I finally told my mum....

lou_w34 · Jul 3rd, 2009, 05:01 AM

...and it was awful, im pretty sure she hates me now, she doesnt want me to have them, even though im nearly 17 weeks and no i couldnt go through with an abortion, but then again i dont even no how i can even take care of a baby.

She went on about me making something of my life and im basically wasting it. She hasnt told my dad yet so its only going to get worse.

Im thinking of going back to my ex, he still loves me and wants me back, and promises he's changed, i just dont see how i can live here? What shall i do?

i feel a bit rubbish right now, and like a huge disappointment.

xxx

xCorkettex · Jul 3rd, 2009, 06:59 AM

Alot of girls feel like this after telling their parents-first of all remember this must have been a big shock for your mum, especially if she didn't know you were sexually active.
Secondly i have seen alot of girls get shunned during their pregnancy but by the time they are 7/8 months gone or their baby is born their parents have come round to the idea and actually end up quite smug about being a grandparent and end up enjoying it!
Don't change any plans that you weren't going to before you told your mum-EG get back with a ex that you feel is unsuitable just so you have somewhere else to live-believe me once its all sunk in and the dust has settled your family will (hopefully) be happy for you.
Saying that i don't know your parents so obviously i can't say what will happen for definate in your case but keep your chin up chick-everything always seems much worse when your coping with pregnancy hormones!Hope everything gets sorted x

Serene123 · Jul 3rd, 2009, 07:06 AM

They need to know you're 100% dedicated to this baby, then they'll come around. If they didn't love you they wouldn't be worried at all x

Tudor Rose · Jul 3rd, 2009, 07:14 AM

you havent wasted your life, i got pregnant with DD when i was 18 and had her and my son when i was 20 and now im back studying whilst working ttc my 3rd and i feel i did it better by having my kids young so when there off to school i can concentreate on whet i wanna do career wise and im still young enough to be able to make decisions so what if im going uni when i 30 i still have 30 years of working ahead of me.

plus there are other options there is adoption but you need your parents be supportive right now so you can make the right decision. good luck hun xx

halas · Jul 3rd, 2009, 07:19 AM

some times i think parents can over react because they love you and she is probly scared for you she will come round maybe talk to her or write a letter saying that you are dedicated to this baby and u do want to have this baby maybe saying you would love her suport in this and want her to be a part of your babys life

babymaker09 · Jul 3rd, 2009, 07:25 AM

Try not be too upset, I was 16 when i found out i was prenant for the first time. It's the most scariest thing in the world telling your parents, when i told mine my mum was upset, and my dad didnt speak to me for 2 months but now... they fight over who gets to take their grandson lol! So even tho it feels horrible just now ure mum n dad will come round, it'll be hard at first but you will get through it. Good Luck xxxxxxxxxx

**Vickie** · Jul 3rd, 2009, 09:43 AM

It's probably the shock of it all, give her a few days and hopefully she will come around

PitBullMommy · Jul 3rd, 2009, 11:51 AM

I'm sure she'll come around, she's probably just very surprised

Laura--x · Jul 3rd, 2009, 11:55 AM

Its a huge shock to her hun, she will come round eventually. Just make sure she knows that you want this baby and your going to do it whether you have support or not, it will make her see that your mature enough to deal with things x

aidensxmomma · Jul 3rd, 2009, 12:44 PM

It's a huge shock to your mom, and hopefully she'll come around soon. My mom acted the same way pretty much when I told her I was pregnant again. She said I was ruining my life, my OH's life, our son's life, her life....it went on and on. But I know that once her granddaughter is born she's going to be head over heels in love with her. I know she felt the same way when I got pregnant with my son, but now she loves him more than anything. Hope everything settles down for you, hun.

