is there anything wrong with being a teen mum??

xjade_edenx · Feb 28th, 2008, 05:44 AM

hiya
i fell pregnant with my first babie when i was 15, i am now 16 and 8 months pregnant and i was just wondering if any of you got filthy looks from other parents or older pregnant women, as i seem to get them alot and i think it is to do with my age but the thing that bothers me most is they automatically asume that you (i) am going to be a rubbish mum because of my age

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Am i the only one...... and i don't know what to do about it because let's face it i don't want to be rude.

nikky0907 · Feb 28th, 2008, 06:39 AM

Age has nothing to do with being a good mom.But people often associate teen pregnancy with dropping out of school,women are not married,welfare,bad families and so on.It's not true.I'm not married but I'm not dropping out of school,I have money,I live alone and I personaly think that I could be a better mother than those judgemental people...

maddiwatts19 · Feb 28th, 2008, 07:01 AM

Aww bless you hun!.
Personally i havent had any of that yet, but im 19 and not showing...
But i've had friends who have been pregnant young, and yeah they got glared at and bitched about, but at the end of the day they are now GREAT parents, and no-one can say anything against them because their children are so loved and only have the best.
Its not age that makes a great parent, its the person.
Im sure you will be a fantastic mum. It might be harder, and yeah people might judge you, but they dont have the right to. You know how good a mum you'll be, and that you'll love your baby more than anything.
Dont worry about anyone else, just concentrate on you and bubbie, and the fact that soon your going to have something in your life you love more than anything.
Chin up sweeite
xxxx

oOKayOo · Feb 28th, 2008, 07:14 AM

Im not far from 21 and i get looks all the time. Mostly from older women. I was pregnant with my first when i was 17 and the looks still havent changed since then.

What Nikky said its cos they think we are on benefits, will be bad mums, have no experience blah blah. When in fact thats not the case.

I also get looks when my two year old throws a tantrum in town. Everyone seems to tut. She is a bloody toddler and it seems that she has to be as good as gold 24/7 and they have never seen a child cry before!

So the looks may not change until your child is old enough to understnd absolutly everything!! So its really not worth worrying over lol! I tut back at them and put my keep my head up high and walk off without a care after all they are acting like the immature child if they give off tuts and looks to everone young! screw em

anita665 · Feb 28th, 2008, 07:22 AM

I'm not a teen mum, I'm 22 but I just wanted to say you live really close to me. I'm in Carlton Colville.

xjade_edenx · Feb 28th, 2008, 07:29 AM

o yer lol
i actually live in kessingland but most people are like "wheres that " so lol

xjade_edenx · Feb 28th, 2008, 07:31 AM

What i mean by being a rubbish mum is that people think you are child youself and have no idea about disiplin or how to look after a child. i personally think thats rubbish but i can't help feeling like they are all going to be right....... sad i know lol

AppleBlossom · Feb 28th, 2008, 08:34 AM

I think that people have too much of a sterotyped view of a teen mum. When they see a pregnant teenager they assume we're all on benefits, living in council houses when in fact a lot of teenagers, including myself (I'm 18 and almost 6 months pregnant) work for money. I'm in part time work for the minute, just got a new flat (not council) with my boyfriend who works pretty much full time and is in his final year of uni.
If you do get dirty looks off people, ignore them. It doesn't matter what they think as long as you know that you will give your baby the best care you can. In many cases we make better mums than people in their 30's.

Serene123 · Feb 28th, 2008, 08:38 AM

I've been really lucky. Even though I look 15 ( I am 18 ) no one has said anything to me or looks at me in a weird way. If they did I wouldn't just take it. They know nothing about me, my life, or my situation. They can judge me all they want but I'm going to judge them too.

If you want to have a baby at 15 then that's your decision. Unfortunately there's alot of people that forget about 50 years ago it was normal to have kids that young.

I'm sure you're going to be a great mum and love your baby just like you should do. Babies don't need much, just love and comfort. If you love your baby then stick two fingers up to anyone who thinks you can't do it.

Linzi · Feb 28th, 2008, 09:00 AM

Im 21 and even I get funny looks which I think is probably due to my age. But then I always get ID'd everywhere I go so I guess I look a bit younger than I am. Even so, its not right.

Being younger doesn't make you any less of a good mum that someone whos 30, as long as you want to be.

