Thats a good idea! and yeah at least once you have told her if she goes off at you then you can keep your distance and say this is why i didnt tell you! How long have you got left til your scan now? xxx

Maybe you can take some of the tension off yourself once you are sure you want to keep the baby (I got the impression from your subsequent posts that you are still somewhat overwhlemed and unsure?). I think once you know for sure that this is what you want to do, you will start realizing that all the tough stuff you have to do is now for your baby, not just for you. It may be hard to stand up to your mother for yourself, but if it's about protecting your child from negativity and stress, you might surprise yourself by how clear and strong you can be on the matter.
And let your mother know that you very much want her to part of the baby's life, but that her behaviour has to meet certain conditions if that's going to happen. Tell her to take all the time she needs to accept your decision (or not), but that you are not going to put your baby in jeopardy from the stress of fighting with her about it.
I agree with the poster who said to give it time. If it starts out as fireworks, it will eventually die down. And if she never does come around, well, that sucks, but you have your own new little life that is now your focus and responsibility. That has to take centre stage now.

Thank for your reply. Made sense, i have decided that i am going to keep my baby i decided that from the moment i found out , i just have some negative feelings sometimes because of the stress of telling mum. I know everything will be fine Once we get over this hurdle.

Hiya,
Good luck with tellings your mum, if you ever want to chat you can drop me a message Ive been through it all before, your quite similar to me apart from I fell pregnant again when I was 17.
First of all congratulations, its always a very exciting time and a nverous one and you can never be quite as happy until you have approached your parents and told them. Then you can relax and enjoy being pregnant like you should.

Your an adult now so hopefully they will be more supportive. When I told my parents I was pregnanat and was going to keep the baby well babies I found it easier to write a letter with my feelings. I sat in the same room (I had to do it twice as they were seperated, even more nervousness) and told them I had wrote them a letter and would they be able to read it.
I wrote down exactly how I felt, what I wanted to do and how I would like it if they were there and accepted my decision as I would really need there advice and support.
Could you ask your boyfriend to go with you in whichever way you decide to tell them?
Then you have some more support at the time and to make it a little easier.

It took my mum quite a while to get use to the fact but once the shock had gone that her little girl was going to be a mum, she was very supportive and happy.

Just remember to keep calm, tery not to start an arguement if her views are not as positive as you want, she will realise sooner that you have made a decision and are going to stick by it. Flying off the handles always ends up worse I found out.

Good luck, and congratualtions again.

Hi again,

Just want to say 'stay strong' and lean on the people who are being supportive.

Please let us know how you fare when you do talk to your parents. We're thinking of you!

11 days today im soooo excited x x

Same as you! Apart from my boyfriends mum isnt to happy (she recommends i abort) but im so scared of telling my mum! I was thinking waiting until i got a scan and showing her, but im scared she might feel i was going behind her back

Alot of people seem to think writing a letter is a good idea? Good luck

Wow. This was me in November of last year. Except i'm 19 and he's 21. His parents were thrilled! And my mom forced an abortion...I wound up having a miscarriage...but i'm 15weeks along now and my mom doesn't know. I can't even tell you the hell I went thru with my mom...I'd breathe and get thru it argument
By argument. I really think that the stress caused me to miscarry. Don't let it get to you like it did me and have the result I did. It feels good knowing I,m not the only one out here with this problem.