sorry for the rant but i have no one i can talk to and i really need to get this out now. Me and my 'OH' moved in together in october and ever since then i feel more like his maid and mum thans his girlfriend. I have to cook his tea everynight, i have to take him to and from work or else he wont go, i have to run him about if he wants to go anywhere, i have to do his washing and ironing. He went out the other night and said 'i will make my own way home' so i thought i would catch up on some sleep i get a phone call waking me up at 12 with him pissed as a fart telling me to come get him, then when i get in i have to cook his tea cause hes hungry. i'm 36 weeks pregnant ffs and he expects me to act like i have the energy i had before i got pregnant. He hasent been in to work for 3 days and will more than likely be sacked when he does go back in cause he hasent even phoned in and hes on his last warning, I woke him up this morning to get him to ring in and he wouldent even get in so i told him to ring up the docters him self, as i was going to ring the docters and make him an appointment as he apparently hurt his ankle at work and its still hurting him, but it only seems to hurt when hes with his parents or someone mentions it, and as work cant give him a sit down job he needs to get a sick note apparently. But he expects me to ring up and make the appointment and take him (the docters is a 5 min walk from our house). so anyway i told him if he cant be assed ringing up work then i cant be assed ringing up the docters so now he cant get an appointment and cant get a sick note, hes got no excuse for work now either as he cant proove fck all. Im just so annoyed with him, its like he wont even get out of bed till 2 or 3 because theres 'no need'.
i moved to a different county so we could be together with our baby, left all my friends and family behind and moved to a place where i dont know anyone or anywhere and he treats me like this.
ive just had enough and dont know what to do with him anymore i feel like i already have a child, We wont even beable to cover the bills next month cause he wont go to work and he will expect me to use my inheritance that my dad set up for me just before he died so i could put a deposit on a house or something to bail us out... AGAIN. he saiys he provides and looks after me but i even have to roll his freekin fags for him coz he cant be assed. And all he does is moan that my house work isnt up to his standard but then wont do naff all himself
ive just had enough ive never felt so lonley and isolated in my life, and he says he loves me!! yet lets me feel like this (i have told him how lonely i feel) and tells me to get on with it
i just had enough now

yes the world is meant to be equel...but in realty it is not. I cook clean iron and organize my family. My OH is the bread winner and makes the money. I am more than happy to do my job at home with the kids. Why should he have to do anything in the house when he already works all day.
As for your other half not getting up to go to work...how would you feel about sitting down with him and explaining thats not what responsible fathers to be or men do. Explain to him that you are his girlfriend not his mother, and he needs to step up.This is in the teen section so i guess you are both teenagers. Sadly guys do not mature at the same rate as girls do.

I really do hope that you can get it sorted. But Do expect to take the lions share of the domestic work. As a mum this is the life path you have chosen.

This post is not ment to offend.

i dont mind doing most the house work, but im finding it harder to do as much as i used to be able to but he still expects it all to be done, but then what i do manage to do he says he could of done it better and its not up to his standard. But it would be nice for him to say ' what do you want for tea tonight' or ' let me run you a bath' he just sits there even though he hasent been into work for 3 days he hasnt lifed a finger... and im 19 hes 20, so pretty much teenagers yeah

You deserve better hun, at 36 weeks you should have your feet up chilling out, not driving here there and everywhere just because he cant be arsed to get to places himself, he should be the one taking you everywhere and making your tea, not the other way around.
I hope he sorts himself out and he gives you a break! good luck hun x

I agree with ^^^ its not fair that at that far along he expects you run around ragged, while he lazies around and doesnt even go to work, or call them.. I think a talk is needed. Let him no how tired you are, you havent chose to be a mother to him so thats a pile of bull, you deserve better. If i was you id stick my feet up, get a cuppa, stick the tv on and ignore his demands. Let him fall on his face, you dont need to mother him. x

i had a go this morning when he woundent ring work after i woke up just to get him up to do so, then i stayed awake so i could wake him up to ring the docters, which he still dosent do, i told him that 'theres no point in going the docters now and he may aswell go to the job centre but that he wouldent even go there unless i drove him' and his reply was 'shut up moaning woman' he hasnt talked to me since apart from to say 'omg work are ringing me... what do i say' now hes expecting me to take him to a&e so he can get a note of them... he hasnt asked me yet but i overheard him talking to his mum about it. ive not doe nothing but sit on my ass today and i dont plan on doing anything else but sit on my ass. Will see how he copes doing everyhing for himself for once...

Hey ,

He needs to move his lazy arse and start helping you out!

My OH works during the day and I do alot of the housework stuff (not that he expects it to be done and he mucks in when its not) Then we share the cooking and everything else so in my opinion he should be treating you better, things should be more equal for you if thats how you want it and you need to tell him this!

well hes got up and cleaned the kitchen so i must have made some impact when i had a go this morning... ive just had enough of doing everything for him...

Can you not kick him out and send him back to his mums? I think you'll be far better of without him. Once your baby is born his behaviour will no doubt get worse as you will have less time for him.

Can he not roll is own cigarettes? If he is to lazy to do it then he clearly doesn't need to smoke

( I know you didnt mean to offend though! )

As far as my OH is concerned, looking after a LO is a 24/7 in comparison to his 5 day a week job.My OH does 12 hour shifts yet still takes my LO for a feed while I get a lil quick me time, or cooks while I feed LO. As my OH says, when he goes to work, he gets time to himself there without LO.

Even my own grandmother believes the man should help out around the house, working or not. Shes very old fashioned in her ways but she said my grandad certainly came in from work, done what he needed to do and then took over with the kids.

Its 2010, this guy sounds like a total lazy a***hole and at 36 weeks pregnant why the HELL are you running about as his keeper and maid? He should be helping you!!!!!

Big hugs for putting up with this crap, im sure you are too kindhearted to have said anything before. But sod it f the housework isnt to his standard - he'll get a shock when LO is born because let me tell you- you wont have the time or energy to start with.