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Old Jun 12th, 2009, 08:21 AM   #31
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i get the same wen i go and get kyra weighed i get the most evil looks but at the end of the day it dont matter wot age u r if u a good mum im 18 married n got me own place but they look at me like rubbish like there better cuz there older then me they think they can do it better xx


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Old Jun 12th, 2009, 08:27 AM   #32
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Maybe I'm ignorant but I'm 19 (look about 12) and have never noticed any looks or had anything said to me about my age so far. I'm sure they will when I have two!

The way I see it is, people who judge teenage mums say more about themselves than the person they're judging.


 
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Old Jun 12th, 2009, 18:01 PM   #33
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I haven't gotten too many looks or comments, though I look older then I am (I'm 19, but never get carded even without the baby, so I must look at least 21, and people seemed shocked if my age comes up, they always say I look older, whatever that means). One old lady noticed my wedding ring and ask if I was married, I said yes and she said "good. too many single young moms out there"


 
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Old Jun 13th, 2009, 00:16 AM   #34
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I don't get any looks or comments. None that I notice, anyways. I know people look when I'm running around after my 14 month old in the store with my big pregnant belly, but I don't even give them the time of day. My son is happy, healthy, and very much loved. So what if he was born when I was 16. We're all doing fine. Sure, we're getting government help now, but my goal is to be off of it within a year. I don't run around bragging about it, and it's certainly not the reason I got pregnant (both babies were unplanned). I don't think age should matter as long as the child is well taken care of. I know quite a few older mothers who should have never thought about having kids.


 
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Old Jun 14th, 2009, 06:24 AM   #35
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I don't think it's an age issue. I don't think anyone would have a problem with a responsible, well set up, attentive, financially independent mother, no matter what age - doesn't every good mum strive for those things as the ideal as we all want to be the very best moms and provide the absolute best start in life for our babies???


 
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Old Jun 14th, 2009, 07:54 AM   #36
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I dont notice looks much but there was one occasion that i did a lady who looked 25-30 gave me the dirtiest look ever she looked horified!! i think it's silly i know i'm a good mum my daughter comes first she has all her needs she's clean she's healthy and loved very much i would do anything for her and i dont drink i dont party actully i havnt gone out for nearly two years and honestly i would rather stay home with my little girl and be the best mother i can be. also i live with my mum and my fiancee i live with my mum because we have horses and it's to exspensive for mum or me and my partner to afford a `house with heaps of acreage so we all find this suitable also me and my mum are very close and i love being around her also she absolutly loves being a huge part of bubs life!! but i hate it when people like my old boss ask her are you doing much as if i cant look after my own child they have alot of judgment behind it to mum always says no my daughters a great mum i have never had to do anything exept give bub cuddles. but i do understand there are people that give us a bad name but they are of all ages my friend for instance does.


 
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Old Jun 14th, 2009, 12:12 PM   #37
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i also myself know alot of young mums who are terrible parents and on benifits just cuz they actualy cant be arsed to work. i was 29 wen i got pregnant and my oh was 22, we had our own place both had great jobs i was a administrator n hes in the army n yet ppl still looked at us like crap. we were then made homeless and council wouldnt even help us because the problem was we had full time jobs!

i didnt realise paying my taxs would ever be the problem.

we are now married and people seem more shocked im married at 21 then i have a baby alot of people i went to school with expected me to be a single mum not working like them or others from my year and are shocked when i tell them otherwise.

why is it so hard to believe a woman of 21 is married has a career and a baby?

I have the same problem. Was married at the age of 21, still happily married 3 years later and people don't seem to be able to get their heads round that fact. I'm always getting people saying 'aren't you a bit young to be married', most of them are divorced and just want to tell me what a waste of time marriage is. No doubt even at the age of 24, when I get PG people will have something to say about it. My mum was 18 when she was married and 19 when I was born and had none of these comments. People have become snobby and opinionated as well as cynical.


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Old Jun 14th, 2009, 14:55 PM   #38
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I'm 24 and even i have been getting some dodgy looks since i started showing.

I have noticed sly glances at my ring finger (bare) and it pisses me off that people think because OH and i have made the decision not to get married i will be somehow not as good a mother as others who are married. When i read through my maternity notes the day i was given them i got sooo angry and worked up that my midwife had put me in the category "Single- Supported" on my paperwork. In this day and age why the hell can't there be a "Living with Partner" category or something similar?! OH and i have been together almost five years but he isn't mentioned anywhere in my notes because we aren't married

I have the utmost respect for mums and mums-to-be whatever their age and personal circumstances, whether they are doing this in a couple or alone, but it annoys me that if you don't fit into a certain box then tough!

Sadly it seems a lot of people just aren't happy unless they've got someone to judge to make them feel superior and better about themselves. I guess you've just got to hold your head high and know that they don't know you and they don't know what they're talking about, but i do agree that it is infuriating!


 
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Old Jun 15th, 2009, 14:47 PM   #39
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I don't recall any comments or looks until my son got to school age, and then I definitely felt some of the teachers were looking down on me. On one occasion a snotty bitch teacher asked me during parents evening (after praising my son's school work) how often he saw his dad and went on to suggest the sort of things I should be putting in his lunchbox! I asked her if she made the same comments to the 30 something single mums and she went red. I'm the first to admit that I didn't enjoy being a young mum but my son was loved and looked after just as well as the next child (better in some cases). He is now 12 and very doing well, he hasn't died of malnutrition!

Another time I was refused entry to a graphic design course at the University of Gloucestershire because the course head felt I would drop out and waste a place - being a young mum and all, how could I possibly cope with a university course (his words). The portfolio I had spent months creating in anticipation of the interview was not even opened. I left in tears -- I should have got the ******* sacked but regrettably did nothing.

Grrrrrr!


 
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Old Jun 17th, 2009, 10:22 AM   #40
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I get looks all the time..usually women look at my belly then at me. They're not a bit shy about it either. Grr..I am perfectly entitled to start my family early if I want..these are the best years for havin babies...If I waited till mid 30s and then had difficulties I'd be devastated

Wish they'd mind their own business..I'm not gonna hide under tons of clothes just so they're happy.


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