My name's Aimee, I'm 19 years old and I'm almost 12 weeks pregnant.

I'm having some trouble with my boyfriend. When we first found out I was about 4 weeks pregnant and we couldn't have been happier, he was really supportive until about 3 weeks ago.

He's started to get really stressed and annoyed about the tiniest things. He's 22 years old and like I said I'm 19, I'm in 4,000 of debt from my previous relationship, I work 30 hours a week at a job that's very stressful and tiring.

I have alot on my mind without him shouting at me, calling me names and throwing things. All he can do is moan at how I'm tired all the time and how I'm moody and never want to do anything anymore. He doesn't understand when I try to explain to him that that's pregnancy.

We haven't moved out yet, we both still live at home but I have the support of my entire family and even his.

I want my baby to have it's Dad, but not if he's going to be on-off-on-off all the time. But most of all I miss my boyfriend.

Is this a permanent thing or is it just a phase?

I can't take the stress anymore and I don't know what to do.

x

Hiya Hun,

First of all congrats on ur pregnancy.

I was 19 when i fell preg and my OH was happy at first and then went off and stressy with me, he came round a bit when we moved out of his mums house bit then started going off again towards babies due date but a soon as the baby was born he has been the best dad i could have asked him to bE!

I'm not sure what it is but we have to remember this is a huge thing for a guy to get his head round and as nothing really changes for them til baby is born its hard for them to get excited about it, as they see it they just get a fat moody girlfriend which for them is no fun!!

U need to ask urself if u want to b in ur relationship or if ur staying with him for the baby? If u feel ur relationship is worth sticking out for do just that, he'll come round eventually but u have to realise it might not b completely until the baby is born. Remember a woman becomes a mother when she fall pregnant but i man doeant become a father til a baby is born.

Good luck with everything, feel free to PM me if u want to chat.

x

Thanks for that everyone. He's just being so out of order Like I haven't got enough on my mind already, he's just supposed to be the one person to support me no matter what you know? And it just feels like he's not looking at the big picture. He wants it to be the way it was where we mess around and play fight, he's ignorant to the fact that I feel like crap and I'm too tired to do that anymore.

Tell him how you feel & what's going through your mind but tell him if he's not gonna step up to his responsibilities that you don't want to be with him. You deserve better than that and so does your baby

Hi Hun, I am not sure what I would do, but didn't want to read and run!.

Best of Luck with whatever you choose!!

Thanks everybody.... I don't know men eh?

Firstly, Congrats on being pregnant
I would advise you to have a chat with him.. if he doesnt understand after that, that he needs to change.. then hun, you're soo much better off without him!

during the pregnancy, you're hormoes will be everywhere, but he needs to be there as a boyfriend, and a dad to be!

Sorry it's a bit short.. but ya know!!
Hope it goes well hun x x

My boyfriend is the same! He gets pissed off at me because I'm always too tired to do anything or I moan too much!

They know deep down it's because we're pregnant and we can't help it, but that doesn't stop it from annoying them! Just like we can't help being tired and moany, they can't help getting irritated by it!

I would suggest giving him some time to get his head around the idea, as it is a shock to anyone when they find out they're going to be a parent!

I hope things get better between you two soon and this is just a phase he's going through! xx

Thank you so much for your wonderful advice eveyrone. We've had a talk and got everything off our chests and It feels amazing that such a huge weight has lifted.

Thanks for your support and comments and good luck to you all