Hello people. I'm pregnant. I was a great student and had a lot of potential. Then, I did something one night. Well, I got a GED so I just signed the drop-out form. I'm 17 so I intend to give birth and care for my child/children for a year before going to a community college. I feel proud of myself for the decisions I made following my realization of pregnancy. My parents, my soon to be husband (yes, we do believe we are meant to be. But we plan on being engaged until we are both 18. Not for parental support, they'd sign the paper for our marriage, but so that we are sure this is a good decisions), and my best friend are supportive. Everyone else is harsh and judgmental. I am 10 weeks pregnant and am due in the beginning of April. I know I sound pathetic, but I just need some success stories, or people who can relate, or some support. Thank you!

If you're 10 weeks, I should imagine that you're due at the end of Jan... not April? Anyway, I truly believe a college education is overrated these days. I have a degree and tbh, it's not worth the paper it's written on even though it's a good one. I just don't seem to be getting anywhere with it and all the people I knew who dropped out of school at 16/18 are on around £30k a year. I'm scraping by with OH who went to uni too.

I'm not saying don't do it, I'm just saying that there's no guarantee you'd have been any more of a success going down that route either.

On another note, my mum fell pregnant with me at 17 and had me at 18. She's now a senior midwife and my dad who was 20 at the time is a senior analyst for a big company. They both do very well for themselves and managed to do it all while I was growing up and they were dirt poor for a good ten years. You can do it, for sure. If you're determined to be more, then you will be.

people shoudlnt be judmental

unfortunately, society is built on people being prejudice and judgmental. If they can judge you for it, they will. When i became pregnant, I was 18, had a good job, was moving on to a better one, had my own place, and was in the process of patching things up with my fiance after a rather harsh falling out. Everything was good. But when I told some of my friends, their reaction was horrible. My fiance's mother told him not to jump into marriage because it was something he'd regret (they don't know we're engaged... yet...). And she supposedly likes me, so i'd hate to think what she would have said if she didn't!

Also, my mum was married with 3 kids by the time she was 19. It ended in divorce, but she and my stepdad now own the theater in the town they live in, and have a small ranch in the making, so she obviously did something right.

In the end it comes down to you; as long as you're happy with your decisions, then f*ck the rest of the world. They don't have to live with your decisions; you do. If they want to judge you for being happy, that's their choice. Just enjoy it while you can, and don't let them get you down.

Best advice is to ignore them. Simple as that.

If worried about what people thought so much id never leave the house.

Have you been to the doctors hun?
Your probably due a bit earlier than April if your 10 weeks already. . . .

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ive had some pretty harsh things said to me after i found out i was pregnant.

a family friend told me that i was stupid for getting pregnant ( i didnt plan on getting pregnant .. it just happened) and told me to have an abortion .. that my child would be born a BAS*ARD and i wouldnt be with my boyfriend forever. that he'd leave me and sad horrible things about my baby. she then tried to shove her religion on me saying she was a child of god and that if i got an abortion god would forgive me.

people can be really stupid. i told her off and im now 20+5 .. me and OH are still together lol and were both very much in love and happy that were having a baby and starting our own little family. if i wouldve listened to her who knows what wouldve happened. you learn to ignore people like that. as long as your happy and you want the baby no one else or nothing that anyone else says will matter.

I think alot of the perceived judgemental attitudes are probably just concern for you. They are big decisions you are making and people close to you are bound to have some opinions about it.

Unlike FemmeEnceinte, I have found that I needed my degree in order to pursue what I wanted professionally - there were no two ways round that... So I guess the value of having a degree or not depends a bit on what you want to do proffessionally - what your aspirations are - and whether it is or isn't necessary in that regard. From what I gathered from your post - -you intend to go back to college anyway and this is really a question of postponing plans you had previously.... In which case have faith in yourself and you will get there. We can never please everybody (nor can we really prevent friends and family from having an opnion) - with time they will come to accept your decision.

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Hey hun At the end of the day its your body, your baby and your life! You know whats right for you and know one has the right to tell you your wrong for keeping your baby! your doing an amazing thing.
Most of the people who know have been very nice to me and are supporting me alot but the news accidently got out to one of my ex-boyfriends and he threatened to come down to my house the next day and kick the baby out of me and if i didnt do certain truly discusting things for him he would tell my parents (I hadnt told them at this point and the jokes on him cos they were really happy about the baby!) and it really really upset me how someone could be this evil and try and ruin it for me.
The fact is hun you just cant let anyone get to you no matter how horrible they are to you cos your going to have a little baby to protect soon and nothing else will matter in the whole world You show them what a good mother you are m'dear

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