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Princess L · Nov 13th, 2009, 11:11 AM

ok so i posted this in the introduction section but thought i would post here too. it would be amazing to chat to someone who is my age and going through this.

hi i'm lauren. i joined yesterday but didn't really know what to say here, i'm kinda new to this so you guys might need to help me out. The reason i joined now?? well last week my bf of almost 3 years decided to leave me, and in 2 weeks time i'm due to give birth. nice huh? guess i'd always known deep down that he was a jerk but now he's proved himself.

i'm having a boy and i really can't wait but now i'm really scared because i'd kinda broken down communication with my family to be with my bf and now i'm 18 pregnant and alone.

i have spoken to my mum and we're trying to work things out but in addition to blanking my family, i also managed to alienate my friends and all for a guy who decides to leg it at the last minute. so i just wanted someone to chat too and i like being online, so here i am.

well guess i ramble alot.
lauren and bump xx

annawrigley · Nov 13th, 2009, 11:22 AM

hi hun first off congratulations! bet you're so excited!

secondly my bf has just left me too

im nowhere as close to giving birth as you are so i really feel for you

it isn't nice!
i also know what you mean about alienating friends and family, luckily they are all talking to me again (as i hope yours will too!!) its just they all hated him and didn't understand why i was with him so kinda stopped speaking to me :\
it will get better

are you in contact with any friends at the moment? you need lots of support right now!!
hope youre ok if you ever need anything we're all here
oh and theres quite a few teen single mums and mums to be here, theres a thread for them hereee >> S T M ( Single Teen Mummy & Mummy-to-be's ) (hope that worked, if not im sure one of the other girls will link you to it

)
xxxxx

jenny_wren · Nov 13th, 2009, 11:29 AM

welcome to bnb

and huge congratulations xx

you'll find when there's a baby involved
your family can be very forgiving ..

i didn't speak to my mum after leaving
home until i got pregnant and now we're
closer than ever as for friends i lost alot
of them too but trust me you gain nicer
mummy friends perhaps go to baby groups
and what not when your little boy is born?

but dont worry you're not alone in being
a single mums there's loads on here who
amaze me everyday ...

if you wanna chat or ask anything im always
about

xx

TattiesMum · Nov 13th, 2009, 11:32 AM

Hi Princess

Sorry to hear about your FOB

Sadly it's not uncommon though and there are lots of FAB girlies on here who will be able to help you through

I'm sure you will be able to work things out with your Mum and family too

Anna I LOVE the names you have chosen

Princess L · Nov 13th, 2009, 11:32 AM

Yeh i'm really excited - i feel like having this baby is how it's supposed to be, i just didn't picture doing it alone. Men can be such a pain in the ass sometimes, he has left before but that was right at the beginning and i thought he had changed. sorry bout your bf too but we've got our own little guys on the way. i love that i'm having a boy, it seems perfect but i'm not as organised as you - i have no name yet!

thanks for the support, just trying to get my head around things. i'm on maternity leave from work now so i have alot of me time before the baby arrives. and the link did work so well done you =)

annawrigley · Nov 13th, 2009, 11:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Princess L

Yeh i'm really excited - i feel like having this baby is how it's supposed to be, i just didn't picture doing it alone. Men can be such a pain in the ass sometimes, he has left before but that was right at the beginning and i thought he had changed. sorry bout your bf too but we've got our own little guys on the way. i love that i'm having a boy, it seems perfect but i'm not as organised as you - i have no name yet!

thanks for the support, just trying to get my head around things. i'm on maternity leave from work now so i have alot of me time before the baby arrives. and the link did work so well done you =)

i know what you mean, i pictured us as a little happy family but i guess not!

does he still want to be involved in your son's life do you know?
ahhh dont worry my parents didnt choose my little brothers name for like 6 months after he was born. we just called him "baby'! haha

yay

i will probably see you in there too then! xxx

Quote:

Originally Posted by TattiesMum

Anna I LOVE the names you have chosen

thank you! FOB wanted Noah Patrick... but its not his decision anymore

muahaha xx

Princess L · Nov 13th, 2009, 11:58 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by annawrigley

i know what you mean, i pictured us as a little happy family but i guess not!

does he still want to be involved in your son's life do you know?
ahhh dont worry my parents didnt choose my little brothers name for like 6 months after he was born. we just called him "baby'! haha

yay

i will probably see you in there too then! xxx

yeh that's what i was hoping for but things rarely turn out like you plan them to. i have no idea what he wants. he left on bonfire night, got extremely drunk and called me up saying he was sorry and he did love me etc. etc. i told him to get sober and call me again. he didn't call for another couple of days and then it was only to ask if i had something of his. he says he needs time to get his head around things and wants me to wait for him 'to be ready' (his words!)

i have a very long list of names that i like but it's so difficult to choose one that my son will have for the rest of his life - i keep changing my mind lol!

Jemma_x · Nov 13th, 2009, 12:03 PM

Welcome to bnb, im sure you'll feel right at home here

Emma.Gi · Nov 13th, 2009, 12:14 PM

Hi hun, already said a little something in the STM thread but I thought I'd post here too.

