Sorry girls, this is a bit of a rant and rave.

Okay so i was 7 weeks pregnant when i told my dad, it's the least to say that he was not impressed!
He has been living in spain for the past few years so i really didn't get to see him regularly, so obviously telling him that i'm pregnant wasn't easy over the phone!
He did lots and lots of shouting and swearing at me, then came out with 'how old are you? your only 17!' to which i responded 'No dad, i turned 19 in may' - just goes to show how much he 'loves' and 'cares about me' no?

ANYWAY to cut a long story short, i'm now 11 weeks pregnant and he's living back in england (nice of him to tell me and my brothers...) i get a call from my auntie (his sister) telling me that he's been bad mouthing me to all the family he can get hold of... saying the me and my mama are living in 'cloud cuckoo land' and we are both stupid for beleiveing this is gonna work, and that i'm just a silly little slapper thats got herself in trouble, which is grossly inaccurate, and it just goes to show how little he knows his own daughter. pretty immature for a 50 Year old man!

He's trying to turn his family against me for some reason, both of his brothers (my uncles) are apparently 'furious' about it, when really it has nothing to do with either of them. My grandma (his mama) is speaking to me, calling me 'darling' and 'sweetie' as she usually does, but according to him she can't face me.

I've been coping well with all of this, until last week i had a little bit of a scare, had some brownish/red looking blood and a cramping sensation, i panicked and called my midwife who told me to come to the hospital, so my mama drove me. I was so upset thinking i'd lost my little one, but turns out it was just old blood and the cramping was normal. The feeling of releif and happiness i felt was unreal

But then the next day (news travels very fast in my intrusive family!) my brother Toby told me that Dad had said these exact words 'Well, i did have my hopes up that it was dead and she actually had a chance at life, but unfortunately the damn thing's still alive' ----- Thats the most hateful thing i've ever heard anyone say. i was seriously hurt and i confronted my dad, who admitted to speaking those exact words.

Now i just don't want to speak to him or see him, he keeps on about how i'm too young and irresponsible to handle a child, and i just wanna scream at him, because 19 is not that young to be having a baby!!! I'll be 20 by the time the baby is 3 weeks old, and i am an extremely responsible and independant person, and if my 'dad' knew me at all, he would know that i'm perfectly capable!!! This whole 'too young' thing does my head in anyway, i mean sure, there is a limit, but my best friend who is also 19, has a beautiful boy of 2 years old and she is the most amazing mama to him!

I feel like he should be the one apologizing to me, but he thinks i've done him wrong in some way, which i certainly haven't

xxx

I am not sure what to say to you lily, and you probably don't really need any words from me either. But all I can tell you for sure is to focus on the most precious thing in the world you will ever know - your baby.
When you hold that little bundle of love it is the most amazing sensation in the world and nothing, nothing else will matter.
I am having to cope without the support of my parents (long and horrible complicated story) so I know how upsetting that can be for you. But, as I say, I know that in a few months I am going to have a beautiful baby.
Good luck to you.
x

What a horrid thing to say! Big hugs chick, thank your lucky stars you don't need to live under the same roof as him!

What a horrid man he is.

Congrats on your pregnancy! Don't let them get to you! Stress isn't good for the baby

first off, congrats on your pregnancy!!
secondly.. wow, your own father didnt know how old you were :S that speaks volumes doesnt it
please dont let him get you down, im actually in shock over the things that he said to you, no matter how old you are (and i agree, 19 is not 'too young' at all) wishing a miscarriage on you, wow thats just so terrible
im glad everything was ok though and do keep us updated on your pregnancy hun!! its an exciting time! xxx

ps your first scan should be coming up soon? that was a huge milestone for me, made it so much more real xx

Hi anna.

Yeah tell me about it, he's being awful.

And YES my scan is tomorrow actually so exited! but very nervous at the same time... i noticed before that your from York too xxx

oooo wow!! my 20 week scan is on wednesday i am getting so impatient!!
hehe i know, i replied to your message as a visitor message thingy on your profile (not entirely got the hang of this site yet )

xxx

Just remind him when he wants to dote over his grandchild that he hoped they would have died and when he tryes to tell you what a good job you are doing you say yep, no thanks to you.

Dont let your dad ruin the most beautiful thing you are ever going to have. you know what your doing .my dad said to me that if i dont have an abortion he will make sure i lose the baby, sweetie i hope he realises what a mistake he made. best of luck x x x