calling people names.

plus there religion i dont agree with. i dont even know what its called!
they have vases and cauldrons EVERYWHERE and you cant touch them.
you cant yell in the house or whistle in the house
they have people come over and do seance's

i just wish OH would focus on what we need to focus on and get our own place!
this is insane. i know if i go there im just going to be really depressed and im not gonna wanna do anything. i dont want to be around that and i dont want my daughter being around that.

ugh

OMG!! Sweetie

Talk about caught between the devil and the deep blue sea

I really don't know what to suggest - if you were in the UK then it would be relatively easy to get you into emergency accommodation and your own place, but I just don't know how other systems work so I've no advice to offer at all ...... just loads of great BIG HUGS

xxxx

omg how horrible this must be for you
i really dont know what to say... but if i was in your situation i would weigh up the pros and cons of both places and see which seems like the better place to live. If your living at your in laws then at least you could make it a bit less filthy with out having to be rude... put your foot down on which one you think is best...