upset and stressed need some support

18NPregnant · Dec 23rd, 2009, 14:52 PM

i am not sure why i am so upset bout this. but here it is my lo's possible father and i broke up b4 and one of his main reasons was because he did not want somebody who was tied down with a kid. well i checked on his account on a dating site today adn seen that he was talking to all these single mothers and wanted to date them. im just confused as to what i did wrong and how i am so different to tehm. i am so upset and i dont need this stress and neitehr does my little man. what do i do???

Bexx · Dec 23rd, 2009, 14:59 PM

Hey hun, are you sure he's not just trying to talk to other mums to find out what it's like having a LO? I admit it's not quite the kind of community I would use for that purpose, but perhaps he doesn't know where to go that's more suitable.

Tink.x · Dec 23rd, 2009, 15:01 PM

Was he joined to this dating site when you was together? I would say maybe he's scared that he could be a possible dad and is scared of the responsibilty but i dunno darling...sorry i am not much help! xoxox

xforuiholdonx · Dec 23rd, 2009, 15:02 PM

Well considering this child might be his, I suggest he step up, or you lose Him. You are right, you dont need this stress or bullshit, and for him to use such a lame excuse is ridiculous. He just wants a woman with a child already so he can leave with the stress of responsibility gets to him.. what a loser. ERG. Stupid men. Trust me hunny, its nothing you did, so dont put that on yourself. You'll find someone some day who will you love you and will love your son. There are some good men still out there, some where. If you need anything, , pm me.
Lisa.

cb1 · Dec 23rd, 2009, 15:02 PM

Firstly I'm sending you some

It seems odd that his excuse was he didn't want to be with someone who is tied down with a child, when it's his child!! Maybe he's just not mature enough to deal with the responsibilty being a father brings - with these other single mothers he has no responsibility to the children involved.

It sounds to me like you're better off without him. xx

18NPregnant · Dec 23rd, 2009, 15:02 PM

he joined it back in like march long b4 i was pregnant. and by the sounds of it hes asking them if they wanna go to dinner and a movie and then making something sexy after. those were his words

18NPregnant · Dec 23rd, 2009, 15:03 PM

he dont know if it is his baby. and i just feel like i have failed in someway

18NPregnant · Dec 23rd, 2009, 15:05 PM

thank you so much

aliss · Dec 23rd, 2009, 15:13 PM

He's trolling for sex, he has no intention of dating those women.

xforuiholdonx · Dec 23rd, 2009, 15:16 PM

Your welcome. You deserve much better than that, and I know out there somewhere someone will give that too. Lose the little boy who is trying to avoid responsibility.

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18NPregnant Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: woodstock, ontario, canada Posts: 665	upset and stressed need some support i am not sure why i am so upset bout this. but here it is my lo's possible father and i broke up b4 and one of his main reasons was because he did not want somebody who was tied down with a kid. well i checked on his account on a dating site today adn seen that he was talking to all these single mothers and wanted to date them. im just confused as to what i did wrong and how i am so different to tehm. i am so upset and i dont need this stress and neitehr does my little man. what do i do???

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Bexx Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Rural Suffolk, UK Posts: 867	Hey hun, are you sure he's not just trying to talk to other mums to find out what it's like having a LO? I admit it's not quite the kind of community I would use for that purpose, but perhaps he doesn't know where to go that's more suitable.

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Tink.x Mum (Mom) Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Derby, United Kingdom Posts: 491	Was he joined to this dating site when you was together? I would say maybe he's scared that he could be a possible dad and is scared of the responsibilty but i dunno darling...sorry i am not much help! xoxox

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xforuiholdonx Other Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: East Coast Posts: 1,175	Well considering this child might be his, I suggest he step up, or you lose Him. You are right, you dont need this stress or bullshit, and for him to use such a lame excuse is ridiculous. He just wants a woman with a child already so he can leave with the stress of responsibility gets to him.. what a loser. ERG. Stupid men. Trust me hunny, its nothing you did, so dont put that on yourself. You'll find someone some day who will you love you and will love your son. There are some good men still out there, some where. If you need anything, , pm me. Lisa.

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cb1 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 629	Firstly I'm sending you some It seems odd that his excuse was he didn't want to be with someone who is tied down with a child, when it's his child!! Maybe he's just not mature enough to deal with the responsibilty being a father brings - with these other single mothers he has no responsibility to the children involved. It sounds to me like you're better off without him. xx

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18NPregnant Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: woodstock, ontario, canada Posts: 665	he dont know if it is his baby. and i just feel like i have failed in someway

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18NPregnant Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: woodstock, ontario, canada Posts: 665	thank you so much

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aliss AutoSignup (SAAB) BnB Elite Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Québec Posts: 14,727	He's trolling for sex, he has no intention of dating those women.

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xforuiholdonx Other Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: East Coast Posts: 1,175	Your welcome. You deserve much better than that, and I know out there somewhere someone will give that too. Lose the little boy who is trying to avoid responsibility.

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