sb22

it should have absolutely nothing to do with the fact ur family are wealthy. you should be providing by your own means. im 23 and its bloody hard-i have mascara down my face for crying with the stress ive had with alex today. and i bet you'd never cope with anything i've experienced in the last 4 months. pregnancy doesnt always result in a baby, could result in more than one baby. it never always goes swimmingly and being a mum is the hardest job in the world. i would suggest getting a job before taking on the biggest one of your life. i find it so sad 15yr olds even think about this, I really do. at 15 you are still a child under your parents responsibility, doesnt that speak volumes? would you let your own child do it?

please listen to the other teens here. they are experienced and know what its like. you cant get better than their advice.

make yourself a llife, a home, a career, enjoy teenage life and going out clubbing! work for a living, have a life before giving it all to someone else.

Emma.Gi

I know there's been plenty of advice already but coming from a teenager who did try for her baby at 15 and suceeded, don't do it! I know that may sound hypocritical but please think long and hard before doing anything stupid. My pregnancy was pretty straight forward, then at 29 weeks, I delivered my son, he was not well at all. How would you cope if you had your baby early? It's not exactly easy, it's horrible, upsetting and stressful. Of course, I wouldn't change my son for the World but given the chance and after what I've seen, I would definitely wait. Think of all the what-if's before doing anything stupid. Have a look in the premature baby section, even have a look in the loss of a child section and see how hard it is for everyone who has been through near death or as sadly lost their child and then tell me you want a child. Of course it could be born healthy but it's not all straightforward and I don't mean to scare you but I've had the hardest time of my life seeing my baby so ill and then going on to raise him. Think hard.

luxe191919

Im 19 and pregnant and its no picnic having to go to school and plan not only my future but my babys also is hard as soon as i graduate i must leave my house and find some place of my own its not a fairytale its work being a mom is a full time job!Its not worth you screwing upi your life because you think being a mother is fun

Momof2kiddos

im 19 and expecting my second. it is HARDDDDD! trust me, that cute little baby you want grows up. and they grow up fast and they arnt a baby anymore. they are children and teenagers for ten times as long as they are a baby. its hard, grow up, get a job, live on your own, experience life and THEN consider a baby.

sma1588

hunny im not even a mom yet but you really need to think about this before you even say anything about having a baby. first off your 15, second you cant google something like that and decide u want it just like that third, you say u dont have a boyfriend so that means you will basically get pregnant by any guy and they will leave you as soon as you do so thats not something to bring a baby into, fourth your basically planning for your family to take care of your child. you have soooooo much ahead of you. take it from these teens who know how it is everyday with most of them being single doing it all themself.(no offense to you other girls) figure your education out first,get in a stable realtionship,and that stuff first, go out and have fun while you can.....sit down and ask your parents how much they spend on you a year etc.

Nic1107

Hon, I went through the same feelings, wanting a baby when I was a teenager. Not as young as 15- no way!- but I starting feeling broody at 16 and it only got worse. I would never have gone so far as to try though, because I wanted to bring my future babies into a stable home, with a husband by my side. I wanted kids so badly I was practically naming the eggs in my ovaries- but I waited until I was 24 and married before TTC, and I'm very glad I did.

You won't believe me now, but the years between 15 and 24 went by like lightning. So fast. I grew up more than I can say in that time, and I can't imagine going through all that again, but with a baby to care for. Having a baby does make you grow up fast in some ways, but there is still growing that must be done with or without a baby, and experiences you will have, that being a teen parent will only compound and complicate no end. Seriously, wait it out. You'll be in your 20's before you know it, and you'll be pregnant, and you'll be in a good position to support that baby. And the day it hits you that you really are pregnant, you'll realize how young you still are, even at 20-something!

Nic1107

Oh yeah- I forgot the scare tactics!:

If you read around this board extensively- or even a little really, you'll find that being pregnant kind of sucks, in various and graphic ways. I'm extremely glad and grateful to be a housewife, since going through the morning sickness, gassiness, bad moods, fatigue, discomfort, and constant burping would have been horrible at work.

Now, imagine it in school. Pregnancy lasts 40 weeks- that's 10 months. It would cover the whole school year. Imagine being ill in school, throwing up in between classes- every day for 3 months. Imagine peeing your pants in the cafeteria when your friend makes you laugh. Leaning over to pick up your book bag and accidentally letting out a huge fart. Bursting into tears because you got a math problem wrong. Sitting on a pillow at your desk because you have hemorrhoids. Yep, it's really glamorous!

luxe191919

Dont forget missing classes due to check ups,and the many problems that could arise,the stares from people (sometimes not so nice things said), the hurt of knowing your parents no longer trust you no matter how happy they are that they are getting a grandchild and just how hard it is.

MiissMuffet

oh my goodness! I remember having these thoughts at 16- i think alot of girls do at some stage but seriously- if I hadnt've "lived" - u know done the whole teenager thing, turned 18, 21st etc- u know the going out drinking, (not all the time i might add- never been much of a drinker), flatting, working- getting life experience, studying etc- i would be going mad!! I am now 24 and expecting my 1st in 4 months and i am sooo glad i waited until now because I have no feelings of "what if I had done this" or "I wish i had done that". Kids these days want to grow up so fast it's sad

MiissMuffet

I just read this now and its pretty much the smae page i'm on. totally agree with you!!