I was dating a guy, mike, before i fell pregnant and found out he was cheating etc n i left him. but it wasnt long before i was with someone else.
between the break up i fell pregnant, obv im in doubt over hus it cud be and im having a dna test done wen shes born.
Jamie, the one i left the cheater for is still with me, hes known from day one the baby cud be his and hes agreed on the DNA wen shes born. Hes also said that whether shes his or not he wants to take her on as his own and be daddy.
recently we've bin talkin, and hes said that he thinks mike shud know if its his. I can understand wat hes saying, but mike was an absolute ARSE, to be nice.
Wen i told him i was pregnant he said it wasnt his n hasnt spoke to me since. Hes a compulsive liar, he told me wen we were together he had to turn his daughters life support off....even tho i kno now hes never had kids in his life. That wat one of the worst lies, the rest are not so discusting.
Ive said to jamie that hes thinking with his mind, obv if he was in his shoes he wud want to know. but mike still has my number, knows the baby cud b his but hasnt contacted at all.
Am i wrong to say tht this baby will never know hu her real dad is if shes not jamies. jamies said he will take her on as his own, whether shes his or not. ill obv tell her wen shes alot older that her real dad didnt want to kno and was a horrible man, n tht jamie will always be her daddy.

sorry for the rant girls, but i really wud like to kno others opinions on the whole matter. i obv want the best for my daughter, and i kno jamie will be there for her nomatter wat, even if anything happens to us he idolises her and shes not even here.
Wat do u all think?

Personally i think mikes lies are horrifying, and jamie sounds like one decent man. After having Alex in the same week i found out my OH is a dick, i know that a child should never be denied it's father, regardless.
Mike should be told, but dna testing will resolve it all in the end. It sounds like something you need to do to close the matter and move on, other wise some kind of resentment could arise.

In the meantime it sounds like Jamie will be there no matter what, so if you can all agree to be civil, and supportive in the fact that you are carrying a new life, for the time during your pregnancy, then that's important just now. X x

P.S. Is there ANY way you can work out from dates who is the father?

I think after you've done the test you should give the other guy an ultimatum, tell him that he can either come meet his daughter (if it's his baby) or not, if he decides not to or if the baby is Jamie's, I'd be done with him and never contact him again.

Even if he wants nothing to do with her I think you should get important information like family medical history etc from him so that if it comes up later in life that she needs it, it's available to her.

Gosh what a complete dick.
First of all, congratulations and i'm happy for you that you're with somebody who truly cares about you and your unborn child.
You should leave Mike to make his own decisions and as difficult as it may be in the future, at least your daughter will know that she has always had one man in her life who really actually wants the very best for her - Jamie.
However, I can garuntee Mike will rear his head some time in the future and try to worm his way back in to her life, because that is always the way and you'll just have to let her do what she wishes.
I know this is about your daughter but never let it drag you down, your feelings matter too and she'll need her mummy there to be strong for her
(Anyway, Mike may not even be the father..)
and always remember that anybody can father a child, it takes somebody special to be a daddy.

Good luck xxx

I think you should tell him. He sounds like a complete dick but he has a right to know. What he does with the information is his business and if he walks then atleast you did your bit for your child.

Good luck x