Hi Bird

I have been with my OH for nearly 9 years. He has 3 kids from his marriage. When I first met him, his youngest was nearly 2. We have had them every other weekend more or less since then.

We used to have his youngest in our bed which was in all honesty too much as even back then, I wanted children.

When I m/c, I told OH that I did not want to be around the 1st weekend we had his youngest as it would be too much for me to cope with.

It has got better over the years but it is extremely difficult when all you want is one of your own.

xx

Yep his little one shares the bed with us too when he stays on weds and over the weekend....that can be quite hard sometimes
OH was telling me how excited he would be if i got pregnant and has never felt that before as it was by accident with his ex...so that made me feel relly happy

Thanks for all the advice i cant believe how much its helped

Might have to save all the replies for when i start to feel crap then i'll read them and feel better again

Thanks!! xx

My sisters boyfriend has a son from a previous marriage.My mom was very upset by this because she tought that he won't have kids with my sisters because of this.

Anyway,they get along quite well,he sings to her mama mia(because her name is mia)....my sister realized that he is a huge part of her life and is dealing with it....

pregnancy is always an emotional rollercoaster - especially with complicating factors like this thrown in. Just try to remember that you are the one he is having this baby with and he is standing by you - nothing else matters in the big picture

You could take comfort from his committment to his child because you can be confident that he will be a committed, supportive, responsible and loving father to your child - If he was willing to give up his time or attention to his child for anything then you would have cause for concern. But as much as it sucks sometimes to have to share your OH and to constantly have his ex in the picture, just focus on how things are now - he loves you and is having his baby with you and is always 100% gonna be there for the two of you. And that's beautiful.

Hope you feel better soon, hun x

Thanks again for your advice

we are just TTC at the moment so i'm not actually pregnant but obviously i understand what you mean and think its amazing that he wants to plan to have a baby with me rather than it happening by mistake.

We are both really happy and the thread has helped me see whats important...... Thanks

xxx

Glad you're feeling better