15 and I want a baby!

IWntaBaby · Nov 8th, 2009, 14:35 PM

Hi, I was having a bit of a google around, looking at teenage Mum stuff, seeing if it is a bad as everyone says, and I found this. I'm 16 in two months, and I want a baby, have done for a few years now. I haven't got a boyfriend, and I know its stupid thinking what I am, but I can't shake the feeling.

I know they all say you onl want a baby because you think it'd be a toy, something that is only yours, something to love becaue you weren't loved as a child. Thats not me at all. I want a baby because I can't think of anything beter than bringing a child into the world.

I come from a rather rich family, but my Mother would kill my dead if she had to help me out with a baby.

Anyone feel the same as me? and who went through with it?

Thanks. J x

Aidan's Mummy · Nov 8th, 2009, 14:40 PM

First of all you have no idea what its like being a teen mum just because you googled it. That in its self proves that you are in no means ready to have a baby

I became pregnant at 16 AND IT IS HARD. How are you going to pay for this child?? Where are you going to live

Being a teen mum isnt about oh yeah I want a baby I come from a rich family so they will help me

Finish school, go to college get a job and support you self

Being a teen mum I know how hard it is most of us mums are great mums but please dont just have a baby because "You cant think of anything beter to do"

jenny_wren · Nov 8th, 2009, 14:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Aidan's Mummy

First of all you have no idea what its like being a teen mum just because you googled it. That in its self proves that you are in no means ready to have a baby

Finish school, go to college get a job and support you self

Being a teen mum I know how hard it is most of us mums are great mums but please dont just have a baby because "You cant think of anything beter to do"

second!! well said!

x

Lil-woowoo · Nov 8th, 2009, 14:45 PM

I too was a teen mum at 18 and seriously is hard work. I had a boyfriend at the time and hes been there the whole time and supports my wee boy. I am at the moment just got 9 months left at uni til i am qualified as a nurse and hell its hard work and stressful. You will never ever understand the emotional side of being a teen mum and sadly theres a huge stigma attached to this and you gotta prove yourself much harder than older mums. Enjoy your life just now, finish school and get a career and be teen as long as you can cause you can never get back those years x

honey08 · Nov 8th, 2009, 14:48 PM

i find it extremly hard and im 28 !! the night feeds,the demands, im online now cos hes asleep,my baby was planned cos ive had nights out on the piss and everything eles then finally at 27 i was ready BUT like u if i ad it my own way i wuda been a teen mum only thing was i didnt get preg ( although i tried ! and thank whoever/wotever reason i dint concieve til i was 27!)
listern to other teen mums and listern to there advise hun,have a career !! nice home !! enough money for the baby u want x

Aidan's Mummy · Nov 8th, 2009, 14:50 PM

Honey08 he is soooooooooooooo gawjuss
xx

asacia · Nov 8th, 2009, 14:50 PM

What, exactly, appeals about being a Teenage Mum? Can you pinpoint it?

v2007 · Nov 8th, 2009, 14:53 PM

I got pregnant at 16, my daughter turns 10 on Wednesday, it was bloody hard wrk.

I was a single Mum, her Dad was/is useless.

Wait till your older, finish school, go to college, get a good job etc etc.

Victoria

thompsonic · Nov 8th, 2009, 14:55 PM

I'm 15. I want a baby, I'm not going to pretend I don't because I do more than anything. I'm far too tired to go into rant mode so I'll keep it short and sweet. Wanting to be a mum is fine. Wanting to be a teen mum and going through with it is stupid. I come from a wealthy family, so what. Just cos I could afford to have a baby doesn't mean I'm throwing away my whole life. I'm not saying you shouldn't want a baby cos I can hardly talk, but use it to do something constructive with your life. Do a course in child care, get a good job, find a guy who will stick around- cos if you get pregnant now chances are they won't- and then think about having a baby. Good luck.

