My OH is going into the US Navy soon, and I was wondering if any of you ladies had OHs or even DHs who are in the military wherever you are, and what your situations are like.

In order for my OH to join, he and I have to be married in the next two months so he can go to bootcamp. If we don't, an unborn child is seen as a debt that the Navy is unwilling to cover, and it wants full health coverage for the baby and its mom, since healthcare isn't free here in the States (which is such crap). Once we're married and he's off to bootcamp, he'll be gone for about two months, so he'll be gone for the bulk of the pregnancy, though he'll be back for the actual delivery! That's what I was most nervous about, him not being here when the baby comes.

So, what are your situations like, having military babies?

hi im from england and oh is in the army trust me it gets easyer the first time they are away its hard but you just got on with it. hes not away alot at the moment he normaly comes home at the weekends and he is not being depolyed this year so thats great as he will be here when baby is born. i find its made us closer him being away we have more to talk about and we are happy to see each other and every time hes home there is somthing new to tell him about the baby but the olny thing i dont like is when he says omg you have gone massive since the last time i seen you haha not somthing you need to no haha anyway you will ok you are woman after all haha

i grew up in the army my dad was in it, and went away quite a lot leaving my mum in foreign countries with us 3 young kids to look after, its hard at times, but she got through it with 3 of us, being a army wife you just gotta keep strong and im sure everything will be good. although we all missed him like crazy it made it more special when he was home and i appreciated him more. i loved growing up in the army and wouldnt have changed it for the world. x x

I think there is a bnb group?forum for military folks.

Woo over here :P hehe but you already know that lol. personally I think being military (not sure weather its the same over their) only has its perks for married personel. Thats just my oppinion tho. Because my OH is recognised as single their is nothing for me, i dont really mind but can sometimes feel out of the loop. But honestly its a great job and youll be just fine. Find somewhere on the internet like a forum that supports millitary wives and gfs, thats what i did and its the best support i could ask for. Everyone sticks together and we all go through the same things. Hope to speak 2 you soon xxx

Hey you,
My OH is in the Marine Corps. We've been together for almost ten months and are expecting our first child. He came home on leave at the end of may, and i found out, a week after he went back to california. It's hard with him away. Doctors appointments, new experiences, everything is all done alone. Ive gone to my sonograms alone and what not, which he feels horrible about. I know the feeling that you probably have right now, and if you everr need any one to talk to once hes gone to boot camp, I'm always here. :-)
Let me know how everything goes.
Lisa.

Hey there My DH is in the US Navy, and our baby is due right before he's to be out to sea. He most likely won't be present at the birth, or meet the baby until he/she is a few months old, but we'll cope. I'll be around family at least; I think it will be harder than him than it is on me. He is moving across the country early next year too, and I can't go with because I'll be either too pregnant or have just given birth, so I have to go back to my home state to give birth. That's good though, far better than being left alone here or moving to a new place all alone.

If you guys do get married within the next couple months, the maternity health benefits are absolutely excellent. You can choose TriCare Prime and give birth for free in a military facility- all your health care will be free on Prime, actually. OR you can do what I'm doing and switch to Standard just for maternity; it's 100% covered and you can go to any hospital you want. Only works for maternity though, you'd have to switch back to Prime to get other care free. The only thing you'd have to pay for maternity-wise is if they order a treatment/test that isn't under the plan, and about $15 a night for in-patient care when you give birth.

Military life isn't easy, but being a military spouse does have a lot of benefits along with the hardship. TriCare and the basic housing allowance (if you live off-base) are pretty nice (but don't count on the basic housing allowance to kick in right away). And if you sign up for TriCare Prime make sure you do it at the beginning of the month, or it'll take a month longer to go through. You will find, also, that absence really does make the heart grow fonder Two months sounds like a long time now, but it really ends up going fast and as you get used to it, two months will seem like nothing. It gets easier, for the most part, as time goes on. Good luck, and keep us posted!