Jas029

Sorry this things so long! I got a little off topic..

Ok, Tonight my uncle and his partner were over and my parents made dinner and so it was just the 5 (well 6 counting the bump!) of us..
My uncles partner John is looking through pictures online of some of my cousins newborns and going "Ours will be cuter"
I just kinda thought about it a second and glared at him and said "Ours?"
He's like "Yeah hes all of ours, your mom and dad's and mine and Pat's".......
Luckily my mom said "Well, You may say that but when I had my two I knew they were MINE no matter what others said" Or something like that..
I'm so glad she said something I almost snapped I was trying so hard to control myself..
This is MY child, Not ours, not yours..
I had to carry him for 9 months, I'M going to BF him. YOU didn't help make him and YOU won't be the one taking care of him
I'm going to be the main care taker of him and I'm going to be his mother..
I even do that to my O/H(Not purposely)
We'll be texting and I'll say something about my baby or something
He just politely corrects me saying ours..it doesn't piss me off as much because atleast he helped made him and will hopefully be there for him some..
But when my uncle and his partner tries to say its OURS...
-excuse what I'm about to say
This is MY child you will not be the parent you will not even be the grandparents you have no right to try and claim it as yours even if you say "ours" I'm NOT going to share my child with you and you can not have my child.
I love my son more then anything in the world and I'm not going to "share" him with anyone other then the father.
You did not make him you did not help make him you did not carry him you did nothing but piss me off hundreds of times through out the pregnancy!
Seriously though, My uncle and his partner has said sooo much stupid sh!t to me that made me so mad..
Like my uncle harasses me constantly about excersizing and wanting me to walk up and down the driveway a couple times a day (Btw walking up and down my drive way ONCE is a 1/2 mile..)

I'm glad I didn't snap at them because my uncle and dad have been so HORRIBLE when it comes to dealing with me being pregnant..
They fight back with me instead of just doing what they should do and leave me the hell alone!!
My dad keeps making these smart ass comments about stuff that's not true or I haven't done in over a year and so I snap back and defend myself and he flips out and he's like basically telling me to shut up a bunch of times and it just makes it worse because 1. He's not listening and 2. If he doesn't want to try and hear what I have to say to defend myself instead he just ends up making another remark about it some other time and I try to defend myself again and it just repeats!!
My uncle isn't any better.. He bitches to me about stuff or says something which I'll find very insulting and when I go to defend myself he doesn't back down he just gets all bitchy himself and makes even more rude comments and doesn't realize that I'm jacked up on hormones, he's making the situation about 10x worse by saying something back and not backing down..
But then finally when I'm right in the middle of making a valuable point of what ever we're arguing about after a longgg fight he's just like fine what ever it doesn't matter...
WELL IF IT DIDN'T MATTER WHY'D YOU MAKE SUCH A BIG DEAL ABOUT IT OR EVEN BRING IT UP IN THE FIRST PLACE!?!?!

I swear to god my dad and uncle are SO horrible at making all these comments about me that are QUITE insulting (Not about me being pregnant or anything just stuff from the past usually) and when I defend myself they claim they're just joking and I can't take a joke and I'm to serious and all this BS..
I CAN take a joke when it's actually funny.. But when your insulting me for your own little giggles, No sorry I can't laugh about that because I find it offensive and hurtful..
I'm sorry I didn't mean to make this a huge rant about a bunch of stuff it just kinda came out..
I'm so sick of these men they don't know how to act around a pregnant woman and make everything 1000x worse..
FOR ALL YOU MEN OUT THERE, DON'T MAKE RUDE ASS COMMENTS JUST SIT DOWN AND SHUT UP WE DON'T WANT TO HEAR IT!!!

Ugh sorry, It's been a rough weekend having to put up with sh!t between my father, uncle and one of my guy friends it's horrible..

Back to what I was originally talking about!
I'm sure all of you feel the same with your child(ren)..
I know I'm definitely not alone on this one as it's just a natural mothering instinct sorta thing!!

I hope your weekends have been better
(I don't need a forum to bitch about O/H I need one to bitch about practically every other man in my life.. My O/H is smart enough not to f**k with me)

luxe191919

Wow what jerks!Maybe they should get together with my FOB and watch the movie PREGNANT WOMEN WILL KILL YOU IF YOU DONT SHUT UP. lol I swear men dont think things through half of the time no wait all of the time.And dont worry you arent the only one with a bad weekend! HUGS!

