For some people 18/19 is too young i agree. But some people really are ready for it at that age. I mean ive been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years now, have been living together since 3 weeks after we met (not intentional it just happened lol) and we want to get married and be together for the rest of our lives. Were finacially (sp?) stable, have a 3 bed house...i dont think we could be more ready lol

I understand what your getting at though, most people our age are not it a situation like that and havnt thought it through properly xxx

Good luck TCC!

I'm not TCC for lots of reasons, but I'm as broody as ever! I want to finish college, get a good job, have holidays with my friends and find someone I want to be with. I have a six year old niece and both of my older sisters are trying for a baby after Christmas, so I'm happy with being an auntie at the minute.

I can understand where you're coming from but I really don't think its fair to judge our decisions. Everybody is different so whilst one 18/19 year old might not be ready to TTC others are more than ready and I feel I fall into the latter category. Indeed, some older mothers are neither ready nor capable... Age shouldn't be the determining factor.

Personally:

I got really good grades in both my GCSEs and A Levels and I completed my first year at university, which I also passed. I since decided that university wasn't for me and I am completing my degree through my local HE college part-time.

I've been working for at least 20 hours a week since I turned 16 and my partner has also been working since he was 16 and now works full-time. We're financially stable and not in receipt of any benefits - we're totally financially independent and receive nothing from our parents.

We've been together a couple of years, known each other since we were at school together and have been living together for 14 months. We now have a two bedroomed house to ourselves and we're getting married next year (if all goes to plan! Lol)

We don't drink, don't smoke, don't do drugs and our idea of 'fun' is usually cuddling up with a dvd () so we're really not going to miss out on anything.

Why should we not have a child together?

i think if your done school and are stable ttc but under 18 comon thats just ridiculous.

look been keeping quite for a while but there is a very fine line in the level of stupidity required to have a child that young planned, and by mistake.
yes mistakes happen whatever but tbh i dont think you're in a place to judge, how old were you?
contraception isn't a hard thing to get your head round.
sorry i just dont think judging other people is fair when you are in a similar situation yourself.
ok 13/14 yes thats ridiculous especially with the level of naivety a lot of them have about it, but if its well thought out and they are financially stable etc why not? its their life.

I'm stopping by for the first time. And wanted to put my 2 cents in. I have a lot of respect for the woman under 18 years of age with a child. If your willing to take on that huge responsibility and actually take care of your child Congrats and There is so many girls under age 18 that get pregnant and think there parents are going to take care of there baby or they have an abortion. But the girls on here with kids at that young age have really stepped up and gave there baby a chance at life. Good Job Ladies


Also a little background on me so i dont seem like a stranger. Im 19 DH is 22. We have been together for almost 8 years and have been engaged for 3 years. Due to my Death benifits (monthly money i recieve from my father passing) i cannot get married until im 22. I am 18 weeks pregnant with my 2nd baby. Miscarried my first in february. And i had to grow up at an early age so am way wise beyond my years ( so everyone tells me)

Anyways... please keep in mind age doesnt make a Great Mom. If your willing to take on all the responsibility ect and love your child more than anything... your already a wonderful Mom

Really? I've only just turned 20 and I'm TTC number 2

lol he wasent planned and btw im almost 18
but we are not talking about me. im talking about thise little girls out there that think they want a baby that young. they dont realize how hard it really is.

I was out of school and in a stable situation (financially etc) at age 17 I personally think it was beneficial for me to wait a couple of years, just saying it's not impossible for an under 18 to be in a stable situation. Of course BnB and this thread don't support under 18's TTC, just saying it is possible.

I'm a married woman, we have our own apartment, we're not reliant on anyone else for financial support and we can offer a happy and stable environment for a child. We don't smoke, rarely drink (DH doesn't like alcohol) and don't go out clubbing every night or anything like that!

I don't mean to generalise but some teens seem to think that because they fell pregnant at a young age and weren't prepared for it, that ALL teens are in the same or a similar position, iykwim?

What difference does it make if I'm 19 in this position or 25 in this position? Age bears no factor in how good a parent you're going to be, it's your maturity and how prepared your lifestyle/situation is to support a child.. I personally don't feel like I'm sacrificing much for a child, our lifestyle is already mostly prepared for it...a lot of 19/20 year olds I went to school with still go out every night getting drunk and pissing their money down the drain, I'm nothing like that and think it's very sad and a huge waste.

x

almost 18 so you're 17, so you had him when you were 16. nothing wrong with that but you're not far off those little girls yourself. neither am i, i know that. just... it isnt that different a situation.
and i know he wasnt planned but why should that make it any better? in my opinion its more irresponsible but maybe thats just me