I Find It Really Strange

AnnabelsMummy · Jan 5th, 2010, 18:08 PM

How i've seen sooo many minors TTC.. i find it really strange.. i mean i know we're all pregnant or have had children on here.. but i've seen some people as young as 15 on here TTC.. it's not even legal for them to be sexually active...
What's going on?!

sorryy... just had to share that.. it's soo confusing..
i didn't TTC, and i'd never have wanted to at this age (17).. but now i'm pregnant, of course i wouldn't change it for the world.. but they all say they're so mature as well..
ahh i dunno.. just thought i'd share it.. not sure if i'm allowed to talk about it.. i just find it really weird and don't understand why anyone under 18 (who is still a kid themselves) would WANT to put themselves in that position? lol
xxxxxx

AnnabelsMummy · Jan 5th, 2010, 18:10 PM

ahh that sounded a bit mean... but i don't mean it horribley.. just a curiousity.. x

Zebra Stars · Jan 5th, 2010, 18:13 PM

i know, im 17 & pregnant, to be honest im nt ready for a baby nor is OH,

ive seen people as young as 13 TTC like what are you doi youre 13!! and proberly not even started your period!!

well i think wanting a baby before 18 is imachure (i can't spell)

AnnabelsMummy · Jan 5th, 2010, 18:20 PM

Haha.. See how can we even teach our children to spell

ahh i totally agree.. it kinda just shows a slight immaturity.. your not even allowed to do loadsa stuff.. let alone support a child properly.. but as i've said before, i'd never change my mind for the world.. just a bit scary sometimes!
xxxx

Jas029 · Jan 5th, 2010, 18:41 PM

I definitely didn't want to be pregnant so young..
But it accidentally happened and whats done is done so all I can do now is step up to the responsibility and raise my son the best I can

And yes, some girls just don't seem right in the head saying they want a kid when they're still in school(Not talking about university)
I always wanted to be a mother.. I wanted to wait til I was atleast 20 though.. whoops

annawrigley · Jan 5th, 2010, 18:43 PM

i hope i dont get attacked for this, ive mentioned it before but dont make a huge song and dance about it because i know its not supported here but i was TTC at 16 and honestly dont regret it for a second.

tbh basically every under 18 on here says they were using contraception but it didnt work and im sure thats the case for a lot of people but i truly dont believe every single pregnant under 18 yr old on here got pregnant that way... even if some were NTNP i dont think they'd dare say cos theyd get like slaughtered here lol.
xx

AnnabelsMummy · Jan 5th, 2010, 18:45 PM

Yeah exactly the same.. i would never have said i'm mature enough to look after a baby...
My mum's gone away for like 3 weeks.. and for the first 3 days.. the house was almost falling apart..
yeah i wanted to wait.. until i'd been to uni, partied my life away.. and was maybe even married.. pftttt.. i've done none of that.. (but i don't really like partying anyways) - but other girls do.. i dunno i just think it's weird.. like none of us would change it.. but i think most of us would have waited i dunno..
xxxxx

lily123 · Jan 5th, 2010, 18:47 PM

Hiya hun.
I was thinking exactly the same today... it makes no sense!
One of my mum's mates daughters is 16 and is 12 weeks pregnant, at first i felt very supportive towards her because i presumed that she would be the same as us on here... unplanned and unexpected pregnancy but it was the right decision to keep the baby, but no! She was telling me that she was going out sha99ing different men everynight in order to get pregnant because she wanted a baby and that was it!
I was absolutely gobsmacked... it's people like that who give us teen mums a bad name when all most of us are trying to do is the right thing for our children!

I would certainly never have chose to be pregnant at 19 years old, unmarried and financially unstable - but now it's happened i wouldn't change anything for the world.

AnnabelsMummy · Jan 5th, 2010, 18:49 PM

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Originally Posted by annawrigley

i hope i dont get attacked for this, ive mentioned it before but dont make a huge song and dance about it because i know its not supported here but i was TTC at 16 and honestly dont regret it for a second.

tbh basically every under 18 on here says they were using contraception but it didnt work and im sure thats the case for a lot of people but i truly dont believe every single pregnant under 18 yr old on here got pregnant that way... even if some were NTNP i dont think they'd dare say cos theyd get like slaughtered here lol.
xx

yeah i know what you mean.. and i'm only saying i just feel maybe they should wait.. if anyone did get pregnant that way i'd never say it was terrible.. because at least they get a baby.. and the baby would get a loving mother who cares..
i'm just saying i just don't think they fully understand the responsibility or anything.. and usually their partner doesn't want the child.. Mmmm.. i dunno.. i'm not trying to be mean.. it's just from my opinion, that maybe at least wait till their old enough to look after, care for and support a baby.. cause that's what we all want for our babies..
xxxxxx

annawrigley · Jan 5th, 2010, 18:56 PM

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Originally Posted by allier276

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Originally Posted by annawrigley

i hope i dont get attacked for this, ive mentioned it before but dont make a huge song and dance about it because i know its not supported here but i was TTC at 16 and honestly dont regret it for a second.