Jas029

Yeah men are such idiots when it comes to dealing with hormonal pregnant women..
Luckily my O/H just shuts up if I'm pissy and if he even tries to fight back I just glare and he normally knows to shut up..
He really hasn't gotten in my way about anything I'm doing/I've done when it comes to the pregnancy/baby stuff..
He knows how I plan on raising our son when it comes to religion/ect and he supports it.. When it came to picking out names he had no clue for a boy neither did I so when I found Riley he liked it as well and didn't put up a fuss about anything..
I'm kinda glad it's a boy I wouldn't want to go head to head with him if it was a girl, I'm sure he'd let me use the name I want but I'd feel kinda bad about it..
He likes Elizabeth Marie or something like that for a girl.. I don't much care for the name Elizabeth and if I had a girl I would want the middle name to be Lynne after my mother.. I really wanted Ivory Lynne for a girl..(Or Kiera Lynne... I like Ivory better but I don't know.. I don't have to worry about girl names for many years to come!!)
So since it was a boy we didn't have to go head to head about a name.. he knew I wanted that for a girl and he's a cancer and definitely shows it and wouldn't try to fight me for it.. I'd still feel bad about it though

EDIT: Grr, I went off topic again...My mind is just wandering tonight..
Guess that means I just need to go to bed!

luxe191919

lol its ok yeah David normally will A) get in the way of whoever im mad at because he knows even with a bump i can cover a distance in a short amount of time B)automatically start kissing me and trying to calm me down or C) Say what is in my head and deal with the trouble that comes afterwards lol.Thats sweet hes letting you make the descions it takes a real man to sit there and deal with us crazy hormonal preggos! And hey if you ever need to rant again feel free to PM me and ill listen to you!And as for sleep I should probably too but im too wound up after my incident today to sleep!

Jas029

Yeah I read about that, not to get off topic of the thread but man sounds like the FOB was just trying to milk his kid for girls attentions ALREADY!
I wouldn't let any skanky gf of his get near my child! (No offense to her if shes not skanky but just hormones talking)
I don't know how my mom tolerates my dad.. Of corse I really don't have it any better with him..
He was abusive when I was younger (mentally and physically)
Luckily not to bad physically but realllyyy bad mentally..
When I first told my mom I was pregnant that's one thing I mentioned to her was if he ever even THINKS about trying to raise him how he raised me or lay a finger on him he's long gone..
She even mentioned getting separated (again, they were separated for 5 years of my life and I went back and forth between houses) if he does something like that.. She feels really bad for how she let him raise me and she feels responsible for not trying to do more (although she talked to him about it alot)
Ever since I told her I was pregnant she's been really taking it out on herself hard thinking she's a bad parent and screwed up some where along the lines..
She's been better these days but some days she still feels really bad about it and I feel so bad because I don't blame her for it, I blame my father more then anyone for what I went through in my earlier years that got me in this position.. But I don't regret anything that's happened because I have my little boy out of the deal and that's all I care about and I wouldn't trade him for anything in the world even if he's not out of my belly yet

Jas029

Gah!
I did it again!!
I just need to go to bed..

luxe191919

Im sorry my parents divorced when I was young 5 but i still remember what a douche he was to my mom thats why i didnt want him back in my life and as for the FOB yeah it excuse the language pissed me off so badly as soon as he said that I just looked at him and the girl (she looked nice but still) and then David was in front of me saying "Lets go before you kill someone and have to deliever in jail." Hell if your going to use the kid at least making it for something better than trying to get another girl pregnant lol. Yeah I love my little Aislinn. If she wasnt so big already and starting to block the view of my toes id have strangled him.But anyways back on topic lol like i said if you ever have anymore problems like this id be glad to help and lend a listening ear!

annawrigley

Mariaa

I think its your hormones babe Men just have a boys sense of humour that will never be logical to us.
I reckon to have your dad and uncle around anyway your pretty lucky.
i dont.
and i bet you know that as much as they piss you off, theyll always be there if you or baby do need anything.
just take it on the cheek... you know what they say

BLOKES DONT GROW UP...THEY JUST GET OLDER!!!

Jas029

That's so true..