19 and scared

~lou~ · Nov 30th, 2009, 14:46 PM

I've just found out I'm pregnant, and I don't know what to do. My boyfriend doesn't think it's a good idea as we are in our first year of uni. I do kind of agree, I see where he is coming from as I would probably have to have a year out of uni, but at the same time I don't know if I could deal with the other option? My mum had me when she was 18, I think she would be really angry if she found out I was in this situation and that scares me. I am good with babies and children and I know I would love it so much but I just don't know what to do? It's so hard and horrible, I'm terrified!!!

Mariaa · Nov 30th, 2009, 15:19 PM

do what you think is right, you have a good future ahead of you if your in uni, and you have plenty of time in the future to have babies.

Just do what you think is right for you and dont worry about what anyone else thinks
xx

Hayley90 · Nov 30th, 2009, 15:25 PM

I had this same problem, except i wasn't in uni, but im 19 too

At first, my fiance wanted me to...erm...not have the baby, then he came around and realised how happy he was.
Then i was the one who wasn't sure...

all i did was weigh up the options, so is doing your degree on time, better than a baby?
etc etc and it really helps u work out how important things are in your life.

I was at work, and a girl was talking about her friend who was in her twenties, she went to bed one day and just didnt wake up. She left 2 little kids behind

. I realised life was precious and it is worth more than anything else- my job, travelling, my flat, what people would think of me...anything. so thats how i decided.

its up to you to decide, but this really helped me to put stuff into perspective. and your parents, no matter what their initial reaction will always come around - there is no arguing when they are faced with their baby grandchild

i hope this helps and congratulations!!

xox

natlee · Nov 30th, 2009, 15:52 PM

only you can decide what is best for you. even if your boyfriend isnt behind you at the moment your family will come around in the end im sure and i bet he will aswell in time. with you being in uni you can always go back to doing your course after you have had the baby, its not the end of the world and just because you have a baby doesnt mean that you cant continue your studies

you know whats best for you at the moment, yes listen to peoples opinions but dont do what other people say to make them happy.
hope you can come to a decision thats right for you soon

x

chocaccino · Nov 30th, 2009, 17:47 PM

Follow your heart.
My head said no and my heart said yes,
and now i know there is no doubt about it.
I know it's hard but don't let your mum sway your desicion, you might regret it.
xxx

-Princess- · Dec 1st, 2009, 10:25 AM

I know exactly how you feel. I'm 19 years old, I've worked since the age of 13 and am on e of these people that cannot feel out of control. I found out a week ago that im pregnant by a boy that I've only been with for 3 months approx. I've just started a temping job so have nothing permananent. I was convinced I didn't want children until i found out i was pregnant. It changes everything. My boyfriend found out a couple of days ago he was the same as your boyfriend. We're not in uni but he works alot (he's 24) he also always thought that we'd have loads of time to do things togther: holidays etc. he said he's gonna stick by me 100% whatever my decision. The only thing that i am now scared of is breaking it to my family. They're quite a respected family and i couldn't bare to bring the shame on them I'm terrified that my mum is going to disown me or something. I'd hate for her to feel like i've dissapointed her. I'm Gonna be so skint aswell! Helppppp

Nov 30th, 2009, 14:46 PM	#1
~lou~ Other New BnB member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 1	19 and scared I've just found out I'm pregnant, and I don't know what to do. My boyfriend doesn't think it's a good idea as we are in our first year of uni. I do kind of agree, I see where he is coming from as I would probably have to have a year out of uni, but at the same time I don't know if I could deal with the other option? My mum had me when she was 18, I think she would be really angry if she found out I was in this situation and that scares me. I am good with babies and children and I know I would love it so much but I just don't know what to do? It's so hard and horrible, I'm terrified!!!
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Mariaa Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: WINDSOR, south east Posts: 427	do what you think is right, you have a good future ahead of you if your in uni, and you have plenty of time in the future to have babies. Just do what you think is right for you and dont worry about what anyone else thinks xx

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Nov 30th, 2009, 15:25 PM	#3
Hayley90 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Kent - UK Posts: 13,111	I had this same problem, except i wasn't in uni, but im 19 too At first, my fiance wanted me to...erm...not have the baby, then he came around and realised how happy he was. Then i was the one who wasn't sure... all i did was weigh up the options, so is doing your degree on time, better than a baby? etc etc and it really helps u work out how important things are in your life. I was at work, and a girl was talking about her friend who was in her twenties, she went to bed one day and just didnt wake up. She left 2 little kids behind . I realised life was precious and it is worth more than anything else- my job, travelling, my flat, what people would think of me...anything. so thats how i decided. its up to you to decide, but this really helped me to put stuff into perspective. and your parents, no matter what their initial reaction will always come around - there is no arguing when they are faced with their baby grandchild i hope this helps and congratulations!! xox

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Nov 30th, 2009, 15:52 PM	#4
natlee Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Wales Posts: 711	only you can decide what is best for you. even if your boyfriend isnt behind you at the moment your family will come around in the end im sure and i bet he will aswell in time. with you being in uni you can always go back to doing your course after you have had the baby, its not the end of the world and just because you have a baby doesnt mean that you cant continue your studies you know whats best for you at the moment, yes listen to peoples opinions but dont do what other people say to make them happy. hope you can come to a decision thats right for you soon x

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chocaccino Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Glastonbury Posts: 570	Follow your heart. My head said no and my heart said yes, and now i know there is no doubt about it. I know it's hard but don't let your mum sway your desicion, you might regret it. xxx

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Dec 1st, 2009, 10:25 AM	#6
-Princess- Pregnant (Expecting) New BnB member Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 3	I know exactly how you feel. I'm 19 years old, I've worked since the age of 13 and am on e of these people that cannot feel out of control. I found out a week ago that im pregnant by a boy that I've only been with for 3 months approx. I've just started a temping job so have nothing permananent. I was convinced I didn't want children until i found out i was pregnant. It changes everything. My boyfriend found out a couple of days ago he was the same as your boyfriend. We're not in uni but he works alot (he's 24) he also always thought that we'd have loads of time to do things togther: holidays etc. he said he's gonna stick by me 100% whatever my decision. The only thing that i am now scared of is breaking it to my family. They're quite a respected family and i couldn't bare to bring the shame on them I'm terrified that my mum is going to disown me or something. I'd hate for her to feel like i've dissapointed her. I'm Gonna be so skint aswell! Helppppp

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