tbh basically every under 18 on here says they were using contraception but it didnt work and im sure thats the case for a lot of people but i truly dont believe every single pregnant under 18 yr old on here got pregnant that way... even if some were NTNP i dont think they'd dare say cos theyd get like slaughtered here lol.
xx

yeah i know what you mean.. and i'm only saying i just feel maybe they should wait.. if anyone did get pregnant that way i'd never say it was terrible.. because at least they get a baby.. and the baby would get a loving mother who cares..
i'm just saying i just don't think they fully understand the responsibility or anything.. and usually their partner doesn't want the child.. Mmmm.. i dunno.. i'm not trying to be mean.. it's just from my opinion, that maybe at least wait till their old enough to look after, care for and support a baby.. cause that's what we all want for our babies..
xxxxxx

i know, i dont think you're being mean

im not expecting a round of applause or anything

and FOB wanted to TTC as well.. he still wants to be involved with the baby just not be with me anymore which is fair enough, people fall out of love and i dont love him either anymore

he will still be a dad
xxxxxx

Jan 5th, 2010, 18:08 PM	#1
AnnabelsMummy Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: London Posts: 3,638	I Find It Really Strange How i've seen sooo many minors TTC.. i find it really strange.. i mean i know we're all pregnant or have had children on here.. but i've seen some people as young as 15 on here TTC.. it's not even legal for them to be sexually active... What's going on?! sorryy... just had to share that.. it's soo confusing.. i didn't TTC, and i'd never have wanted to at this age (17).. but now i'm pregnant, of course i wouldn't change it for the world.. but they all say they're so mature as well.. ahh i dunno.. just thought i'd share it.. not sure if i'm allowed to talk about it.. i just find it really weird and don't understand why anyone under 18 (who is still a kid themselves) would WANT to put themselves in that position? lol xxxxxx

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Jan 5th, 2010, 18:10 PM	#2
AnnabelsMummy Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: London Posts: 3,638	ahh that sounded a bit mean... but i don't mean it horribley.. just a curiousity.. x

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Jan 5th, 2010, 18:13 PM	#3
Zebra Stars Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: North Wales Posts: 1,254	i know, im 17 & pregnant, to be honest im nt ready for a baby nor is OH, ive seen people as young as 13 TTC like what are you doi youre 13!! and proberly not even started your period!! well i think wanting a baby before 18 is imachure (i can't spell)

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Jan 5th, 2010, 18:20 PM	#4
AnnabelsMummy Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: London Posts: 3,638	Haha.. See how can we even teach our children to spell ahh i totally agree.. it kinda just shows a slight immaturity.. your not even allowed to do loadsa stuff.. let alone support a child properly.. but as i've said before, i'd never change my mind for the world.. just a bit scary sometimes! xxxx

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Jan 5th, 2010, 18:41 PM	#5
Jas029 Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: USA Posts: 2,121	I definitely didn't want to be pregnant so young.. But it accidentally happened and whats done is done so all I can do now is step up to the responsibility and raise my son the best I can And yes, some girls just don't seem right in the head saying they want a kid when they're still in school(Not talking about university) I always wanted to be a mother.. I wanted to wait til I was atleast 20 though.. whoops

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Jan 5th, 2010, 18:43 PM	#6
annawrigley Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: York, UK Posts: 10,807	i hope i dont get attacked for this, ive mentioned it before but dont make a huge song and dance about it because i know its not supported here but i was TTC at 16 and honestly dont regret it for a second. tbh basically every under 18 on here says they were using contraception but it didnt work and im sure thats the case for a lot of people but i truly dont believe every single pregnant under 18 yr old on here got pregnant that way... even if some were NTNP i dont think they'd dare say cos theyd get like slaughtered here lol. xx

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Jan 5th, 2010, 18:45 PM	#7
AnnabelsMummy Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: London Posts: 3,638	Yeah exactly the same.. i would never have said i'm mature enough to look after a baby... My mum's gone away for like 3 weeks.. and for the first 3 days.. the house was almost falling apart.. yeah i wanted to wait.. until i'd been to uni, partied my life away.. and was maybe even married.. pftttt.. i've done none of that.. (but i don't really like partying anyways) - but other girls do.. i dunno i just think it's weird.. like none of us would change it.. but i think most of us would have waited i dunno.. xxxxx

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Jan 5th, 2010, 18:47 PM	#8
lily123 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Good old North Yorkshire ;) Posts: 3,372	Hiya hun. I was thinking exactly the same today... it makes no sense! One of my mum's mates daughters is 16 and is 12 weeks pregnant, at first i felt very supportive towards her because i presumed that she would be the same as us on here... unplanned and unexpected pregnancy but it was the right decision to keep the baby, but no! She was telling me that she was going out sha99ing different men everynight in order to get pregnant because she wanted a baby and that was it! I was absolutely gobsmacked... it's people like that who give us teen mums a bad name when all most of us are trying to do is the right thing for our children! I would certainly never have chose to be pregnant at 19 years old, unmarried and financially unstable - but now it's happened i wouldn't change anything for the world.

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