Sooo Confused! - Page 2

Maddiee · Nov 29th, 2009, 09:53 AM

thanks. i've had some time to think about and i came to the conclusion that we didn't plan this.
we were only together 3 months before i fell pregnant. he never asked me to terminate and he stuck up for me when we told his parents. he even tells his mates off, so i think he might acutally mean it

Emma.Gi · Nov 29th, 2009, 10:19 AM

Congrats hun,

Me and OH got engaged at 16 and 17, won't go into detail but we split not long after on mutual terms. We're back together now and he still has the ring, I'm hoping he will hold off for a while though. We need to get back in the loop of things.

You go with what you feel best.

and congrats! x

Mariaa · Nov 29th, 2009, 10:19 AM

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Originally Posted by madcam

first congrats if its what you want then go for it xx
and if he signs babys birth certificate then he has the same legal rights as you do to the baby

goodluck and follow ur heart xxxx

Talk to a lawyer if you must. no one signs a birth certificate but the registrar. The mother and fathers names are put down on it, but they do not sign it.
However, if something happened and any member of your family fought for custody, your OH would have no legal standing...

My mum HATED my dad, but married him for the pure reason that if something happened to her, he wouldnt get us if they wernt married.

Its a shame, that unmarried couples dont have the same rights. but its shitty government law.

Go for it anyway, its safe, secure, and you love him. It'll be amazing

xxx

Emma.Gi · Nov 29th, 2009, 10:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Mariaa

Quote:

Originally Posted by madcam

first congrats if its what you want then go for it xx
and if he signs babys birth certificate then he has the same legal rights as you do to the baby

goodluck and follow ur heart xxxx

Talk to a lawyer if you must. no one signs a birth certificate but the registrar. The mother and fathers names are put down on it, but they do not sign it.
However, if something happened and any member of your family fought for custody, your OH would have no legal standing...

My mum HATED my dad, but married him for the pure reason that if something happened to her, he wouldnt get us if they wernt married.

Its a shame, that unmarried couples dont have the same rights. but its shitty government law.

Go for it anyway, its safe, secure, and you love him. It'll be amazing

xxx

That SO doesn't sound right. Surely a father who is married to the mother of his child has more rights than an unmarried father?

Mariaa · Nov 29th, 2009, 10:37 AM

Yea, sorry if tht last one sounds confused.

For him to have any rights, you have to be married.
If something happens to you, and no one fights him, he get legal gaurdianship.
But say (like my mum who hates my OH) a family member fights him for the child. They would win 9/10 times. It is fucked up. But its the way it is. Unmarried couples dont have the same rights.

annawrigley · Nov 29th, 2009, 18:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Mariaa

For him to have any rights, you have to be married.

not so.
http://www.adviceguide.org.uk/index/...s.htm#Children
xx

KrisKitten · Nov 29th, 2009, 20:13 PM

Sorry Maria, Anna's right. And u do sign somethin wen u do the birth certificate. You cant name someone as the father without their consent. If you are married only one of u has to go and register the birth and u dont need signatures from both. If you are unmarried you both need to go and both need to sign. If the fathers name is on the certificate he has the rights of a father.
Also if something happens to the mother the father is entitled to custody wether or not they are married if he is named on the birth certificate. The only way the family can fight for custody and win is if they can prove the father is unfit otherwise he is a parent and has legal guardianship.

hope that helps xx

etcetera · Nov 29th, 2009, 20:17 PM

My boyfriend talked to me about marriage today!
I'm just not too sure, I love him, but Michael has a tendency to be very wishy-washy, and to be honest, in the past he hasn't wanted to marry me...

I don't know what's going on...I hope he's sincere though

Maddiee · Nov 30th, 2009, 00:43 AM

i know the laws are different in every country. and i'm not sure but i think where i live, we don't have to sign the birth certificate. either way, i know he'll be a good dad, i can just tell. so, i'm not worried about leaving our child with him. i know him, he'll settle down once he has to.

Maddiee · Dec 21st, 2009, 01:45 AM

we picked a date! just out of the blue the other night he says to me "August 15th" after a very confusing facial expression he just decided to use that date. just 4 months after bub is due. is that too soon? nothing has been set in stone yet. i just wonder about the sudden date he's chosen :S lol

Nov 29th, 2009, 09:53 AM	#11
Maddiee Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Australia Posts: 803	thanks. i've had some time to think about and i came to the conclusion that we didn't plan this. we were only together 3 months before i fell pregnant. he never asked me to terminate and he stuck up for me when we told his parents. he even tells his mates off, so i think he might acutally mean it

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Nov 29th, 2009, 10:19 AM	#12
Emma.Gi Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: England. Posts: 1,439	Congrats hun, Me and OH got engaged at 16 and 17, won't go into detail but we split not long after on mutual terms. We're back together now and he still has the ring, I'm hoping he will hold off for a while though. We need to get back in the loop of things. You go with what you feel best. and congrats! x

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Nov 29th, 2009, 10:37 AM	#15
Mariaa Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: WINDSOR, south east Posts: 427	Yea, sorry if tht last one sounds confused. For him to have any rights, you have to be married. If something happens to you, and no one fights him, he get legal gaurdianship. But say (like my mum who hates my OH) a family member fights him for the child. They would win 9/10 times. It is fucked up. But its the way it is. Unmarried couples dont have the same rights.

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Nov 29th, 2009, 20:13 PM	#17
KrisKitten Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: London Posts: 4,380	Sorry Maria, Anna's right. And u do sign somethin wen u do the birth certificate. You cant name someone as the father without their consent. If you are married only one of u has to go and register the birth and u dont need signatures from both. If you are unmarried you both need to go and both need to sign. If the fathers name is on the certificate he has the rights of a father. Also if something happens to the mother the father is entitled to custody wether or not they are married if he is named on the birth certificate. The only way the family can fight for custody and win is if they can prove the father is unfit otherwise he is a parent and has legal guardianship. hope that helps xx

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Nov 29th, 2009, 20:17 PM	#18
etcetera Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: North Carolina Posts: 414	My boyfriend talked to me about marriage today! I'm just not too sure, I love him, but Michael has a tendency to be very wishy-washy, and to be honest, in the past he hasn't wanted to marry me... I don't know what's going on...I hope he's sincere though

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Nov 30th, 2009, 00:43 AM	#19
Maddiee Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Australia Posts: 803	i know the laws are different in every country. and i'm not sure but i think where i live, we don't have to sign the birth certificate. either way, i know he'll be a good dad, i can just tell. so, i'm not worried about leaving our child with him. i know him, he'll settle down once he has to.

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Dec 21st, 2009, 01:45 AM	#20
Maddiee Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Australia Posts: 803	we picked a date! just out of the blue the other night he says to me "August 15th" after a very confusing facial expression he just decided to use that date. just 4 months after bub is due. is that too soon? nothing has been set in stone yet. i just wonder about the sudden date he's chosen :S lol

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