Okay, this may get long, but I need to know what to do, I really need you girls' help!

So...Michael and I have been having a...rough patch. Things haven't ever been easy so to speak but it's been working. However, the other night I started talking to him about our sex life. This may be TMI, but to be honest, (even though this may be a really bad thing to say) I though that our sex life was the one thing in our relationship that we would always agree on. I mean, I really thought that it was a solid area. THEN he goes and tells me that he hates A LOT of the stuff that we do that he told me he liked! That just made me feel veeeery insecure about everything. I mean God, i don't know what to do now with that department.

Okay, THEN, yesterday I decided to get on facebook for once, and I decided to see what he's been up to, and I noticed that he'd been talking a lot to a girl named Anna. I was a bit disturbed because once I started reading these conversations they were ALL about how much they missed each other and how much she couldn't wait for him to come back to the states so they could go back to the beach (where they kissed and he allegedly told her he loved her). He agreed.

I asked him about it, and he just kind of told me that there was nothing to worry about, but I think there is. I'm really upset, but there isn't anything i can do about any of it. Then he had the nerve to say "we're having a child, that means something to me, i don't know about you"

That statement was the FIRST thing he's ever said to make anyone thinks he even cares about the baby. Everytime we have an argument he says that it isn't his. I don't know what to do anymore. I really don't.

Any advice? Any at all?

Aww babe try not to worry. The only thing I've learned is not to check on my boyfriends interactions with other ppl. I used to check my ex's phone and facebook and myspace but I've learned doing that can cause you to stress over something that is actually nothing and on top of that they stop trusting you and hide stuff from you.
But you know your boyfriend it's just something you need to decide, "should I worry about someone over in the states or should I just be happy that he is here with me?"
it's a good thing that he has finally mentioned the baby in a positive way. Things will be different once he holds his baby
good luck Hun xxx

thanks so much (:
I really hope you're right...And maybe I should stop checking, but it's not my fault he left it for the world to see. lol

I know exactly what u mean. And no doubt u would feel a tad embarressed that he is talking to some ex lover like that on facebook.
I mean it took me a long time to learn not to check on my boyfriends but now with my current boyfriend I don't check on anything, possibly because I trust him completely.
But yeah things will change once bub is born hopefully for the best.

I really hope what I've said helps and doesn't get you down

hey hun, as far as the sex thing i would just be like" ok well if you dont like whats been going on then show me what you do like then so we can make this better for the both of us". then explain that theres going to be some stuff that you cant do because your preg and have to find different things to do. as far as him talking to his ex on face book i would suggest just tell him if hes going to talk to his ex you want him to be more open with you about things hes talking about and he needs to show you he REALLY does love you. with him talking about the baby, thats a start and just remind him when he says + things that it happend because you love him and now its time to bring the child up togather...... maybe he will think things through