i was just wondering if anyone else has an OH the doesn't get emotionally involved. when i told him i know he was shocked, well we both were, but he said it would seem more real when we had the scan and that was nearly 8 weeks ago and nothing really seems to have changed, the other day i was looking for cot as my mum is buying it so want to give her notice to which one we want, but he would have rather sat on facebook but in the end i forced the website on him and it was just like yeah whatever. he never puts his hand on my stomach unless i put it there myself and last night messing around i said say bye to the baby and he kicked off sayin to shut up etc which then open a whole new can of worm as on monday i went home for tea on my own and have to admt i had felt quite emotional all day and i then went to my aunties after and mum said had i ought to lwet him know i said he wouldnt care anyway. then last night he brought it all up and i said you don't give a shit, dnt worry you don't need to be involved with getting anything, and he took it the wrong way sayin he didnt care about the baby and didnt need to be involved when the baby was born, i now know was a mistake saying that but didn't mean it how he look it. anyway i don't really know why i'm saying this but suppose does anyone have any advice? if you do thnx

hey i know how ur feeling, im having the same problem.. i think they find it harder to see it as something real because they dont have any physical changes and until baby is born their lives arent really affected at all, or so they think.. me and my oh have just split up because i feel that me stressing over him not stressing (if that makes sense lol) is making me go crazy! i think once the baby is born and he can actually see for himself then things will change. hopefully anyway? good luck x

Luckily We didn't split up when we found out, We have been together for nearly 4 years & recently we has been acting like a dick!
inviting his friends to the apartment to get out of their heads MOST NIGHTS!
I think that whatever happens is going to & if its good or bad you have to make light out of the situation... say like you will have less stress or whatever?! I dunno but maybe just call him & say meet me in some coffee shop so he can't blow up & has to keep his dignity infront of others, but I wouldn't give any ultimatums because things change!! I think it must also be hard for a boy finding out his girlfriends expecting because it wasn't even real to me until i got a bump & feel the kicks & hiccups! & boys can't feel it inside of them! Some days I wake up thinking its a big dream!

Sorry I didn't really help with much! Hope it gets sorted!

xx

my oh is just the same but it's probably just because it's not that real to him atm.he's not really interested when looking for baby things and hardly ever holds my stomache or anything . We've had an arguement about it feeling like he doesn't care in the past which was stupid as he's one of the most caring people in the world. As soon as our babies are born they'll be a big change

hi thnx for all the replies i'm pleased i'm not the only its just men, we spoke last night and he did say its different for him as it's not him whose carrying and i can see where he is coming from, i think maybe when we start really getting things sorted like doing the nursery then he'll probably feel more involved. thnx