Dont take any notice, Im sure you'll be a fantastic mummy

xxx

Feb 28th, 2008, 05:44 AM	#1
xjade_edenx Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Lowestoft Posts: 99	is there anything wrong with being a teen mum?? hiya i fell pregnant with my first babie when i was 15, i am now 16 and 8 months pregnant and i was just wondering if any of you got filthy looks from other parents or older pregnant women, as i seem to get them alot and i think it is to do with my age but the thing that bothers me most is they automatically asume that you (i) am going to be a rubbish mum because of my age. Am i the only one...... and i don't know what to do about it because let's face it i don't want to be rude.

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Feb 28th, 2008, 06:39 AM	#2
nikky0907 Mum (Mom) Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: New England, USA Posts: 11,326	Age has nothing to do with being a good mom.But people often associate teen pregnancy with dropping out of school,women are not married,welfare,bad families and so on.It's not true.I'm not married but I'm not dropping out of school,I have money,I live alone and I personaly think that I could be a better mother than those judgemental people...

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Feb 28th, 2008, 07:01 AM	#3
maddiwatts19 Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 4,835	Aww bless you hun!. Personally i havent had any of that yet, but im 19 and not showing... But i've had friends who have been pregnant young, and yeah they got glared at and bitched about, but at the end of the day they are now GREAT parents, and no-one can say anything against them because their children are so loved and only have the best. Its not age that makes a great parent, its the person. Im sure you will be a fantastic mum. It might be harder, and yeah people might judge you, but they dont have the right to. You know how good a mum you'll be, and that you'll love your baby more than anything. Dont worry about anyone else, just concentrate on you and bubbie, and the fact that soon your going to have something in your life you love more than anything. Chin up sweeite xxxx

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Feb 28th, 2008, 07:14 AM	#4
oOKayOo Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: South West Posts: 6,226	Im not far from 21 and i get looks all the time. Mostly from older women. I was pregnant with my first when i was 17 and the looks still havent changed since then. What Nikky said its cos they think we are on benefits, will be bad mums, have no experience blah blah. When in fact thats not the case. I also get looks when my two year old throws a tantrum in town. Everyone seems to tut. She is a bloody toddler and it seems that she has to be as good as gold 24/7 and they have never seen a child cry before! So the looks may not change until your child is old enough to understnd absolutly everything!! So its really not worth worrying over lol! I tut back at them and put my keep my head up high and walk off without a care after all they are acting like the immature child if they give off tuts and looks to everone young! screw em

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Feb 28th, 2008, 07:22 AM	#5
anita665 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Norfolk, UK Posts: 2,689	I'm not a teen mum, I'm 22 but I just wanted to say you live really close to me. I'm in Carlton Colville.

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Feb 28th, 2008, 07:29 AM	#6
xjade_edenx Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Lowestoft Posts: 99	o yer lol i actually live in kessingland but most people are like "wheres that " so lol

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Feb 28th, 2008, 07:31 AM	#7
xjade_edenx Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Lowestoft Posts: 99	What i mean by being a rubbish mum is that people think you are child youself and have no idea about disiplin or how to look after a child. i personally think thats rubbish but i can't help feeling like they are all going to be right....... sad i know lol

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Feb 28th, 2008, 08:34 AM	#8
AppleBlossom Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Liverpool, UK Posts: 25,860	I think that people have too much of a sterotyped view of a teen mum. When they see a pregnant teenager they assume we're all on benefits, living in council houses when in fact a lot of teenagers, including myself (I'm 18 and almost 6 months pregnant) work for money. I'm in part time work for the minute, just got a new flat (not council) with my boyfriend who works pretty much full time and is in his final year of uni. If you do get dirty looks off people, ignore them. It doesn't matter what they think as long as you know that you will give your baby the best care you can. In many cases we make better mums than people in their 30's.

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Feb 28th, 2008, 08:38 AM	#9
Serene123 Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 32,048	I've been really lucky. Even though I look 15 ( I am 18 ) no one has said anything to me or looks at me in a weird way. If they did I wouldn't just take it. They know nothing about me, my life, or my situation. They can judge me all they want but I'm going to judge them too. If you want to have a baby at 15 then that's your decision. Unfortunately there's alot of people that forget about 50 years ago it was normal to have kids that young. I'm sure you're going to be a great mum and love your baby just like you should do. Babies don't need much, just love and comfort. If you love your baby then stick two fingers up to anyone who thinks you can't do it.

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Feb 28th, 2008, 09:00 AM	#10
Linzi Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Leeds UK Posts: 15,769	Im 21 and even I get funny looks which I think is probably due to my age. But then I always get ID'd everywhere I go so I guess I look a bit younger than I am. Even so, its not right. Being younger doesn't make you any less of a good mum that someone whos 30, as long as you want to be. Dont take any notice, Im sure you'll be a fantastic mummy xxx

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