And you guys are officially the first to know..

I guess I should say hi first, I'm Aimee, I'm 18, I've just finished my first year of a four year medical degree and I found out yesterday that I'm eight weeks pregnant.

Did everyone else feel this scared when they found out?

I don't want a baby, I really don't. I'm in no position to support a child, neither is my boyfriend, I want to finish my degree, I want to do so many things...
But I'm scared that if I have an abortion I'll regret it, or that me and my boyfriend won't be able to get over it and we'll split up.

Sorry, I just needed to tell someone.

Aimee, I'm 19, half way through university, and I also just found out that I'm pregnant.
I scared beyond belief, but I guess that's perfectly natural.

I don't want a baby either. I'm in no position to support a child (obviously, I'm in school...and I've never had a job since my parents are supporting me throughout my schooling).

You haven't told your boyfriend yet? I just told mine today. Like you, everyone on this forum were the first people to know. It was too difficult for me to even imagine telling anyone I know in real life. It was a huge relief to tell me boyfriend, even if he didn't take it all that well. I haven't told anyone else yet, and I don't know how I'll tell my parents. I'm sorry that I'm not much help, but you definitely aren't alone.

Hey girls, Most of the girls in the forum have been through what ur going through now (me included) and will b happy to chat at any time.

Just what ever ur decision make sure u make it for the right reason for u and not for what someone else whats to do. Try and think long term about ur decision and get some professional health if u feel u need it just for someone to talk things through with.

I am half way thru uni when i feel PG and i felt like there was so much i still wanted to do but i choose my chioce and took my life down another path and now i havent looked back - however i dont believe in regrets cs theyt are a waste of time.

I'm here if u need to have a rant or whatever feel free to PM me.

x

I agree with Panda_Ally. While I really don't want to have a baby right now and I don't really know what I'm going to do yet, it's not a good idea to rush into anything. I don't think I could have an abortion, but every option crossed my min. It's your choice, whatever you do, but it might be a good idea to tell your boyfriend, parents, or someone close to you before you make any final decisions. I feel a lot better after telling just one person.

Thank you so much, honestly it means so much to me just to have told some people, even if it's online. I know I'll probably have to tell the people I know at some point but it really helped just to be able to say it and not have to worry about who I was telling.

I haven't told my boyfriend yet, he's coming up to his final year of his degree and I know this might sound really stupid but I feel like I'm messing things up for him. I know it's both of our responsibility etc but I feel like it's my problem and I need to sort it out

I just never thought it would happen to me, I know that everyone probably thinks that but I really didn't. I was on the pill and took it every single time but somehow, it's still happened. Doesn't really feel real to me yet though...

Yeah, it really helped me to tell people here, even though it was just online. I hadn't told anyone, even written it. Just typing it out and getting used to saying it made me feel a tiny bit better. I don't know about you, but I wanted to deny it, to lie to myself about it.

I know a lot of people will say you boyfriend is just as responsible as you, which is true. He should know about it. Your life will be just as "messed up" as his, if not more. Yet, I completely understand the way you feel. It's why I didn't want to tell my boyfriend either. He's almost done with school. He's also having a rough time with some things right now, so I felt this would only add to the burden. Yet, I knew he had to know about it. You should tell your boyfriend because 1) he deserve to know and 2) you shouldn't have to deal with this alone. It is his "problem" too.

I also can't believe that I'm pregnant. I've said this many times on this forum already, but I was the "perfect one." Nobody else ever expected this to happen to me either. I can't get my head around it really. We were asking for it though. We used bc nearly every single time, but sometimes things just happen. I'm sorry this is happening to you, but I definitely feel your pain.

P.S. I don't mean to take over your thread with my own story. You are just describing many of the feelings I have or did have just a few days ago!

Aww no, I'm not glad that you're going through all of this at all, but it's good to know that someone else is and I'm not alone!

All I want to do is forget about and just not think about it at all, but I know that I can't do that. I know it's wrong but I kinda think that maybe it would be easier if I just didn't tell him and had an abortion? I know it sounds really bad but I know that I'm not ready for a baby and I don't think he is either.

I did all my exams and worked so hard to get where I am today, I feel like a baby would just mess everything up. That probably sounds really bad I know but it's how I feel, at 18 I just feel way too young to be a mum!

Marian, if you don't mind me asking, how did you make the decision? Really sorry if that's too personal and if you don't wanna say then that's fine. I'm just wondering because I have no idea where to start...!

I can't imagine how you must be feeling. I know that there are a lot of girls on this forum who know what it's like to be in your situation and what they were feeling when they found out.

Best of luck to you!

I want to forget about it too. I just found out about 4 days ago. I understand not wanting to tell you boyfriend, or anyone, and just having an abortion. Believe me, I wish there was a quick and easy way to get rid of this problem and not have anyone else find out! In the end, it is your decision.

I have perfect grades and am likely going to get out of school early because of it. I've worked very hard. This is definitely going to set me back. It doesn't sound bad at all, at least not to me. I feel bad complaining about it sometimes, especially when I see tons of people here who have been trying to conceive for quite a while. Yet, that doesn't change our situations or how inconvenient this is for us.

Well, I'm not saying I've made a final decision yet. I just don't think I could ever have an abortion. I've just read too many stories of women regretting it. I'm also scared of some of the complications. Most of all, I don't think this potential person (the baby) should have to suffer just because it's inconvenient for me now. It might not be a fully formed person now, but I feel that it is a life and it definitely is a person in the making. I can't deny it life, really. I'd just feel too guilty. It's really just a personal thing, so it probably won't help you in your decision making.

Also, I think you should tell your boyfriend, even if you do decide to get an abortion. You don't have to, but I would advise it. You said you worried about this whole thing hurting your relationship. Well, what if he finds out later that you had an abortion? I don't know, for me I don't think I could make this decision alone, you might feel differently. I also think talking to someone else that is directly involved can help you sort through you feelings.

You can pm me anytime if you want to talk, especially if it's something personal you don't want to share with everyone.

x Marian