Broody or ..

Daniellebelle · Nov 20th, 2009, 13:21 PM

Okay well basically, 3 -4 weeks ago i found out i was pregnant. Was unplanned, and we was using protection but hey ho i was happy about it and always said i would never have an abortion and OH was a bit scared at first but then he came round to the idea and was over the moon. A week after i found out i started spotting. Cut a long story short, i lost my baby on friday the 13th. Since losing the baby i've never been so broody in my whole life. I'm 19 btw and OH is 20, he goes to uni and i work.
When we found out i might be miscarrying OH said oh its fine we will just have another one, i mentioned it to him this morning and he was outraged and said he doesnt want kids yet which is understandable but i just really want a baby and idk why. -_-
He said he wants to wait untill he's 25 and all i can keep thinkin about it what if my baby was still alive now, i would be almost 8 weeks now

It's really getting me down. I know its stupid to want to have another baby to get over the loss of one but blah. God knows. Can anyone else relate to me or am i just losing the plot?
Danielle xx

Daniellebelle · Nov 20th, 2009, 13:21 PM

Sorry if this thread is in the wrong place, but i wanted to hear from other people my age who have been in the same situation, plus i'm not ttc or wtt so idk where this is supposed to be.

Windmills · Nov 20th, 2009, 13:59 PM

I think the way you're feeling is very normal hun, I know when I had a MC I was DESPERATE for a baby afterwards, but decided to WTT until I had a good job etc. Obviously I'm pregnant now but it was unplanned, and pretty sure the baby's Dad has left me

Anyway, I know exactly how you feel xx

xforuiholdonx · Nov 20th, 2009, 17:52 PM

Hey hun,
I lost my first child was 12 weeks 4 days. Its very heartbreaking to get attached and have that child ripped from your body. && its also a very CRUEL joke nature can plan. I can relate to the feeling dear. Only you know what is in turn best for you. Take some time to heal and if you can convince the boyfriend, have another go around. My boyfriend came home October 6th [[he was in the marine corps]], and a week later, I was pregnant again. WE got the whole yelling nonsense from our parents and what not, but its your life, and your desicions effect your life only, well and your man's. Follow your heart. :-).
Pm me if you need to chat.
Lisaa.

Aidan's Mummy · Nov 20th, 2009, 18:09 PM

Hey hunni

Its so natutral what you are feeling. You have just lost something very special and you want that back

Talk to your OH about how your feeling and them maybe you can both come to an agreement which is great for you both

xx

shocker · Nov 20th, 2009, 19:50 PM

Sorry for your loss

I know what you mean, im 19 and ever since i lost my lo ive been thinking about nothing else.My boyfriend left when i told him so theres no chance really of me having another anytime soon.I think its normal to want so desperately to try and fill that hole in your heart, its like the most overwhelming desperation ive ever experianced.Your oh says he wants to wait til hes 25 and thats great in its own way, you can plan your wait and get yourself ready with a house/good job/etc. The wait is easier when you have a plan, join the wtt section theres a good few young people there waiting years but preparing in their own ways

if you ever want to talk feel free to pm me

xMissxZoiex · Nov 26th, 2009, 09:55 AM

Sorry to hear about you mc hun.
Im 19 aswell on my oh is 20 we are TTC so i know what its like to really want a baby we decided to wait untill we had job house car the lot and we have that now and we are happy there just seems to be something missing.
Like the girls about said your feelings are completely normal.
If you ever want a chat PM me.
Wishing you luck for the future hun xxxx

Nov 20th, 2009, 13:21 PM	#1
Daniellebelle Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: West Midlands Posts: 69	Broody or .. Okay well basically, 3 -4 weeks ago i found out i was pregnant. Was unplanned, and we was using protection but hey ho i was happy about it and always said i would never have an abortion and OH was a bit scared at first but then he came round to the idea and was over the moon. A week after i found out i started spotting. Cut a long story short, i lost my baby on friday the 13th. Since losing the baby i've never been so broody in my whole life. I'm 19 btw and OH is 20, he goes to uni and i work. When we found out i might be miscarrying OH said oh its fine we will just have another one, i mentioned it to him this morning and he was outraged and said he doesnt want kids yet which is understandable but i just really want a baby and idk why. -_- He said he wants to wait untill he's 25 and all i can keep thinkin about it what if my baby was still alive now, i would be almost 8 weeks now It's really getting me down. I know its stupid to want to have another baby to get over the loss of one but blah. God knows. Can anyone else relate to me or am i just losing the plot? Danielle xx

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Nov 20th, 2009, 13:21 PM	#2
Daniellebelle Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: West Midlands Posts: 69	Sorry if this thread is in the wrong place, but i wanted to hear from other people my age who have been in the same situation, plus i'm not ttc or wtt so idk where this is supposed to be.

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Nov 20th, 2009, 13:59 PM	#3
Windmills Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 8,417	I think the way you're feeling is very normal hun, I know when I had a MC I was DESPERATE for a baby afterwards, but decided to WTT until I had a good job etc. Obviously I'm pregnant now but it was unplanned, and pretty sure the baby's Dad has left me Anyway, I know exactly how you feel xx

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Nov 20th, 2009, 17:52 PM	#4
xforuiholdonx Other Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: East Coast Posts: 1,180	Hey hun, I lost my first child was 12 weeks 4 days. Its very heartbreaking to get attached and have that child ripped from your body. && its also a very CRUEL joke nature can plan. I can relate to the feeling dear. Only you know what is in turn best for you. Take some time to heal and if you can convince the boyfriend, have another go around. My boyfriend came home October 6th [[he was in the marine corps]], and a week later, I was pregnant again. WE got the whole yelling nonsense from our parents and what not, but its your life, and your desicions effect your life only, well and your man's. Follow your heart. :-). Pm me if you need to chat. Lisaa.

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Nov 20th, 2009, 18:09 PM	#5
Aidan's Mummy Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Hull Posts: 11,001	Hey hunni Its so natutral what you are feeling. You have just lost something very special and you want that back Talk to your OH about how your feeling and them maybe you can both come to an agreement which is great for you both xx

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Nov 20th, 2009, 19:50 PM	#6
shocker Waiting To Try (WTT) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: London Posts: 3,590	Sorry for your loss I know what you mean, im 19 and ever since i lost my lo ive been thinking about nothing else.My boyfriend left when i told him so theres no chance really of me having another anytime soon.I think its normal to want so desperately to try and fill that hole in your heart, its like the most overwhelming desperation ive ever experianced.Your oh says he wants to wait til hes 25 and thats great in its own way, you can plan your wait and get yourself ready with a house/good job/etc. The wait is easier when you have a plan, join the wtt section theres a good few young people there waiting years but preparing in their own ways if you ever want to talk feel free to pm me

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Nov 26th, 2009, 09:55 AM	#7
xMissxZoiex Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nottingham, UK Posts: 5,152	Sorry to hear about you mc hun. Im 19 aswell on my oh is 20 we are TTC so i know what its like to really want a baby we decided to wait untill we had job house car the lot and we have that now and we are happy there just seems to be something missing. Like the girls about said your feelings are completely normal. If you ever want a chat PM me. Wishing you luck for the future hun xxxx

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