For gods sake DAD, i'm 19! - Page 2

purpledahlia · Oct 18th, 2009, 17:20 PM

He sounds vile. Id just ignore everything he has to say, tell your uncles and auntie and gran on his side that you are fine and making a plan for the future, and that you welcome them to be in yours and your babies lifes but u want to hear nothing about him or what hes saying about you. Ask them to let him drone on but not to believe him and make their own minds up about your parenting skills etc. He is well out of order. I know a few young girls who had babies same age as you and theyre great parents, i also know a 48yr old woman who is one of the worst parents ive ever seen.
Good luck with everything, u'll be fine! xx

serenity23 · Oct 18th, 2009, 17:28 PM

Well all I can tell you is I know how that is. When I told my parents that I was pregnant I was 8 weeks along and they werent thrilled. I alredy have a 18 month old daughter and Im 19 as well. But my parents were really upset this time. But unfortunetly is wasnt until we got the news that we lost the baby that my parents became sympathetic. And now they are grieving just as much as my husband and I. Amazing how the tables turn. By the way when in May is ur bday? mine is May 13th

ellie09 · Oct 18th, 2009, 17:33 PM

That's awful! I'm so so sorry

Is your mum being supportive? I think all men are the same, my Dad always asks me my birthday and my brother thought i was 18 and i'm 17

Nic1107 · Oct 18th, 2009, 18:40 PM

Wow, damn what a despicable thing to say! I hope he really feels like crap about it when he sees his grandchild and remembers what he said about him/her. That is so vile.

My mom fell pregnant with me at 19, had me a couple months after she turned 20. Not only did she care for me as well as or better than any older mom, she also cared for my dad's older three kids, ages 4, 6 and 8! On a miniscule budget no less, in a rough neighbourhood. We were at all times safe, clean, well-fed, and comfortably clothed and sheltered. Don't ever let anyone tell you that you can't be a wonderful mom just because you're young! Hopefully your dad will eat his words after you've proven him thoroughly wrong!

lozncrystal · Oct 18th, 2009, 19:15 PM

hi evry1 xxx im 19 and ttc 2# x i have a 1yr old daughter:-) xx just wondering if any1 here is in same situation???

amandakelley · Oct 18th, 2009, 19:31 PM

:O That is completely horrid! What is his problem? I can't believe he said such vile and horrid things to you. I'm so sorry hun you had to hear about that and you're having to go through this.

Good luck and hope you have a great time at your scan.

I'm 17 and I'm 98& sure I'm pregnant. I think that younger moms make the best moms. My mother is 42 and isn't the best mother. We've been through a lot, but I still love her. I haven't said anything to my mom yet. My OH and I are planning to tell her together after we find out for sure. And I'll just let her tell my step-dad. lol

hopeandpray · Oct 19th, 2009, 05:07 AM

so sorry that your dad's not being supportive, glad your LO is ok! he will come around eventually, and if not this is not the kind of man you want in your child's life

TattiesMum · Oct 19th, 2009, 07:52 AM

Wow!

What a charming Man your Dad sounds

Nasty, Nasty, Nasty

... so let's get this into perspective - A man who bug*ered off to Spain rather than stay around for his kids; who can't actually remember how OLD his daughter is and who didn't even bother to tell his kids that he was back in the UK, has the unbelievable cheek to make assumptions about YOUR potential as a parent?????

Forget him lovey - a man who has proved himself to be such a bad parent himself has absolutely NO useful advice or opinions to give you or anyone else on the subject

Pixxie · Oct 20th, 2009, 05:31 AM

to be honest if the stupid pathetic man doesnt even know how old his own daughter is then he doesnt have the right to have an opinion about anything you do! 19 isnt young to be having a baby, your dad needs to get a bleeding grip. I cant believe he said he wished your baby was dead. I would just go about your life hunny, ignore him hes obviously chatting bollocks, you get on with enjoying being pregnant. if any of your family are stupid enough to listen to your dads side of events then theyre not worth your time, its their loss sweetie

xxxx

kit603 · Oct 21st, 2009, 07:31 AM

I agree with what everyone else has been saying. I can't imagine how you must feel, but you need to try your best to get past all that for the sake of your baby. Good luck hun x

