Oh Ella! It is easy for us to say about telling your parents, like ive said before ive been in the same situation as you and believe me it wasnt easy!! but its got to be done! Whatever stage you tell them it will be hard and you probably wont get the support you need straight away, theres no easy way around it im afraid!
When i told my mum this time i cried!!! Im 25 and married..... whats that all about!?
Something that may put a smile on your face, my step sister was 16 when she had her first baby, still at school and very small build. We didnt know she was pregnant until we got a call from the hospital one night to say she was in maternity!!! what a shock that was!!!!
so maybe you wont show that much! Take care xx
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The following user says 'Thanks' to Becki77 for this post:
I just wanted to wish you luck in your pregnancy hun. It sounds like you're trying to do whats best for both you and your little one at this time.
Hiding your bump with bandages wont be good for your little one so i'd advise against it.
As far as your school goes, do you have a mentor or someone you could confide in, just so you have someone you can go to to talk about this. This is a really tough time for you given the situation you are in and i think it would help for you to have someone to chat to it about. Don't get too stressed about people noticing, the more you stress the more damage it will do both you and the baby.
I know this is scary for you, its daunting for anyone. But we're here for you to talk to when you need us.
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The following user says 'Thanks' to alteasdale for this post:
i originally posted this thread because all i want to do is hide it until my exams. when i say i have a tiny frame, i fit comfortably into a size 4 and im not even skinny, i have a tiny waist and im well proportioned. i eat loads but ive never had a belly on me in my life. my uniform is a shirt and jumper, which wont hide any bump, especially as the weather is getting warmer. my school is very strict, you can go into isolation just for chewing gum or swearing. that is my situation and we are all in different ones, but if i thought my school would be ok with a pregnant teenager, i wouldnt have posted this thread in the first place. i hope it helps now that ive given you more detail on my circumstances. i didnt mean to start all this controversy, all i askd for was advice
By the sound of it my school was the same as yours - detention for swearing or chewing gum - repeatedly doing it you got put on report and possibly suspended if it continued!
There was s girl at my school, about the same size as you really, she sat her exams at 5 month pregnant and she wasn't showing obviously through her school uniform. Our uniform was a jumper, shirt and trousers or skirt. You could try wearing the next size up in clothes and until you're a few months pregnant you'll just look like you've gained a little bit of weight....no one would notice and if they did notice they'd just think you'd gained weight - alot of girls put on weight at about 16/17 years old anyway!
You should tell your parents though sweetheart, as hard as it is (and please make sure you've seen doctor and taking folic acid etc) - it would be alot harder to tell them if something went wrong.
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sweetie you need to talk to someone, you shouldnt be going through this alone, you sound very level headed. Its a shame that your school is so awful, but i dont think the can legally take you out of school esp just before your exams, its good that you still want to take them there are many young girls that just jack it all in.
i would strongly advise against wrapping things around your bump.
what about the babys dad? does he know? are you going to tell him?
please dont think that people are picking on you, pregnancy is a very emotional time. i personally find it hard to talk to people who dont want their pregnancy's because i lost two of mine.
from what i understand your a girl who needs some help, but to get the help you need you have to tell someone you might find yourself even more isolated.
good luck.
x
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The following user says 'Thanks' to Uvlollypop for this post:
oh i hope it didnt sound like we were picking on you, you are in a very tough situation and u sound like a very sensible girl. you have chosen to keep the baby so now u have steps to go through to deal with it and it wont be easy. no one can tell you that you are wrong for trying to hide it from your school, what we i think we are all trying to say is that you need some help. you cant be alone in this. telling your parents is not easy, some people find it hard even when their pregnancy is planned, but im sure they love you and will support you, and im sure there are other places you can get support too. here on the forum is one of them. good luck hun.
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I actually wasn't shocked at all by your question.
Having spend some time talking to you I know how hard it is for you.
And considering that I am ina similar situation.
I went to a private school and they were very strict.Only one girl got pregnant and it was a huge scandal so I understand your situation.I now go to college,it's also a private one but it isn't that much of a big deal that I'm pregnant.
I wouldn't however recomment wrapping things around your waist.Exam time is around may/june,right?You won't be that far along,I think you can pull it off.Hopefully your jumper is black?It will be harder to see if it is black.Try telling people that you just gained weight if they notice,but I don't think they will.Try hiding it with your book back or a jacket(if your allowed to wear one).
But you do that only until school finishes then you talk to your principal and wxplain your situation.There is no other way.I talked to my guidance counselor and he helped me alot.Bring your parents with you so you can all talk about what are you going to do...xxx
As for your comments-I don't find then rude at all.
Your situation is not easy and you are now under the same amount of stress as a person who is ttc.
I know that you guys can't wait to get pregnant and have a bump but look at it from her perspective.She doesn't need to be judged by anyone ans she DOES NOT love her baby any less.She is just in a very hard situation.
And I think you made quite a good point with some of your comments.
Good luck xxx
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The following user says 'Thanks' to nikky0907 for this post:
thanks everyone, i really appreciate ur replies and im alot more confident now with the idea of bein able to continue school (without worrying) right up until the end of my exams.
the baby's dad knows (we're still together) and he's slowly coming around so things are starting to look a little better lol x
I had my first at 18, and now at 25 i'am having my fourth, dont worry about people titter tattering, you hold your head up high your going to be a mum (the best thing in the world). as long as your a good mum and look after your little bump you have nothing to worry about.
sarah
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