Teens TTC - Page 7

**Vickie** · Oct 24th, 2009, 18:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Sarah&Erimas

i think if your done school and are stable ttc but under 18 comon thats just ridiculous.

actually if you look at the forum policies and terms of service you will find that this forum does not support teens under the age of 18 TTC. And all threads pertaining that are locked as soon as they are found. So I don't really see how it should be an issue in this thread?

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Originally Posted by Blah11

Gah, I still think 18 and 19 is way too young to TTC

I also don't see how comments like this really relate to this thread? No one has asked for advice as far as I can see as to whether they should be TTC at 18 or 19 and really it's their own business if they are.

Come on everyone let's get this thread back on track

Pixxie · Oct 26th, 2009, 04:57 AM

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Originally Posted by nightkd

I was out of school and in a stable situation (financially etc) at age 17

I personally think it was beneficial for me to wait a couple of years, just saying it's not impossible for an under 18 to be in a stable situation. Of course BnB and this thread don't support under 18's TTC, just saying it is possible.

I'm a married woman, we have our own apartment, we're not reliant on anyone else for financial support and we can offer a happy and stable environment for a child. We don't smoke, rarely drink (DH doesn't like alcohol) and don't go out clubbing every night or anything like that!

I don't mean to generalise but some teens seem to think that because they fell pregnant at a young age and weren't prepared for it, that ALL teens are in the same or a similar position, iykwim?

What difference does it make if I'm 19 in this position or 25 in this position? Age bears no factor in how good a parent you're going to be, it's your maturity and how prepared your lifestyle/situation is to support a child.. I personally don't feel like I'm sacrificing much for a child, our lifestyle is already mostly prepared for it...a lot of 19/20 year olds I went to school with still go out every night getting drunk and pissing their money down the drain, I'm nothing like that and think it's very sad and a huge waste.

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See I think this is a perfect example for teens TTC! How many 19 year olds are married,financially stable, have their own place, finished education etc? Surely this position is what is considered 'ideal' if you are 25+ ? What Im getting at is people look down on younger people TTC before they get the full story! I understand that we get a lot of young girls under 18 on here saying they want a baby when they still live at home, it will disrupt their studies and are not financially stable and I agree they should definitely be discouraged from TTC. Dont get me wrong, im not saying you are a bad parent if you are in this situation yourself, in fact I think your amazingly brave for going though with it and not taking the easy way out but I am saying (as Im sure you will agree if you are in a situation like that) you should not plan to have a child in that kind of situation.

Would also like to point out that although I called the thread Teens TTC I am following BnB policy and am only referring to teens 18 and over

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XxkayleighxX · Oct 26th, 2009, 10:03 AM

i fink if u have a stable relationship, have u own house then y not try, for ppl that ttc wen they dont live 2gether i dont get, y wud u want 2 have a baby wen OH isnt there all the time?? living 2gether is such a strain on the relationship not alone a baby,

ive had my own house since i was 18 been wiv my bf 4 5yrs and 21 now and ive never been more ready i still worry about muni and that , the true is i fink if u look 4 reasons not 2 TTC u never will cuz i never fink there a perfect time 2 theres always sumfink

kit603 · Oct 26th, 2009, 11:45 AM

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Originally Posted by XxkayleighxX

i fink if u look 4 reasons not 2 TTC u never will cuz i never fink there a perfect time 2 theres always sumfink

I think you're right about that

For most people, there's never a 'right time' because something will always come up whether its a new job, lack of a job, lack of money etc My aunty has wanted to TTC since she was 20 and now, at 31, she's just found out that her husband has testicular cancer and that the treatment will leave him infertile... if only she'd tried 11 years earlier...

I don't ever want to be in the position where I look back at my life with regrets and have to think to myself "what if".

nightkd · Oct 26th, 2009, 15:07 PM

I agree with Kayleigh that I wouldn't want to TTC if I wasn't living with my partner yet! He put the bun in the oven, therefore he should share the responsibilities!! It just makes it way too easy for the guy to walk away, especially if you're not living together in the first place.

I also agree with Kit, I've had those niggling worries that I'm sure a lot of women have had, wondering if I'm CAPABLE of conceiving, I didn't want to wait 10 years and find out that I stopped ovulating 5 years ago. I think this is definitely something that is way too important to have regrets about missing out on...

for you all!!

xxx

kit603 · Oct 26th, 2009, 17:09 PM

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Originally Posted by nightkd

I agree with Kayleigh that I wouldn't want to TTC if I wasn't living with my partner yet! He put the bun in the oven, therefore he should share the responsibilities!! It just makes it way too easy for the guy to walk away, especially if you're not living together in the first place.

