Ok well I'm not exactly proud of it but when I was 16 I became pregnant. I had a beautiful daughter named Erin Elizabeth. Her father found out I was pregnant and fled from my life. He doesn’t even know he had a daughter. Now, two years later I am happily married to an amazing man. He is deployed overseas and we are expecting our first child. My husband Eddie had treated Erin like his own child. He loves her and we are raising her like he is her father. Just today I received a letter from Erin's real father, and I have no clue what to do. Do I agree to meet with him, or do I blow him off? And how do I introduce him to Erin? Does he even deserve to know about her yet? While we were teenagers together he was always the “bad boy”, and I’m worried he hasn’t changed. I am very concerned for Erin’s well being. I have no idea what to do and now with Eddie off at war I can't get his opinion. I don't want him to come home to find Erin and her real daddy together. That would break his heart. Please help?
P.S. I am 5 months along and we’re expecting a little girl. What do you all think of the name Caroline? Any middle name suggestions? Or other pretty first names?

How long until your husband comes back?

IMO..and I'm not saying this is right so alot of people may disagree..Your daughter should be able to make that choice for herself when she's older. She's got a daddy that loves her already and if you don't know what he's like and he hasn't change shes better off without him in her life.

Like I said that's just my opinion

i totally agree with Jade--x

if you know that it would break your husbands heart then i wouldnt make any decisions untill he is back home, at least that way any decisions made can be made together and he wont feel left out after bringing her up as his own.

I think I would probably make the decision with my husband if I were in your situation.. he's the one who has been there and loved and supported your daughter, not her biological father.

i say wait until she can decide!

do not bring this dead beat dad into your daughters life when you have a beautiful relationship and a loving husband!

congrats on the baby, btw! GL!!

I would try and speak to your husband about it but waiting until she's old enough to make the decision herself seems a bit wrong to me. Her dad was a dick to run out on you like that but regardless of your husband, he is still her dad and she has already missed out on 2years of him. As perfect as your husband might be, he still isn't her dad. If that was me, I wouldn't thank my mum for making me wait til I was older to meet and have a relationship with my dad when he finally wanted to. Good luck x

I think u should go there and meet to him...............i think it will make them feel better and close to u.

i always new my dad was not my real dad when i was about 9 i asked to meet my real dad he was a arse never met him since and id say my mum did the best thing ** for me that is **

I'd say wait untill she's older and decide for herself, he's skipped out on the hardest part of raising her, now he want to waltz back in now that she's older? At least wait to hear from your hubby, he has the right to make that decision with you since he's the one that's been there and loves you two.