i know. i move next friday. still havent told my mom. and i have NO CLUE how to tell her because i know shes going to be heartbroken. and thats just going to break my heart.

she came home from work yesterday and i was outside in the yard with Willow and my youngest sister and my lil sister got Willow to laugh for the first time and i was in tears because i was so happy! my mom got teary eyed as she heard her laugh again and said
" i cant wait to come home from work and walk into your room with ashley (my lil sis) having Willow cracking up" .. that just broke my heart.

my mom and i are really close. i just dont know how to tell her

have you tried having a heart to heart with your sister say to her what her behaviour is going to do to you have you tried saying to her if your goin to do this can you at least do it away from the house sounds awful hun i really feel for you x is there no scheme your government do over there

yeah ive tried. and each time shes blown me off and basically said F**K you.
ugh. its to the point where OH doesnt think shell ever change and doesnt wanna take the chance anymore. he just wants to leave.

Hun... sounds like you are caught between a rock and a hard place.

I think you need to have a heart to heart with your OH. His priority needs to be getting a job. Does he plan to do these little schemes for money forever? And set a horrible example for Willow? Or to live with his family forever? TBH with all the other children there too it sounds kind of crowded. And you sound like you know you can't be happy living there.. you should not have to raise Willow in an environment you are not comfortable with around a religion that is totally foreign to you with all sorts of rules that you could be breaking and not know it (ie whistling.. yelling in the house etc)

It's so hard to have a sibling like that.. when you know that they need to be the ones kicked out in a way so they can learn a lesson and grow up.. but then it's not as simple as that because your parents can't give them the boot to keep you.. my sister is similar What about writing your mum a letter? That way you can communicate all that you want her to know and everything you have to say <3.

Is there any gov't help you can get? To maybe move out on your own? I have no idea how it works in the States, Canada doesn't give you a ton of money but it's enough to live off if you really try.

well theres a thing called section 8. and the only way i can get a place is if my OH goes and gets looked at by a mental doctor for his PTSD ( he was in the army and was shot twice in the chest and every since then he's had PTSD.) and tell the state that hes disabled and cant work due to the PTSD. this means he will never be able to have a job. and i dont wanna live on government help forever. i wanna be able to move up state and buy our own place. and with the section 8 you live in HORRIBLE neighborhoods. its insane.

the only thing i can do is just try it out. and if that doesnt end up working for me and i dont like living with them then im going to tell OH that its not a good place for Willow and we need our own space either he does what he needs to do for our own place or im moving back with my parents.

OH plans on getting a job when we move with his family. he wants to save up that money so we can get our own place and car and everything.

only upside to moving in with them is we will be able to get back our foodstamps and medicaid (health insurance) because his familys already on it.

and yeah i was thinking about writing my mom a letter but idk where to put it for her to find it .. i dont even know what to say in it. :shrugs:

just say what you have said on here and hand it to her just say there are some things i want you to know or something what if you tell your oh he has to speak to his mum about the swearing and the dirt i doubt he could say too much about the strange religion though

WHat a horrible situation sorry hun x

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just read the update aw how horrible for you to have to see your mum so cut up, i really hope things do change so you dont have to move.
let us know xx

thanks! i hope so too .. i mean my sister hasnt smoked around the house or anything since my mom said something .. but i dont know how long thats gonna last. hopefully it will. shes even seeming serious about us moving out of this house away from this neighborhood. so hopefully that happens soon.
also because my grandmas coming to visit us from england for the first time in 11 years. dad doesnt want her to see the house were in now .. so idlk .. we shall see.