I also agree with Kit, I've had those niggling worries that I'm sure a lot of women have had, wondering if I'm CAPABLE of conceiving, I didn't want to wait 10 years and find out that I stopped ovulating 5 years ago. I think this is definitely something that is way too important to have regrets about missing out on...

for you all!!

xxx

I think you're right hun - it does make it harder for the guy to walk away if you're living together

Plus, I really want to be able to share the joys and the responsibilities with the FOB.

for you too hun

kit603 · Oct 27th, 2009, 09:52 AM

Hey ladies,

After realising that i'm not the only one who is feeling a little out of place here, I decided to go ahead and create a TTC team for us younger women, which can be found here.

NOTE: PEOPLE OVER THE AGE OF 18 ONLY PLEASE!

Pixxie · Oct 27th, 2009, 09:53 AM

woohoooo!

kit603 · Oct 27th, 2009, 10:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Pixxie

woohoooo!

Lmao!

nadupoi · Oct 27th, 2009, 12:51 PM

I want to jump in. LATE. But jumping in.

I'm 18. OH is 19. We're NOT TTC yet. But we do have plans to.

First he'd like to be married. Which we've been talking about engagement lately. Then, we want to travel around some. I'd like for him to meet my dad so that my father will know the boy I plan to marry and be the father of his grandchildren. Then, after sometime, we'd like to have a baby. I don't know how much time.... he said he'd just go for it one day.

The biggest thing holding us back is the fact that I'm in College right now and I'm living on campus. I'm obligated to live here until April or May.. whenever it is that school is over. So therefore, I cannot live with him until I get out of school this year. UGH. Therefore, probably no engagement either. Which makes sense. It's just seems a silly thing to have to wait for.

I already practically live with him when I can anyway. We live an hour away and I always spend my weekends at his house. I say I'm going 'home'... but his house IS my home. ((He has a 2 bedroom house with 2 friends. It's pretty nice and we hope for me to move in when I'm done with school))

Good luck to all of you laides TTC.

Oct 26th, 2009, 10:03 AM	#63
XxkayleighxX Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: cheshire Posts: 119	i fink if u have a stable relationship, have u own house then y not try, for ppl that ttc wen they dont live 2gether i dont get, y wud u want 2 have a baby wen OH isnt there all the time?? living 2gether is such a strain on the relationship not alone a baby, ive had my own house since i was 18 been wiv my bf 4 5yrs and 21 now and ive never been more ready i still worry about muni and that , the true is i fink if u look 4 reasons not 2 TTC u never will cuz i never fink there a perfect time 2 theres always sumfink

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Oct 26th, 2009, 15:07 PM	#65
nightkd Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: British Expat in USA Posts: 8,375	I agree with Kayleigh that I wouldn't want to TTC if I wasn't living with my partner yet! He put the bun in the oven, therefore he should share the responsibilities!! It just makes it way too easy for the guy to walk away, especially if you're not living together in the first place. I also agree with Kit, I've had those niggling worries that I'm sure a lot of women have had, wondering if I'm CAPABLE of conceiving, I didn't want to wait 10 years and find out that I stopped ovulating 5 years ago. I think this is definitely something that is way too important to have regrets about missing out on... for you all!! xxx

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Oct 27th, 2009, 09:52 AM	#67
kit603 Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Nottinghamshire Posts: 3,300	Hey ladies, After realising that i'm not the only one who is feeling a little out of place here, I decided to go ahead and create a TTC team for us younger women, which can be found here. NOTE: PEOPLE OVER THE AGE OF 18 ONLY PLEASE!

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Oct 27th, 2009, 09:53 AM	#68
Pixxie Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Salford, UK Posts: 6,685	woohoooo!

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Oct 27th, 2009, 12:51 PM	#70
nadupoi Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: USA Posts: 810	I want to jump in. LATE. But jumping in. I'm 18. OH is 19. We're NOT TTC yet. But we do have plans to. First he'd like to be married. Which we've been talking about engagement lately. Then, we want to travel around some. I'd like for him to meet my dad so that my father will know the boy I plan to marry and be the father of his grandchildren. Then, after sometime, we'd like to have a baby. I don't know how much time.... he said he'd just go for it one day. The biggest thing holding us back is the fact that I'm in College right now and I'm living on campus. I'm obligated to live here until April or May.. whenever it is that school is over. So therefore, I cannot live with him until I get out of school this year. UGH. Therefore, probably no engagement either. Which makes sense. It's just seems a silly thing to have to wait for. I already practically live with him when I can anyway. We live an hour away and I always spend my weekends at his house. I say I'm going 'home'... but his house IS my home. ((He has a 2 bedroom house with 2 friends. It's pretty nice and we hope for me to move in when I'm done with school)) Good luck to all of you laides TTC.

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