I agree with you on the issues around older women having babies im talking 50+ kind of age..

Theres never going to be a perfect time to have a baby, if you feel ready and feel its the right time for you then it probably is the right time.. I think you'd know deep down..

Hi there,

I had twins when I was just 19, the pregnancy was planned, I have always hated the fact that I was put in the teenage mum catogory (I'm 25 now). My parner and I have been together 8 years now and have 3 beautiful children who are all happy and healtly, as long as you can look after and love your baby what does it matter how old you are??

Hope you get you soon

xxx

I was very much broody at your age hun, altohugh I never said anything to my partner, then I fell pregnant at 19, I stopped taking the pill and we werent usin any condoms, so altohugh it wasnt planned we both knew it could happen and would obviously deal with that if it did happen, which it did! And now we have a beautiful 2 year old, I am now 22 and pregnant with number two. We have a mortgage and jobs ect. I think if you are quite happy with all the responsabilities its entails and you are in a serious relationship then theres nothing bad about it!

I do still feel like I am looked down on though especially as I look younger than I am and I work in a posh restaurants and customers are noticing the bump now.....I just think well they can think what they want I love being a mummy, I could not imagine my life without Ella in it I am mature and resonsible and my kids are the most important thing in my life and my prority.

Yes some young mums can be very irresponsible, dump their kids on their parents so they can go out every night getting pissed (dont get me wrong we need to let our hair down once in a while!) but I do think it is a shame that all youg mums are tarred with the same brush.

Dont worry what other people will think hunny, as long as you are mature and responsible and you and your partner both want this then why not! some people have families then careers some the other way round, who says which is right and which is wrong! all the best hun xxx

i fell pregnant with my son when i was 15. im 23 now, married with my 3rd on the way.

i dont think the age is such the issue to be honest. i doted on my son, he was everything! my world,my life! i did live with my parents but thank god i did! they helped me so much! hes a very brainy happy chappy now, turning 7 in may!

its fantastic to see so many teens on here with jobs and there own home. just shows how quick our kids are maturing these days.but with so many teens having babies,its a good job there mentally maturing early!


i do regret not waiting. i lost most of my teen-hood. and i didnt stick with the father as he had drug issues.it was very hard,i had to grow up so quickley! but my sons turned out fine! hes very happy, his father finally grew up and beat the drugs so they have a stable relationship.

they only thing i cant stand to see is women with too many kids and more on the way, not being looked after properly and not knowing who their fathers are. in most cases ive seen, the kids are taken off them and put into care.and the mother, doesnt care and carries on having more babies.(this happened a month back to a gril who had 4 kids with 1 on the way, she was in my year at school!)

thats what some people picture when they see a pregnant teen. they assume this is going to happen. obviousley, its mostley not the case.

people are way too quick to judge. but thats the society these days.

good luck, be strong. if this is what you want, no1 can stop you. just be sure to know whats going to happen. becoming a mum is NOT easy, especially when your a teen.

xx

I'd say "I wish my baby didn't happen untill I was more secure," but I don't anymore. I'm quite happy for her to come now and make things more difficult. I'm still going to get to where I wanted to be and I love that I'll be able to do that with her around to see it. I hope that everything I do for her and myself will show her only good things and never bad. We'll see. I can only try.

I wouldn't have a baby untill you're stable as you can be (and you've done everything you want to do) unless it can't be prevented.

I planned both of mine, i was in a stable relatonship we have jobs and had recently got our own place, the next obvoius step was children. 1'm 20 and my youngest is 13 wks. Best decision of my life x

Nay2008- good for you im 19 myself and me and my partner have been ttc for a month not long i know but the waiting is driving me crazy, yes their may be bad teenage mum's out there but you cant tar all teenage mum's with the same brush-how narrow minded is that.

I don't have anything against teen mums who really didn't plan to get pregnant but make the best of it or those who plan it and can provide for their baby.

The thing is too many young people think that they can provide because they can live on benefits or live with their parents. To me thats not providing. Benefits are for people who've found themselves in a desperate situation & people shouldn't choose to live like that or deliberatly bring a child into that & if people think they can provide because they can live with their parents then they're clearly not mature enough to be having a baby.

Since you and your partner believe that you are able to provide for your child then there isn't anything wrong with it as far as I can see. 19 isn't exactly young anyway. Good luck and I hope it all goes well for you.