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Old Nov 29th, 2009, 12:24 PM   #1
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Sooo Confused!


this doesn't have a lot to do with pregnancy but it has to do with the teen section.

OH popped the question last night! What was i meant to say?

of course i said yes, i do love him but i don't know if his feeling is mutual or if its just because i'm carrying his child?

i might just be paranoid about it all but still.

sorry about this little vent

xoxo.
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Old Nov 29th, 2009, 12:56 PM   #2
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Aw thats so cute well congrats. Ask him if youre not sure but im sure his intentions are good, wish you all the best x
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Old Nov 29th, 2009, 12:58 PM   #3
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thanks. i can just imagine that conversation. lol
don't get me wrong, i do love him and appreciate the sentiment, i just want to make sure he's doing because he wants to not because he feels he needs to.
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Old Nov 29th, 2009, 13:23 PM   #4
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It works all in your favour... you marry him, becuase you love him, if something happens to you, he legally has NO rights over the child unless you are married-so its for the security of the child.
AND god forbid it should happen, but if 5 years down the line he turns round, says it was a mistake and runs out on you both...you can whoop his ass getting child maintenance if you're married.

Stop being so synical. Just say to him he needs to go away and have a think first, then come back with the offer if he really feeels its right for him. Explain marriage is for life, and divorce is nasty with a child being dragged through.
Once he see's the logical side and not the fairytale side he may change his mind.

If he doesnt....go for it, and be happy but really? You cant lose!
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Old Nov 29th, 2009, 13:28 PM   #5
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thanks. i did text him and told him he needed to think but he's still hell bent on making it work. but either way i'm happy.

i do believe he loves me and our bub but i doubt myself sometimes.

Thanks for the advice.
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Old Nov 29th, 2009, 13:42 PM   #6
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no problem.

Just enjoy it
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Old Nov 29th, 2009, 14:29 PM   #7
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well, he just came home and seems fine. (yn)

we decided not to act on it too soon.
we're leaving it until the baby is settled and we're sure its what we want.

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Old Nov 29th, 2009, 14:35 PM   #8
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It works all in your favour... you marry him, becuase you love him, if something happens to you, he legally has NO rights over the child unless you are married-so its for the security of the child.
AND god forbid it should happen, but if 5 years down the line he turns round, says it was a mistake and runs out on you both...you can whoop his ass getting child maintenance if you're married.

Stop being so synical. Just say to him he needs to go away and have a think first, then come back with the offer if he really feeels its right for him. Explain marriage is for life, and divorce is nasty with a child being dragged through.
Once he see's the logical side and not the fairytale side he may change his mind.

If he doesnt....go for it, and be happy but really? You cant lose!
xxx

first congrats if its what you want then go for it xx
and if he signs babys birth certificate then he has the same legal rights as you do to the baby

goodluck and follow ur heart xxxx
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Old Nov 29th, 2009, 14:55 PM   #9
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Thanks Madcam.

we decided to just focus on the baby for now.
until he wants to go out next time and i get thrown on the back burner.

its progress though.
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Old Nov 29th, 2009, 15:49 PM   #10
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I can identify, mine did friday night too...i was rlly happy about the proposal.
However iv bin dealing with the whole - 'does he want me or does he just feel too gulity to end it' thing for ages. Tbh it was only the proposal that has kinda quashed that. Im not sure if he knew for sure until recent events either.
I will say tho (hypocritically lol) if he says he wants to be with u for u then believe him. Surely he wouldnt make grand gestures like proposals if he didnt mean it, hed just trundle on.
Good luck & congratulations xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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