PS, oops ok I did go into rant mode. My bad.

sing<3 · Nov 8th, 2009, 14:56 PM

I know what you feel like, honey, but I think it's best just to be patient

If you pop over to WTT there's a 'Young WTTers' thread that you can have a good old chat on

xx

Nov 8th, 2009, 14:35 PM	#1
IWntaBaby Waiting To Try (WTT) Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 8	15 and I want a baby! Hi, I was having a bit of a google around, looking at teenage Mum stuff, seeing if it is a bad as everyone says, and I found this. I'm 16 in two months, and I want a baby, have done for a few years now. I haven't got a boyfriend, and I know its stupid thinking what I am, but I can't shake the feeling. I know they all say you onl want a baby because you think it'd be a toy, something that is only yours, something to love becaue you weren't loved as a child. Thats not me at all. I want a baby because I can't think of anything beter than bringing a child into the world. I come from a rather rich family, but my Mother would kill my dead if she had to help me out with a baby. Anyone feel the same as me? and who went through with it? Thanks. J x

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Nov 8th, 2009, 14:40 PM	#2
Aidan's Mummy Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Hull Posts: 10,998	First of all you have no idea what its like being a teen mum just because you googled it. That in its self proves that you are in no means ready to have a baby I became pregnant at 16 AND IT IS HARD. How are you going to pay for this child?? Where are you going to live Being a teen mum isnt about oh yeah I want a baby I come from a rich family so they will help me Finish school, go to college get a job and support you self Being a teen mum I know how hard it is most of us mums are great mums but please dont just have a baby because "You cant think of anything beter to do"

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Lil-woowoo Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Central Scotland Posts: 631	I too was a teen mum at 18 and seriously is hard work. I had a boyfriend at the time and hes been there the whole time and supports my wee boy. I am at the moment just got 9 months left at uni til i am qualified as a nurse and hell its hard work and stressful. You will never ever understand the emotional side of being a teen mum and sadly theres a huge stigma attached to this and you gotta prove yourself much harder than older mums. Enjoy your life just now, finish school and get a career and be teen as long as you can cause you can never get back those years x

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Nov 8th, 2009, 14:48 PM	#5
honey08 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: north yorkshire,uk Posts: 28,633	i find it extremly hard and im 28 !! the night feeds,the demands, im online now cos hes asleep,my baby was planned cos ive had nights out on the piss and everything eles then finally at 27 i was ready BUT like u if i ad it my own way i wuda been a teen mum only thing was i didnt get preg ( although i tried ! and thank whoever/wotever reason i dint concieve til i was 27!) listern to other teen mums and listern to there advise hun,have a career !! nice home !! enough money for the baby u want x

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Nov 8th, 2009, 14:50 PM	#6
Aidan's Mummy Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Hull Posts: 10,998	Honey08 he is soooooooooooooo gawjuss xx

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asacia Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Surrey Posts: 1,708	What, exactly, appeals about being a Teenage Mum? Can you pinpoint it?

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v2007 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Trendy Morecambe Posts: 24,441	I got pregnant at 16, my daughter turns 10 on Wednesday, it was bloody hard wrk. I was a single Mum, her Dad was/is useless. Wait till your older, finish school, go to college, get a good job etc etc. Victoria

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Nov 8th, 2009, 14:55 PM	#9
thompsonic Waiting To Try (WTT) Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Peterborough, England Posts: 953	I'm 15. I want a baby, I'm not going to pretend I don't because I do more than anything. I'm far too tired to go into rant mode so I'll keep it short and sweet. Wanting to be a mum is fine. Wanting to be a teen mum and going through with it is stupid. I come from a wealthy family, so what. Just cos I could afford to have a baby doesn't mean I'm throwing away my whole life. I'm not saying you shouldn't want a baby cos I can hardly talk, but use it to do something constructive with your life. Do a course in child care, get a good job, find a guy who will stick around- cos if you get pregnant now chances are they won't- and then think about having a baby. Good luck. PS, oops ok I did go into rant mode. My bad.

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Nov 8th, 2009, 14:56 PM	#10
sing<3 Waiting To Try (WTT) Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: North-West England Posts: 383	I know what you feel like, honey, but I think it's best just to be patient If you pop over to WTT there's a 'Young WTTers' thread that you can have a good old chat on xx

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