Told your parents yet? - Page 2

tasha41 · May 30th, 2009, 01:43 AM

I told my mum when I was about 10 weeks. I waited til my dad had gone away with my brother and my sister was out and I just sorta let it out. I cried, she hugged me. She told my dad when he came home the next day. My dad was upset, but neither of them ever yelled at me and they said they'd support my decision. They have been very supportive and adore their granddaughter but it was rough at first with my father, actually it still is sometimes, he always has something to say!

niki . · May 31st, 2009, 19:07 PM

im 16 and when i told my parents they were real happy as it will be there 1st grandchild

LilMama2be · Jun 2nd, 2009, 16:14 PM

I told them the day after I found out. Both my parents were mad, as I expected.
And yelled at me for a good 2 hours while watching me cry. I was about 4 weeks

Sally N Five · Jun 2nd, 2009, 18:15 PM

I think you should tell them soon, as they are going to be supporting it.

If they do decide they want nothing to do with it and you have to deal with your own mistake, you'll at least have a few month's warning.

My 15 year old friend got pregnant on purpose, waited 3 months to tell her parents, expecting "We'll help out", and they said if she's old enough to have a baby, she's old enough to support it by herself.
Wasn't what she was expecting at all, and it was a rude awakening when she realised that she wasn't old enough to have a kid after all.

I'm not trying to sound mean, I'm just throwing in a little alternative thinking.

Sarahkka · Jun 2nd, 2009, 21:07 PM

I know you are asking for stories from women your own age, but I thought I would offer a little food for thought. Maybe have a plan in place to show your mum right after you tell her so that she can see that you are taking responsibility for your decision and that you aren't just expecting her to support both you and a baby?
You could show her different programs for childcare, gov't support, etc that you have checked out and show her that you are asking for her support because you love her and want her to be part of this baby's life, not because you need someone to foot the bill, if you know what I mean?
That might make her feel a lot better about the shock of it because she will see how mature you've already been about it, you know?
Good luck with everything!

carla15x · Jun 3rd, 2009, 04:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Sarahkka

I know you are asking for stories from women your own age, but I thought I would offer a little food for thought. Maybe have a plan in place to show your mum right after you tell her so that she can see that you are taking responsibility for your decision and that you aren't just expecting her to support both you and a baby?
You could show her different programs for childcare, gov't support, etc that you have checked out and show her that you are asking for her support because you love her and want her to be part of this baby's life, not because you need someone to foot the bill, if you know what I mean?
That might make her feel a lot better about the shock of it because she will see how mature you've already been about it, you know?
Good luck with everything!

I think this is very good advice = ]

xx

jen1604 · Jun 3rd, 2009, 04:26 AM

I told my parents when I was 12 weeks pregnant.So after my dating scan.
Its a bit of a different situation to most though because I live 3 hours away from them and I was living with OH and had a good job,etc.
My mum was angry and dissapointed but then she doesnt like kids and thinks she is too young to be a grandma,etc.She's come round now though.
My dad & stepmum said "are you happy?" and when I told them how happy I was (Ophelia was planned) they were thrilled for me.They love her to pieces.
Also,OH's parents were thrilled too,especially when they found out I was having a girl at 20 weeks as they had 2 grandsons and my MIL really wanted a little girl to spoil!
I hope it all goes well telling your mum

Good luck
x

katieeandbump · Jun 4th, 2009, 05:18 AM

hiya hun

well i was planning on not telling my mum until my 12 week scan and show her the picture! but i was soo excited i couldnt hold it in! i showed her my tests and yes the worst happend she cried

but i told her how happy i was and she knows howmuch my bf loves me .. shes still not fond of the idea but im sure nearer the birth she will be happy! ive told all my familynow and allll my friends

i feel so much for doing it i can relax and concentrate on the baby now

sure people have bad things to say but oh well brought me andmy bf even closer haha

good luck hunni the sooner the better and u will feel a weight off ur chest when its done ! xxx

loz · Jun 4th, 2009, 19:28 PM

im 24 now but when i was pregnant at 18 with my daughter i did not tell my mum and dad, my gran found out from my hairdresser who was boss to my bestfriend and she told them. i was 5 months gone! my mum was very upset and dad was suprisingly chilled but i could tell he was gutted. mum later said she was not upset so much about the pregnancy but the fact i had to go through half my pregnancy with out her support and she was upset that i felt i couldnt tell them. i was scared they would try and persuade me into a abortion. my parents wanted me to go to university, get married etc before babies so i was really scared of there reaction. was quite scared to tell them i was expecting again this time but they where happy about it. think anyone scared about how there parents will react and try hiding it will be very suprised at the outcome. its understandabl that they will be dissapointed/angry but they will come around, especially when they have there grandchild

xo.Fran.xo · Jun 5th, 2009, 17:55 PM

heya hun (:
im 16 and i found out about 3 weeks ago i was pregnant
and tbh for some reason i really needed to tel me my mum straight away
one of the scariest things ever has to be said!
i text her saying i needed to speak to her and can she come home after work instead of going out and she raung me back straight away and guesed
they were both very dissapointed and really upset and wanted me to conside abortion.but when they accepeted i wanted to keep it they've been helpful since.
i undeetsand they are still in shock and upset
but i know iv got there support and im sure you will be the same!
good luck and conggratz

x

May 30th, 2009, 01:43 AM	#11
tasha41 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Hamilton, Canada Posts: 23,921	I told my mum when I was about 10 weeks. I waited til my dad had gone away with my brother and my sister was out and I just sorta let it out. I cried, she hugged me. She told my dad when he came home the next day. My dad was upset, but neither of them ever yelled at me and they said they'd support my decision. They have been very supportive and adore their granddaughter but it was rough at first with my father, actually it still is sometimes, he always has something to say!

