Cora_Corb

Hello All,

Im 19 years old and I just found out im 7 weeks and 4 days pregnant, and am due on July 11th 2010 ( I will be 19 and 11 months old then) . Im a little unsure of what to do. Dont get me wrong before this I was a supporter of teen moms there had been 5 girls in my graduating class whom gotten pregnant and had their children this year. I'm just unsure of what to do, I know I would be able to do this but it would be a stuggle. For me I guess the biggest thing is that I grew up with a Single mom and she stuggled our whole lives even though she was close to 35 when she had me.

I wonder if in doing and keeping my baby I would be giving them a good enough life? or if I should abort, I think adoption is out of the question for me as I would feel to attached to MY baby. Abortion though has always been against my family morals and my grandparents live in that old school world where we were raised like that.

I do have a partner whom I have been with on and off ( mostly on) for 4 years, he is my first love and we are serious about being together and always have been. He is also very level headed and thinks about things from many perspectives, which is nice because were on the same page about it.

Another thing that were worried about is our education, He has spent the last year and a half since high school travelling and working as a roofer, and is going back in January this year to upgrade and become a natural health doctor. I have spent the last year and a half since high school going to college for my diploma in hospitality. Technically I would be finished this year however due to the heavy course load this year I decided i would finish it in 2 and a half years instead of 2, meaning I would have 4 courses to finish from September- Jan, once the baby is here.

We both understand it will be hard anyway especially since I have delt with depression before. I just need some advice from people in the same boat, people who have dealt with the same thing ect. Thanks so much!!

chocaccino

Hi, I’m 17 and 12 weeks pregnant.
I was also very conscious of making the ‘right’ decision when I found out I was pregnant (wondering whether I could support it well enough), and can honestly say by keeping my baby I feel it’s 100% the right decision, and my OH is very supportive, but that’s up to the individual person. I’m at college and I’ve had to stop dance but I’m going to do my best to finish my other courses this year and come back in a year to finish dance, then I’ll be going to university (hopefully) obviously you can never plan your life when your expecting a LO. My mum is such an inspiration to me. She bought me up on a horrible council estate mainly on her own with no education but now she’s bought a house and is a secondary school teacher- it just proves it can be done, with a lot of hard work.

I don’t know if this helped but it made feel better lol.
Good luck with what ever you do.

xxx

toriaaaaTRASH

Hello

I had my daughter when I was 18. It was the scariest decision I've ever had to make in my life, although there never really was much of a decision for me. As soon as she existed I wanted her. You have to decide if you want this baby.

Now my daughter is 17 months old I have oppotunities to go to college, and do loads of things I could do before. Having a child is only the end of everything you hope for if you let it be.

sophie c

just to say i was 19years and 8months when i had my baby girl,

although im young its the best decision ive ever made to have my little girl, but saying that its different to your situation as my partner of 4 years also wanted a baby so in essence we were trying for alys.
i hope you come to the right decision for you and your baby soon

xx

Ginaerhol

i had just turned 19 when i fell pregnant with my daughter she is now almost 5 and has just started school and she is my life. I have put a few things on hold as i decided that i did want to have more children and i didnt want them to be too far apart so i am now pregnant with my 3rd and final child and i am 24. Next year i am starting an access to higher education course and if all goes well and i pass that i will be going on to study midwifery at uni. Admittedly having a child is the toughest path that you will ever take in life but it is also the most rewarding loving amazing thing to happen. I now have 2 daughters and have just been told that my 3rd is also a little girl and i cant wait. I hope that you can come to your decision easily good luck hunii xxx

jenny_wren

Emma.Gi

Hi hun

I was just 16 when I had my little man, who is now 1, it's been pretty hard, very hard in the beginning but we got through it and I would not change him for the World. Like Jenny says your first baby is hard whether you are 18 or 40. Having a child has given me better dreams and hopes for the future as I was kind of unsure before having him and although they may take longer to accomplish, I will do them.

You have to think hard and do what is right for you and the baby's daddy. x

chazzette

hi

Im 19, will be turning 20 a week after my little bug is born, and am currently 15 weeks 2 days pregnant.

I was shocked, scared and freaked out but now i have thought about it i dont think it makes any difference how old you are when you have children as long as you can support them and love them

I live with my bf in a housing association flat so we are lucky in that respect, but already the financial aspect is a bit worrying. i have M.E and have been signed off of work for the time being as the pregnancy is making me rather unwell (i only do 15 hours a week anyways) so we are having to dip into our little amount of savings to pay the bills....eek! :$

wishing you all the best in your pregnancy

hugs x

Vickie

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