Jul 3rd, 2009, 05:01 AM	#1
lou_w34 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 1,988	I finally told my mum.... ...and it was awful, im pretty sure she hates me now, she doesnt want me to have them, even though im nearly 17 weeks and no i couldnt go through with an abortion, but then again i dont even no how i can even take care of a baby. She went on about me making something of my life and im basically wasting it. She hasnt told my dad yet so its only going to get worse. Im thinking of going back to my ex, he still loves me and wants me back, and promises he's changed, i just dont see how i can live here? What shall i do? i feel a bit rubbish right now, and like a huge disappointment. xxx

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Jul 3rd, 2009, 06:59 AM	#2
xCorkettex Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Accrington Posts: 532	Alot of girls feel like this after telling their parents-first of all remember this must have been a big shock for your mum, especially if she didn't know you were sexually active. Secondly i have seen alot of girls get shunned during their pregnancy but by the time they are 7/8 months gone or their baby is born their parents have come round to the idea and actually end up quite smug about being a grandparent and end up enjoying it! Don't change any plans that you weren't going to before you told your mum-EG get back with a ex that you feel is unsuitable just so you have somewhere else to live-believe me once its all sunk in and the dust has settled your family will (hopefully) be happy for you. Saying that i don't know your parents so obviously i can't say what will happen for definate in your case but keep your chin up chick-everything always seems much worse when your coping with pregnancy hormones!Hope everything gets sorted x

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Jul 3rd, 2009, 07:06 AM	#3
Serene123 Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 32,048	They need to know you're 100% dedicated to this baby, then they'll come around. If they didn't love you they wouldn't be worried at all x

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Jul 3rd, 2009, 07:14 AM	#4
Tudor Rose Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Cheshire Posts: 3,486	you havent wasted your life, i got pregnant with DD when i was 18 and had her and my son when i was 20 and now im back studying whilst working ttc my 3rd and i feel i did it better by having my kids young so when there off to school i can concentreate on whet i wanna do career wise and im still young enough to be able to make decisions so what if im going uni when i 30 i still have 30 years of working ahead of me. plus there are other options there is adoption but you need your parents be supportive right now so you can make the right decision. good luck hun xx

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Jul 3rd, 2009, 07:19 AM	#5
halas Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 1,371	some times i think parents can over react because they love you and she is probly scared for you she will come round maybe talk to her or write a letter saying that you are dedicated to this baby and u do want to have this baby maybe saying you would love her suport in this and want her to be a part of your babys life

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Jul 3rd, 2009, 07:25 AM	#6
babymaker09 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 63	Try not be too upset, I was 16 when i found out i was prenant for the first time. It's the most scariest thing in the world telling your parents, when i told mine my mum was upset, and my dad didnt speak to me for 2 months but now... they fight over who gets to take their grandson lol! So even tho it feels horrible just now ure mum n dad will come round, it'll be hard at first but you will get through it. Good Luck xxxxxxxxxx

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Jul 3rd, 2009, 09:43 AM	#7
Vickie Mum (Mom) Administrator Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Toronto, ON Posts: 75,692	It's probably the shock of it all, give her a few days and hopefully she will come around

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Jul 3rd, 2009, 11:51 AM	#8
PitBullMommy Other BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Norwich, CT Posts: 3,332	I'm sure she'll come around, she's probably just very surprised

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Laura--x Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Location: England Posts: 8,798	Its a huge shock to her hun, she will come round eventually. Just make sure she knows that you want this baby and your going to do it whether you have support or not, it will make her see that your mature enough to deal with things x

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Jul 3rd, 2009, 12:44 PM	#10
aidensxmomma Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Location: Wisconsin, U.S. Posts: 2,874	It's a huge shock to your mom, and hopefully she'll come around soon. My mom acted the same way pretty much when I told her I was pregnant again. She said I was ruining my life, my OH's life, our son's life, her life....it went on and on. But I know that once her granddaughter is born she's going to be head over heels in love with her. I know she felt the same way when I got pregnant with my son, but now she loves him more than anything. Hope everything settles down for you, hun.

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