Pixie5120

one of the girls in my year did her exams last year in the first few weeks of her pregnancy(weeks 4-8 ish), went through most of this year with a very baggy hoody on and only let the school know at 30 weeks. Since then she has given birth to her beautiful son and is now back in school 3 days a week. Until the school was told they had no idea at all, and she had a sizeable bump. But honestly hunni, by may you'll still be fine.
Let the school be the school and you just be you. I know its a big shock to you and you're whole life has changed but you're dealing with it pretty well actually. Wait til 12 weeks if it makes you feel more comfortable, but do tell your parents, it'll make it easier in the long run.
Well done for deciding to sit your exams. I hope the whole thing goes well for you. Relax and enjoy being a mummy-to-be. Be fantastic.

LaDY

You know what sweets...get the thought of bandages out of your head...even when your tummy does start to grow it is not soft and flabby it becomes hard so if anything bandages will make ur tummy a layer bigger...plus sqaushing the little one wont help...and may i say its great that you have decided to keep the baby Its lovely news
I have been in a similar situation to you however i am a lot older and was in a total different situation than u...the only way i hid it was with baggy clothing...and it was sad and heartbreaking as all i wanted to do was show my tummy off as i was on cloud 9 and still remain the proudest mother to be in the world however the fact that you are willing to keep this baby and protect this baby is the main thing and is very brave of you...that is what all mothers should do. However hun you can't hide it forever...i learnt that...but hey hun when the baby is born and has grown up im sure he or she will commend you for what you have done as you took the best option however to you the hardest...you will be fine hun, let us know how you get on xx

dizzle

Hi,

I just read this thread and wanted to say how brave you are for keeping the baby and finishing school - I'm not sure I could have done it at your age and I really wish you the best in the future

As for all the criticisms, its not anyone else's business how, when or why you get pregnant, accidents happen and around 50% pregnancies in the UK are unplanned, its not our place to comment on other people's lives and choices and its how you deal with it from now on that's important.

I do think you should tell your parents sooner rather than later - do you have someone else who could be with you when you do?

As for school, I'd also advocate the baggy clothes and denial route - it is true that they would have to find somewhere else for you to sit your exams, but you just don't need that hassle on top of everything else at the moment.

Lots of luck and please don't let a few rude comments put you off this forum - hopefully you'll find lots of other supportive people around instead and there is lots of useful advice

Take care, wishing you all the best

Ratty

I'm a very small frame and some people at my work have only noticed this last month (I'm now 33 weeks) that I'm pregnant and I wasn't purposly trying to hide it. I know here in South Africa you can get a proper elastic belly guard which helps keep you looking smaller and neater. Its speciacally designed for that purpose and I'm sure would be much better than wearing bandages. Plus the bandages will be bulky and probably make you show more.

But seriously, you shouldn't start showing for a while still so I'm sure you will make your May exams without having to resort to funny measures to hide it.

Rachel16+Bump

i just read right through the whole of this thread and because i am in a similar situation to you, 16 and pregnant and i na catholic school doing my GCSEs, i understand what your going through. trust me no matter what any one says to you, the way they bitch and everything you just need to learn to ignore them and tell people you need as much support as you can get, trust me! it sound like you are really mature and happy about your decision yet people have their own opinions and can upset you but we have to ignore it. i am still currently in school and going to a young mums group every wednesday and your school shouldnt kick you out and you will also get referred to something similar to what i go to. they CANNOT stop you from doing your GCSEs!!

to be honest telling my mum was probably the bestest thing i did because without my mum (+ this site) helping me through this i dont think i could have stook it out. pregnancy isnt easy but its not impossible. you will have done your GCSEs and by the end of this year you will have your own little baby who will depend on u hand and foot and you will treasure that more than anything in the whole entire world!

if you ever ever!!! needed to talk i am here. xxxxx

Ell.Bishh

I just read through all of the thread too, and I think you sound very mature and youve got your head firmly screwed on. I know how hard it is to be pregnant and at school trying to do exams, with all the bitching and the snidy remarks, ignore all of them, at the end of it all they arent going to have a beautiful child and they arent going to be a responsible adult. You are.
Your school can't chuck you out if you dont tell them your pregnant. Deny it point blank until your GCSE's are done if you feel hey are going to be like that, I know at my school they never were, but that wasn't catholic...
But tell your mam if you havent already, its really important that you do.
Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy

Sparky0207

Ella I think you're very brave and have really got your head screwed on. My pregnancy wasnt planned (we were trying but had stopped due to change of circumstances) and even though im in a totally different situation to you, I was PETRIFIED of telling my mum!

Although I had a good relationship with her, it was a bad time for me to get pregnant and things weren't good. One night (when I had known for about 4 weeks) I was at her house watching TV and she asked me how things were, I was very quiet and just muttered something under my breath, so she asked if anything was wrong. I just said im a bit worried about something but i didnt want to tell her and worry her in case it was nothing. She was quite worried so I just said im a bit late on and think I might be pregnant but im too scared to take a test. She gave me a cuddle and then we went out together to buy a test (which obviously I knew would be positive!) I did the test then put it face down on the unit and asked her to look at it after the time was up. When it showed positive she was crying but gave me a really big hug and thanked me for letting her find out with me. I think if your mum feels part of it and you show her from the beginning that you want her to be involved she may be a bit more supportive for you.

Your school dont need to know and like Toria said, if you deny it, they cant prove it and so cant kick you out.

People shouldnt, but they do judge. You seem really grown up for your age so rise above them and ignore them. Accidents happen and sometimes they turn out to be the best thing that could ever have happened to you.

Good luck hun and I wish you all the best

xxx

wantababybump

Good luck hun!! I wish you all the best! xo <3

PurestFeeling

I wet to a Catholic private school too. They were actually the only Catholic school in the area that said if you got pregnant and they found out you had to leave until you have the baby but then you can come back all the other Catholic schools in the city would just kick you out. But I knew a girl who was pregnant and kept it from the school the whole time by wearing a hoodie that was oversized. I'm rather small and I didn't start showing until I was in my 5th month. I'm pretty sure you won't be big enough to knotice in May but if anyone knotices a weight gain just tell them your doctor put you on a new medicine that makes you gain.

Also yes everyone Catholic schools can kick you out for pregnancy if it says in the handbook that they can. Why? Because unlike public school they don't have to let you into their school and you have to pay to go. I believe either you or your parants agree to these rules they have by signing a contract and paying the money so legally the school can enforce these rules.

sjj2903

Good for you in going ahead with your exams, I work at a school and we had a girl who was 8 months pregnant and she came back in to do hers. I don't expect you will show that much - just wear a baggy jumper and good luck with your exams!