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May 31st, 2009, 19:07 PM	#12
niki . Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Wolverhampton Posts: 68	im 16 and when i told my parents they were real happy as it will be there 1st grandchild

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Jun 2nd, 2009, 16:14 PM	#13
LilMama2be Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Oregon Posts: 647	I told them the day after I found out. Both my parents were mad, as I expected. And yelled at me for a good 2 hours while watching me cry. I was about 4 weeks

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Jun 2nd, 2009, 18:15 PM	#14
Sally N Five Mum (Mom) New BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Australia Posts: 9	I think you should tell them soon, as they are going to be supporting it. If they do decide they want nothing to do with it and you have to deal with your own mistake, you'll at least have a few month's warning. My 15 year old friend got pregnant on purpose, waited 3 months to tell her parents, expecting "We'll help out", and they said if she's old enough to have a baby, she's old enough to support it by herself. Wasn't what she was expecting at all, and it was a rude awakening when she realised that she wasn't old enough to have a kid after all. I'm not trying to sound mean, I'm just throwing in a little alternative thinking.

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Jun 2nd, 2009, 21:07 PM	#15
Sarahkka Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Alberta, Canada Posts: 8,748	I know you are asking for stories from women your own age, but I thought I would offer a little food for thought. Maybe have a plan in place to show your mum right after you tell her so that she can see that you are taking responsibility for your decision and that you aren't just expecting her to support both you and a baby? You could show her different programs for childcare, gov't support, etc that you have checked out and show her that you are asking for her support because you love her and want her to be part of this baby's life, not because you need someone to foot the bill, if you know what I mean? That might make her feel a lot better about the shock of it because she will see how mature you've already been about it, you know? Good luck with everything!

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Jun 3rd, 2009, 04:26 AM	#17
jen1604 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Devon Posts: 7,503	I told my parents when I was 12 weeks pregnant.So after my dating scan. Its a bit of a different situation to most though because I live 3 hours away from them and I was living with OH and had a good job,etc. My mum was angry and dissapointed but then she doesnt like kids and thinks she is too young to be a grandma,etc.She's come round now though. My dad & stepmum said "are you happy?" and when I told them how happy I was (Ophelia was planned) they were thrilled for me.They love her to pieces. Also,OH's parents were thrilled too,especially when they found out I was having a girl at 20 weeks as they had 2 grandsons and my MIL really wanted a little girl to spoil! I hope it all goes well telling your mum Good luck x

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Jun 4th, 2009, 05:18 AM	#18
katieeandbump Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 1,428	hiya hun well i was planning on not telling my mum until my 12 week scan and show her the picture! but i was soo excited i couldnt hold it in! i showed her my tests and yes the worst happend she cried but i told her how happy i was and she knows howmuch my bf loves me .. shes still not fond of the idea but im sure nearer the birth she will be happy! ive told all my familynow and allll my friends i feel so much for doing it i can relax and concentrate on the baby now sure people have bad things to say but oh well brought me andmy bf even closer haha good luck hunni the sooner the better and u will feel a weight off ur chest when its done ! xxx

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Jun 4th, 2009, 19:28 PM	#19
loz Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: manchester Posts: 4,685	im 24 now but when i was pregnant at 18 with my daughter i did not tell my mum and dad, my gran found out from my hairdresser who was boss to my bestfriend and she told them. i was 5 months gone! my mum was very upset and dad was suprisingly chilled but i could tell he was gutted. mum later said she was not upset so much about the pregnancy but the fact i had to go through half my pregnancy with out her support and she was upset that i felt i couldnt tell them. i was scared they would try and persuade me into a abortion. my parents wanted me to go to university, get married etc before babies so i was really scared of there reaction. was quite scared to tell them i was expecting again this time but they where happy about it. think anyone scared about how there parents will react and try hiding it will be very suprised at the outcome. its understandabl that they will be dissapointed/angry but they will come around, especially when they have there grandchild

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Jun 5th, 2009, 17:55 PM	#20
xo.Fran.xo Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Wales ! <3 xo. Posts: 25	heya hun (: im 16 and i found out about 3 weeks ago i was pregnant and tbh for some reason i really needed to tel me my mum straight away one of the scariest things ever has to be said! i text her saying i needed to speak to her and can she come home after work instead of going out and she raung me back straight away and guesed they were both very dissapointed and really upset and wanted me to conside abortion.but when they accepeted i wanted to keep it they've been helpful since. i undeetsand they are still in shock and upset but i know iv got there support and im sure you will be the same! good luck and conggratzx

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