hiya
im 17, 18 in jan
i just want some advice on whether im too young for a baby or not
im really mature and me and my partner have been together 4 years and we live togther im studying business and management and hes in full time work. i want to no if im too young to start ttc and whether any 1 has fitted college around a baby?
please can you reply i need some advice
hey
i found out i was pregnant at 17 (unplanned) i wouldnt say its something i would go advising people to go and do, even if they feel as though they are ready for such a huge commintment.
ive studied at college for 1st year of my course, but i realised i couldnt go back as was going to be way to much for me, as baby going be at age where going need me alot more and be demanding leaving no time for college work.
be honest, dont think it really matters much that boyfriend is in full time work, mine is aswell, and doesnt make matters any easier, in anyway.
personally, id say wait and do more things you want and spend and make most of the time with your boyfriend, youve got plenty of yearrs to become pregnant and start a family, doesnt have be at age of 17.
i didnt want to ask this question because i doubt myself just for a little advice on what it is to be a mum. i think the reason i want a child is because my mum walked out on us a few years ago and iv always known i would never be able to do that and i just want to be the best mum in the world
thank you for your comments, you have made me see that maybe waiting a bit will benefit me. maybe its selfish me wanting a baby at the moment, like im doing it more for myself. iv never wanted anythink more in my life and i no this sounds very imature and like im a silly kid but im really not. thanks for your advice it was luvly of u 2 reply
im just going to let nature runs its self and concentrate with college and gettin the good job im aiming for
thank u all so much xxxxxxxx
I don't think you are being selfish in wanting a baby, I think it is very understandable after hearing why hun. I think you are very wise with what you said. Get thru college, go out and enjoy life, do all the things that as a couple and no depedents you can enjoy, you will be pleased you did. And when you do get pregnant, I am sure you are going to be a great Mum!
I think you sound very mature, certainly not immature. To come here and ask this question was very brave, you are obviously thinking things through which is the right thing to do. Good luck with whatever you decide, and I am sure be it now or in the future you will make a wonderful Mummy.
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I think, everyone is different, and your experience will be souly yours!
So follow your heart dear!... because only you know whats best for you!
Just make sure, you've studied your pro's n con's as best you can....
in other words, do what you think is right to be prepared!
Good luck! and all the best! <3
Heya,
I don't really have much different to say than anyone else, but I just wanted to say hello
I don't think there's a 'too young' to have a baby but there definitely a time that you might be more financially stable and be able to give more of your time to a child, especially if u want to go to college. There's also a time that it'll probably be easier for you to have a child and go through everything that brings. Remember you have your whole life left to have lots of babies in if you want to!
I'm 17 and 14 weeks pregnant at the moment and I have to say even though my baby isn't here yet I'm already finding it difficult. I'm also fully aware that I won't be able to go out as much as my friends, will have to think about very different things and will have to be much more careful with money!
My pregnancy was an accident and although I've made the decision to have my baby, and now I'm really excited about meeting him/her, I wouldn't have chosen this to be the time to have my first child. But you can't plan life!
Hope everything goes well for you and you decide what's right for you.
Ellianna
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In all honesty, nobody can tell you if you're ready or not. If it's something you would seriously wish to do and if you think you are stable enough financially, emotionally and physically to care for a child, then really what have you got to lose?
There is plenty of time to get out and do things if that's what you want to do in life, because once you have a child those options are quite limited, but it all depends on what you REALLY TRULY want in life.
If travelling and such is what you really want i suggest you wait to have a baby. Only you know the answer to this question, but if you do choose to get pregnant I highly advise that you are 300% sure without a doubt in your mind.
It's the most wonderful feeling of all - bearing a new life.
I agree with the ladies that you still have years ahead of you, and it's great you are studying and working on a career. Although its not impossible to juggle college and a baby at the same time, it may not be what you think. My friend had her baby at 19 while on her 2nd year in college, her baby is now 7 months and she no longer attends school as she used to...she does all her courses online from home. It's not easy though, sometimes shes up till the middle of the night to get assignments done while juggling to feed baby every few hours. Also not having hands on help when she needs it, and disciplining herself to get work done on time. So yes, it is possible to juggle the two...but it may not be what you think.
Good luck to you sweetie. And if you really like kids, have you thought about working at or volunteering at a daycare? I'm currently putting in an application to work at a daycare/preschool...to fill my crave for kids lol
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