Oct 18th, 2009, 17:20 PM	#11
purpledahlia Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 14,871	He sounds vile. Id just ignore everything he has to say, tell your uncles and auntie and gran on his side that you are fine and making a plan for the future, and that you welcome them to be in yours and your babies lifes but u want to hear nothing about him or what hes saying about you. Ask them to let him drone on but not to believe him and make their own minds up about your parenting skills etc. He is well out of order. I know a few young girls who had babies same age as you and theyre great parents, i also know a 48yr old woman who is one of the worst parents ive ever seen. Good luck with everything, u'll be fine! xx

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Oct 18th, 2009, 17:28 PM	#12
serenity23 Mum (Mom) Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Wenatchee, WA Posts: 3	Well all I can tell you is I know how that is. When I told my parents that I was pregnant I was 8 weeks along and they werent thrilled. I alredy have a 18 month old daughter and Im 19 as well. But my parents were really upset this time. But unfortunetly is wasnt until we got the news that we lost the baby that my parents became sympathetic. And now they are grieving just as much as my husband and I. Amazing how the tables turn. By the way when in May is ur bday? mine is May 13th

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Oct 18th, 2009, 17:33 PM	#13
ellie09 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Newcastle, UK Posts: 160	That's awful! I'm so so sorry Is your mum being supportive? I think all men are the same, my Dad always asks me my birthday and my brother thought i was 18 and i'm 17

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Oct 18th, 2009, 18:40 PM	#14
Nic1107 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: USA Posts: 4,300	Wow, damn what a despicable thing to say! I hope he really feels like crap about it when he sees his grandchild and remembers what he said about him/her. That is so vile. My mom fell pregnant with me at 19, had me a couple months after she turned 20. Not only did she care for me as well as or better than any older mom, she also cared for my dad's older three kids, ages 4, 6 and 8! On a miniscule budget no less, in a rough neighbourhood. We were at all times safe, clean, well-fed, and comfortably clothed and sheltered. Don't ever let anyone tell you that you can't be a wonderful mom just because you're young! Hopefully your dad will eat his words after you've proven him thoroughly wrong!

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Oct 18th, 2009, 19:15 PM	#15
lozncrystal Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: stoke on trent Posts: 106	hi evry1 xxx im 19 and ttc 2# x i have a 1yr old daughter:-) xx just wondering if any1 here is in same situation???

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Oct 18th, 2009, 19:31 PM	#16
amandakelley Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Baldwin, FL, USA Posts: 542	:O That is completely horrid! What is his problem? I can't believe he said such vile and horrid things to you. I'm so sorry hun you had to hear about that and you're having to go through this. Good luck and hope you have a great time at your scan. I'm 17 and I'm 98& sure I'm pregnant. I think that younger moms make the best moms. My mother is 42 and isn't the best mother. We've been through a lot, but I still love her. I haven't said anything to my mom yet. My OH and I are planning to tell her together after we find out for sure. And I'll just let her tell my step-dad. lol

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Oct 19th, 2009, 05:07 AM	#17
hopeandpray Waiting To Try (WTT) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 3,847	so sorry that your dad's not being supportive, glad your LO is ok! he will come around eventually, and if not this is not the kind of man you want in your child's life

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Oct 19th, 2009, 07:52 AM	#18
TattiesMum Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Bedfordshire Posts: 3,577	Wow! What a charming Man your Dad sounds Nasty, Nasty, Nasty ... so let's get this into perspective - A man who bug*ered off to Spain rather than stay around for his kids; who can't actually remember how OLD his daughter is and who didn't even bother to tell his kids that he was back in the UK, has the unbelievable cheek to make assumptions about YOUR potential as a parent????? Forget him lovey - a man who has proved himself to be such a bad parent himself has absolutely NO useful advice or opinions to give you or anyone else on the subject

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Oct 20th, 2009, 05:31 AM	#19
Pixxie Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Salford, UK Posts: 6,685	to be honest if the stupid pathetic man doesnt even know how old his own daughter is then he doesnt have the right to have an opinion about anything you do! 19 isnt young to be having a baby, your dad needs to get a bleeding grip. I cant believe he said he wished your baby was dead. I would just go about your life hunny, ignore him hes obviously chatting bollocks, you get on with enjoying being pregnant. if any of your family are stupid enough to listen to your dads side of events then theyre not worth your time, its their loss sweetie xxxx

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Oct 21st, 2009, 07:31 AM	#20
kit603 Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Nottinghamshire Posts: 3,300	I agree with what everyone else has been saying. I can't imagine how you must feel, but you need to try your best to get past all that for the sake of your baby. Good luck hun x

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