Since being pregnant my boyfriend hasnt shown me a good time =/

Kerryyy · Jun 10th, 2009, 15:19 PM

Im only 17 but im 18 weeks pregnant, My boyfriends in his early 20's and hes really happy about the baby were going to have. We have our own place and i love spending time with him but Since finding out i was pregnant my boyfriend havent wanted to have sex with me. I have to literally beg him for it some nights.. Its not just the sex either, Its any sort of sexual contact that hes regecting.

I know some people dont like having sex while their pregnant but its usually not the men, Im afraid that he doesnt find me attractive anymore and that hes going off me. Now im getting abit of a bump maybe he doesnt look at me the same as what he use to. Before i was pregnant we were having sex every other day and enjoying it and now he doesnt wanna know. I ask him about it and he just says hes not in the mood and that its nothing to do with me. I know he loves me to bits and is really glad about the baby but why doesnt he wanna show me any affection?

babystar · Jun 10th, 2009, 15:24 PM

maybe he is worried he might hurt you or the bubs?? Hes mayb very nervous this being his 1st experience of it too?

Kerryyy · Jun 10th, 2009, 15:26 PM

Yeah i thought of that too, But hes soo glad about the baby and so eager to expierence it all that he's read all the baby books more than i have and he knows that it doesnt hurt or harm the baby. =(

Jade--x · Jun 10th, 2009, 15:39 PM

He might just not be comfortable knowing that babies in there? I know my friend said her OH wouldn't have sex with her when she was pregnant because he thought it was weird knowing that there was a baby and found it a bit freaky that he 'could be poking the baby'. I highly doubt it's him finding you unattractive hun. x

tasha41 · Jun 11th, 2009, 02:01 AM

A lot of guys are uncomfortable having sex, worried it will cause harm to the baby or miscarriage or that it will hurt you. Also if he's at all stressed out about how he'll provide for the baby, all the things you guys have to do in the next few months, etc.. that might be killing his sex drive!

hope he gives you some soon!!

Suz · Jun 11th, 2009, 02:04 AM

I agree with Jade. I know that my DH said if i was ever pregnant he would go the entire 9 months without sex because he wasnt going to do that knowing there was a baby there.

So I really would not worry that he does not find you unatractive or does not want you.

Kerryyy · Jun 11th, 2009, 03:42 AM

Yeah maybe, Its nice to know im not the only one going without.

Thanx girls

Jkelmum · Jun 11th, 2009, 03:47 AM

My hubby wont have sex while i am preggers dont worry men are strange creatures lmao x

moomin_troll · Jun 11th, 2009, 03:51 AM

a friend of mine didnt have sex at all thru her pregnacy her oh refused to go near her like that cuz he found it "weird" but hes a d*ck to her anyways so this put the icing on the cake.

But when i first found out i was pregnant my oh was alittle freaked out and didnt wana have sex most men actually think they will poke the baby haha as i got bigger i wanted sex less and he wanted it abit more after i explaned he wudnt be anywhere near the baby

pharrison87 · Jun 11th, 2009, 07:37 AM

I agree with the other girls.. men can have strange ways!! Maybe you could sit down and just say you want to undertsand how he is feeling as it is affecting you.

I'd by a vibrator to haha!

x

Jun 10th, 2009, 15:19 PM	#1
Kerryyy Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: UK, Bristol Posts: 19	Since being pregnant my boyfriend hasnt shown me a good time =/ Im only 17 but im 18 weeks pregnant, My boyfriends in his early 20's and hes really happy about the baby were going to have. We have our own place and i love spending time with him but Since finding out i was pregnant my boyfriend havent wanted to have sex with me. I have to literally beg him for it some nights.. Its not just the sex either, Its any sort of sexual contact that hes regecting. I know some people dont like having sex while their pregnant but its usually not the men, Im afraid that he doesnt find me attractive anymore and that hes going off me. Now im getting abit of a bump maybe he doesnt look at me the same as what he use to. Before i was pregnant we were having sex every other day and enjoying it and now he doesnt wanna know. I ask him about it and he just says hes not in the mood and that its nothing to do with me. I know he loves me to bits and is really glad about the baby but why doesnt he wanna show me any affection?

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Jun 10th, 2009, 15:24 PM	#2
babystar Pregnant (Expecting) Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 4,737	maybe he is worried he might hurt you or the bubs?? Hes mayb very nervous this being his 1st experience of it too?

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Jun 10th, 2009, 15:26 PM	#3
Kerryyy Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: UK, Bristol Posts: 19	Yeah i thought of that too, But hes soo glad about the baby and so eager to expierence it all that he's read all the baby books more than i have and he knows that it doesnt hurt or harm the baby. =(

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Jun 10th, 2009, 15:39 PM	#4
Jade--x Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Derby Posts: 667	He might just not be comfortable knowing that babies in there? I know my friend said her OH wouldn't have sex with her when she was pregnant because he thought it was weird knowing that there was a baby and found it a bit freaky that he 'could be poking the baby'. I highly doubt it's him finding you unattractive hun. x

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Jun 11th, 2009, 02:01 AM	#5
tasha41 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Hamilton, Canada Posts: 23,921	A lot of guys are uncomfortable having sex, worried it will cause harm to the baby or miscarriage or that it will hurt you. Also if he's at all stressed out about how he'll provide for the baby, all the things you guys have to do in the next few months, etc.. that might be killing his sex drive! hope he gives you some soon!!

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Suz Other BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Sacramento California Posts: 21,849	I agree with Jade. I know that my DH said if i was ever pregnant he would go the entire 9 months without sex because he wasnt going to do that knowing there was a baby there. So I really would not worry that he does not find you unatractive or does not want you.

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Jun 11th, 2009, 03:42 AM	#7
Kerryyy Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: UK, Bristol Posts: 19	Yeah maybe, Its nice to know im not the only one going without. Thanx girls

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Jun 11th, 2009, 03:47 AM	#8
Jkelmum Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: In my own bubble Posts: 17,574	My hubby wont have sex while i am preggers dont worry men are strange creatures lmao x

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Jun 11th, 2009, 03:51 AM	#9
moomin_troll Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: staffordshire Posts: 14,583	a friend of mine didnt have sex at all thru her pregnacy her oh refused to go near her like that cuz he found it "weird" but hes a d*ck to her anyways so this put the icing on the cake. But when i first found out i was pregnant my oh was alittle freaked out and didnt wana have sex most men actually think they will poke the baby haha as i got bigger i wanted sex less and he wanted it abit more after i explaned he wudnt be anywhere near the baby

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Jun 11th, 2009, 07:37 AM	#10
pharrison87 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: East Sussex Posts: 153	I agree with the other girls.. men can have strange ways!! Maybe you could sit down and just say you want to undertsand how he is feeling as it is affecting you. I'd by a vibrator to haha! x

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