Sooo Confused!

Maddiee · Nov 29th, 2009, 06:24 AM

this doesn't have a lot to do with pregnancy but it has to do with the teen section.

OH popped the question last night! What was i meant to say?

of course i said yes, i do love him but i don't know if his feeling is mutual or if its just because i'm carrying his child?

i might just be paranoid about it all but still.

sorry about this little vent

xoxo.
Maddiee.

trashit · Nov 29th, 2009, 06:56 AM

Aw thats so cute

well congrats. Ask him if youre not sure but im sure his intentions are good, wish you all the best

x

Maddiee · Nov 29th, 2009, 06:58 AM

thanks. i can just imagine that conversation. lol
don't get me wrong, i do love him and appreciate the sentiment, i just want to make sure he's doing because he wants to not because he feels he needs to.
Thanks

Mariaa · Nov 29th, 2009, 07:23 AM

It works all in your favour... you marry him, becuase you love him, if something happens to you, he legally has NO rights over the child unless you are married-so its for the security of the child.
AND god forbid it should happen, but if 5 years down the line he turns round, says it was a mistake and runs out on you both...you can whoop his ass getting child maintenance if you're married.

Stop being so synical. Just say to him he needs to go away and have a think first, then come back with the offer if he really feeels its right for him. Explain marriage is for life, and divorce is nasty with a child being dragged through.
Once he see's the logical side and not the fairytale side he may change his mind.

If he doesnt....go for it, and be happy

but really? You cant lose!
xxx

Maddiee · Nov 29th, 2009, 07:28 AM

thanks. i did text him and told him he needed to think but he's still hell bent on making it work. but either way i'm happy.

i do believe he loves me and our bub but i doubt myself sometimes.

Thanks for the advice.

Mariaa · Nov 29th, 2009, 07:42 AM

no problem.

Just enjoy it

xx

Maddiee · Nov 29th, 2009, 08:29 AM

well, he just came home and seems fine. (yn)

we decided not to act on it too soon.
we're leaving it until the baby is settled and we're sure its what we want.

madcam · Nov 29th, 2009, 08:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Mariaa

It works all in your favour... you marry him, becuase you love him, if something happens to you, he legally has NO rights over the child unless you are married-so its for the security of the child.
AND god forbid it should happen, but if 5 years down the line he turns round, says it was a mistake and runs out on you both...you can whoop his ass getting child maintenance if you're married.

Stop being so synical. Just say to him he needs to go away and have a think first, then come back with the offer if he really feeels its right for him. Explain marriage is for life, and divorce is nasty with a child being dragged through.
Once he see's the logical side and not the fairytale side he may change his mind.

If he doesnt....go for it, and be happy

but really? You cant lose!
xxx

first congrats if its what you want then go for it xx
and if he signs babys birth certificate then he has the same legal rights as you do to the baby

goodluck and follow ur heart xxxx

Maddiee · Nov 29th, 2009, 08:55 AM

Thanks Madcam.

we decided to just focus on the baby for now.
until he wants to go out next time and i get thrown on the back burner.

its progress though.

KrisKitten · Nov 29th, 2009, 09:49 AM

I can identify, mine did friday night too...i was rlly happy about the proposal.
However iv bin dealing with the whole - 'does he want me or does he just feel too gulity to end it' thing for ages. Tbh it was only the proposal that has kinda quashed that. Im not sure if he knew for sure until recent events either.
I will say tho (hypocritically lol) if he says he wants to be with u for u then believe him. Surely he wouldnt make grand gestures like proposals if he didnt mean it, hed just trundle on.
Good luck & congratulations

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Nov 29th, 2009, 06:24 AM	#1
Maddiee Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Australia Posts: 803	Sooo Confused! this doesn't have a lot to do with pregnancy but it has to do with the teen section. OH popped the question last night! What was i meant to say? of course i said yes, i do love him but i don't know if his feeling is mutual or if its just because i'm carrying his child? i might just be paranoid about it all but still. sorry about this little vent xoxo. Maddiee.

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Nov 29th, 2009, 06:56 AM	#2
trashit Pregnant (Expecting) Join Date: May 2009 Location: YORKSHIREEE :) Posts: 4,745	Aw thats so cute well congrats. Ask him if youre not sure but im sure his intentions are good, wish you all the best x

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Nov 29th, 2009, 06:58 AM	#3
Maddiee Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Australia Posts: 803	thanks. i can just imagine that conversation. lol don't get me wrong, i do love him and appreciate the sentiment, i just want to make sure he's doing because he wants to not because he feels he needs to. Thanks

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Nov 29th, 2009, 07:23 AM	#4
Mariaa Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: WINDSOR, south east Posts: 427	It works all in your favour... you marry him, becuase you love him, if something happens to you, he legally has NO rights over the child unless you are married-so its for the security of the child. AND god forbid it should happen, but if 5 years down the line he turns round, says it was a mistake and runs out on you both...you can whoop his ass getting child maintenance if you're married. Stop being so synical. Just say to him he needs to go away and have a think first, then come back with the offer if he really feeels its right for him. Explain marriage is for life, and divorce is nasty with a child being dragged through. Once he see's the logical side and not the fairytale side he may change his mind. If he doesnt....go for it, and be happy but really? You cant lose! xxx

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Nov 29th, 2009, 07:28 AM	#5
Maddiee Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Australia Posts: 803	thanks. i did text him and told him he needed to think but he's still hell bent on making it work. but either way i'm happy. i do believe he loves me and our bub but i doubt myself sometimes. Thanks for the advice.

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Nov 29th, 2009, 07:42 AM	#6
Mariaa Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: WINDSOR, south east Posts: 427	no problem. Just enjoy it xx

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Nov 29th, 2009, 08:29 AM	#7
Maddiee Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Australia Posts: 803	well, he just came home and seems fine. (yn) we decided not to act on it too soon. we're leaving it until the baby is settled and we're sure its what we want.

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Nov 29th, 2009, 08:55 AM	#9
Maddiee Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Australia Posts: 803	Thanks Madcam. we decided to just focus on the baby for now. until he wants to go out next time and i get thrown on the back burner. its progress though.

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Nov 29th, 2009, 09:49 AM	#10
KrisKitten Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: London Posts: 4,380	I can identify, mine did friday night too...i was rlly happy about the proposal. However iv bin dealing with the whole - 'does he want me or does he just feel too gulity to end it' thing for ages. Tbh it was only the proposal that has kinda quashed that. Im not sure if he knew for sure until recent events either. I will say tho (hypocritically lol) if he says he wants to be with u for u then believe him. Surely he wouldnt make grand gestures like proposals if he didnt mean it, hed just trundle on. Good luck & congratulations xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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