The FOB sounds like such a shit, just 'cause he can get up and walk away from it doesn't mean you can, not that you would but it's like 1 rule for him, a different rule for you.

Congrats on your pregnancy, little boys are awesome!

I am a single mummy to a 14 month old (nearly 1, corrected) boy and although he goes to his daddy most weekends, we do just fine. It's not easy, I won't lie but nothing worth having is easy. Just keep strong. I'm glad you're getting back in contact with your family, that must be hard after not talking for so long.

Anytime you need to chat, we're all here

xx~Lor~xx · Nov 13th, 2009, 12:44 PM

Hiya

Welcome to BnB and congratulations on your pregnancy! And he's almost here! Bet you're really excited. Sorry to hear about your boyfriend, some men can be such cowards at times. Good luck with the birth!

xoxox

Nov 13th, 2009, 11:11 AM	#1
Princess L Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Bristol, UK Posts: 40	new here ok so i posted this in the introduction section but thought i would post here too. it would be amazing to chat to someone who is my age and going through this. hi i'm lauren. i joined yesterday but didn't really know what to say here, i'm kinda new to this so you guys might need to help me out. The reason i joined now?? well last week my bf of almost 3 years decided to leave me, and in 2 weeks time i'm due to give birth. nice huh? guess i'd always known deep down that he was a jerk but now he's proved himself. i'm having a boy and i really can't wait but now i'm really scared because i'd kinda broken down communication with my family to be with my bf and now i'm 18 pregnant and alone. i have spoken to my mum and we're trying to work things out but in addition to blanking my family, i also managed to alienate my friends and all for a guy who decides to leg it at the last minute. so i just wanted someone to chat too and i like being online, so here i am. well guess i ramble alot. lauren and bump xx

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Nov 13th, 2009, 11:22 AM	#2
annawrigley Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: York, UK Posts: 10,807	hi hun first off congratulations! bet you're so excited! secondly my bf has just left me too im nowhere as close to giving birth as you are so i really feel for you it isn't nice! i also know what you mean about alienating friends and family, luckily they are all talking to me again (as i hope yours will too!!) its just they all hated him and didn't understand why i was with him so kinda stopped speaking to me :\ it will get better are you in contact with any friends at the moment? you need lots of support right now!! hope youre ok if you ever need anything we're all here oh and theres quite a few teen single mums and mums to be here, theres a thread for them hereee >> S T M ( Single Teen Mummy & Mummy-to-be's ) (hope that worked, if not im sure one of the other girls will link you to it ) xxxxx

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Nov 13th, 2009, 11:29 AM	#3
jenny_wren Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: farnborough, hampshire Posts: 16,977	welcome to bnb and huge congratulations xx you'll find when there's a baby involved your family can be very forgiving .. i didn't speak to my mum after leaving home until i got pregnant and now we're closer than ever as for friends i lost alot of them too but trust me you gain nicer mummy friends perhaps go to baby groups and what not when your little boy is born? but dont worry you're not alone in being a single mums there's loads on here who amaze me everyday ... if you wanna chat or ask anything im always about xx

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Nov 13th, 2009, 11:32 AM	#4
TattiesMum Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Bedfordshire Posts: 3,577	Hi Princess Sorry to hear about your FOB Sadly it's not uncommon though and there are lots of FAB girlies on here who will be able to help you through I'm sure you will be able to work things out with your Mum and family too Anna I LOVE the names you have chosen

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Nov 13th, 2009, 11:32 AM	#5
Princess L Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Bristol, UK Posts: 40	Yeh i'm really excited - i feel like having this baby is how it's supposed to be, i just didn't picture doing it alone. Men can be such a pain in the ass sometimes, he has left before but that was right at the beginning and i thought he had changed. sorry bout your bf too but we've got our own little guys on the way. i love that i'm having a boy, it seems perfect but i'm not as organised as you - i have no name yet! thanks for the support, just trying to get my head around things. i'm on maternity leave from work now so i have alot of me time before the baby arrives. and the link did work so well done you =)

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Jemma_x Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 13,382	Welcome to bnb, im sure you'll feel right at home here

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Emma.Gi Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: England. Posts: 1,439	Hi hun, already said a little something in the STM thread but I thought I'd post here too. The FOB sounds like such a shit, just 'cause he can get up and walk away from it doesn't mean you can, not that you would but it's like 1 rule for him, a different rule for you. Congrats on your pregnancy, little boys are awesome! I am a single mummy to a 14 month old (nearly 1, corrected) boy and although he goes to his daddy most weekends, we do just fine. It's not easy, I won't lie but nothing worth having is easy. Just keep strong. I'm glad you're getting back in contact with your family, that must be hard after not talking for so long. Anytime you need to chat, we're all here

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Nov 13th, 2009, 12:44 PM	#10
xx~Lor~xx Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Essex, UK Posts: 5,165	Hiya Welcome to BnB and congratulations on your pregnancy! And he's almost here! Bet you're really excited. Sorry to hear about your boyfriend, some men can be such cowards at times. Good luck with the birth! xoxox

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