Ashley91Rae

I would honestly say wait untill she is older. Be open and honest with the fact that Eddie is not her bio-dad though. I was in this almost same situation, but in your daughters position. my dad is not my biological father, and I did not meet him up until i was 16. He was and still is the 'bad-boy' and a major druggie. so in my opinion it would be best to wait until she is older or old enough to make a decision on if she wants him in her life or not.

saduquette

It is for her real father to know that he has a child, but for the child's sake just let it be. You married to a man whom accepts your child without anything in return and he did stands up for your child. He stood the responsibility of being the real father no matter what. It is still up to you but I bet just tell him to leave you alone. You are happy now with your own life and with a husband that is understanding and loving the two of you. And take note you are having another child. Just think of your health and your baby. Don't ever give him another chance at all.

HotChocolate

It's easy for people to say that you shouldn't let your daughter meet her biological father but you've now got to live your life waiting until she's old enough to know the truth, or waiting for him to walk back into her life as if he has always been a part of it; for her to turn around and say 'mum, who's this?'. It can't be easy and i would hate to be in your position right now but you have to do what's right for her and i think deep down, only you know the answer to that.
He made his decision 2 years ago and if you think that you've had a better life because of that, continue to live your life and let your daughter live her life the same way.
However, if you do want to meet with him and see what he has to say for himself, wait until you can have a proper discussion with your fiance about it.. Because he does play a big part in both or your lives and yes he does have a say when it concerns your daughters welfare. I've said this in another post and i'll say it again.. Anybody can be a father, but it takes somebody special to be a daddy.

Good luck sweetie xxx

hypnorm

My friend had a similar situation she got pregnant and the bf rarely had anything to do with the child until he was 2, the child is now 5 and sees his son about once a month and he pays maintenance.
The fact that he has got in touch with you suggests that he wants to be in her life, in which case he should pay maintence and prove that he has changed.
Every father has a right to see his child (unless there is a danger to the child)
(my ex bf died - and left behind a son who he was unable to see for 8 yrs because the mum kept moving or denied him access - bf provided maintence and wanted to see him... so this child will now never meet his real dad)

I would discuss it with you husband and may be arrange a meeting with all 3 of you and take things slowly.. if he is serious then he will not want to rush things or make your daughter worried in anyway.

rafwife

If you feel you should meet him, I would meet him without your daughter but with your husband.